سنن نسائي
Nasai
كتاب النكاحThe Book of Marriage
بَابُ : الْقِسْطِ فِي الأَصْدِقَةِChapter: Fairness In Giving Dowries
Hadith 3351
اُردوEn
أَخْبَرَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ حُجْرِ بْنِ إِيَاسِ بْنِ مُقَاتِلِ بْنِ مُشَمْرِخِ بْنِ خَالِدٍ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيل بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ ، وَابْنِ عَوْنٍ ، وسلمة بن علقمة ، وهشام بن حسان ، دخل حديث بعضهم في بعض ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِيرِينَ ، قَالَ سَلَمَةُ : عَنْ ابْنِ سِيرِينَ نُبِّئْتُ , عَنْ أَبِي الْعَجْفَاءِ ، وَقَالَ الْآخَرُونَ : عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِيرِينَ ، عَنْ أَبِي الْعَجْفَاءِ ، قَالَ : قَالَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ : " أَلَا لَا تَغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ ، فَإِنَّهُ لَوْ كَانَ مَكْرُمَةً وَفِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ تَقْوَى عِنْدَ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ ، كَانَ أَوْلَاكُمْ بِهِ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، مَا أَصْدَقَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ ، وَلَا أُصْدِقَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ أَكْثَرَ مِنْ ثِنْتَيْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً ، وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُغْلِي بِصَدُقَةِ امْرَأَتِهِ حَتَّى يَكُونَ لَهَا عَدَاوَةٌ فِي نَفْسِهِ ، وَحَتَّى يَقُولَ : كُلِّفْتُ لَكُمْ عِلْقَ الْقِرْبَةِ وَكُنْتُ غُلَامًا عَرَبِيًّا مُوَلَّدًا ، فَلَمْ أَدْرِ مَا عِلْقُ الْقِرْبَةِ ، قَالَ : وَأُخْرَى يَقُولُونَهَا لِمَنْ قُتِلَ فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ أَوْ مَاتَ قُتِلَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا أَوْ مَاتَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ عَجُزَ دَابَّتِهِ أَوْ دَفَّ رَاحِلَتِهِ ذَهَبًا أَوْ وَرِقًا يَطْلُبُ التِّجَارَةَ فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَاكُمْ وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ، أَوْ مَاتَ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ " .
´It was narrated that Abu Al-'Ajfa' said:` "Umar bin Al-Khattab said: 'Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honor and dignity in this world, or a sign of piety before Allah, the Mighty and Sublime, then Muhammad would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve Uqiyyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says: You cost me everything I own ('Alaqul-Qirbah)'" "And I was a man born among the 'Arabs, but I did not know the meaning of 'Alaqul-Qirbah' and others of you are saying -about those killed in this or that battle of yours, or who died: 'So-and-so was martyred' or 'so and so died as a martyr.' While perhaps he merely overloaded the backside of his beast, or lined his saddle with gold or silver seeking trade. So do not say that, rather say as the Prophet said: 'Whoever is killed in the cause of Allah, or dies, then he is in Paradise.'"
Explanation & Benefits
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
(1) "Do not exceed the limits": Umar radi Allahu anhu did not prohibit a high bridal gift (mahr), but rather forbade setting it beyond one's means. This is indicated by the subsequent words.
(2) "Twelve": What is meant is actually twelve and a half, as has been mentioned in another hadith, but here the fraction has been omitted. See: (Sahih Muslim, Kitab al-Nikah, Hadith: 1426)
(3) "The rope of the waterskin": A waterskin is generally lifted with the help of a rope, to the extent that the marks of this rope appear on the body. The intent is to say, "Because of you, I have had to endure much humiliation and great hardship." This is an idiomatic expression.
(4) "It may be": That is, it is not necessary that everyone killed or who dies on the battlefield is a martyr (shaheed), because martyrdom depends on intention. And intentions are known only to Allah Ta'ala; therefore, do not declare anyone specifically as a martyr or destined for Paradise, but rather state the general principle that whoever is killed in the path of Allah is a martyr and destined for Paradise.
(2) "Twelve": What is meant is actually twelve and a half, as has been mentioned in another hadith, but here the fraction has been omitted. See: (Sahih Muslim, Kitab al-Nikah, Hadith: 1426)
(3) "The rope of the waterskin": A waterskin is generally lifted with the help of a rope, to the extent that the marks of this rope appear on the body. The intent is to say, "Because of you, I have had to endure much humiliation and great hardship." This is an idiomatic expression.
(4) "It may be": That is, it is not necessary that everyone killed or who dies on the battlefield is a martyr (shaheed), because martyrdom depends on intention. And intentions are known only to Allah Ta'ala; therefore, do not declare anyone specifically as a martyr or destined for Paradise, but rather state the general principle that whoever is killed in the path of Allah is a martyr and destined for Paradise.
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 3351
