سنن نسائي
Nasai
كتاب النكاحThe Book of Marriage
بَابُ : الْخِطْبَةِ فِي النِّكَاحِChapter: Proposal of Marriage
Hadith 3239
اُردوEn
أَخْبَرَنِي عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سَلَّامٍ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنِي عَبْدُ الصَّمَدِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْوَارِثِ ، قَالَ : سَمِعْتُ أَبِي ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا حُسَيْنٌ الْمُعَلِّمُ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنِي عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ بُرَيْدَةَ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنِي عَامِرُ بْنُ شَرَاحِيلَ الشَّعْبِيُّ ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ وَكَانَتْ مِنْ الْمُهَاجِرَاتِ الْأُوَلِ ، قَالَتْ : خَطَبَنِي عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ عَوْفٍ فِي نَفَرٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَخَطَبَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى مَوْلَاهُ أُسَامَةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ ، وَقَدْ كُنْتُ حُدِّثْتُ , أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، قَالَ : " مَنْ أَحَبَّنِي فَلْيُحِبَّ أُسَامَةَ " ، فَلَمَّا كَلَّمَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قُلْتُ : أَمْرِي بِيَدِكَ ، فَانْكِحْنِي مَنْ شِئْتَ ، فَقَالَ : " انْطَلِقِي إِلَى أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ " , وَأُمُّ شَرِيكٍ امْرَأَةٌ غَنِيَّةٌ مِنْ الْأَنْصَارِ عَظِيمَةُ النَّفَقَةِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يَنْزِلُ عَلَيْهَا الضِّيفَانُ ، فَقُلْتُ : سَأَفْعَلُ ، قَالَ : " لَا تَفْعَلِي ، فَإِنَّ أُمَّ شَرِيكٍ كَثِيرَةُ الضِّيفَانِ ، فَإِنِّي أَكْرَهُ أَنْ يَسْقُطَ عَنْكِ خِمَارُكِ ، أَوْ يَنْكَشِفَ الثَّوْبُ عَنْ سَاقَيْكِ ، فَيَرَى الْقَوْمُ مِنْكِ بَعْضَ مَا تَكْرَهِينَ ، وَلَكِنْ انْتَقِلِي إِلَى ابْنِ عَمِّكِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ ، وَهُوَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ بَنِي فِهْرٍ " , فَانْتَقَلْتُ إِلَيْهِ " , مُخْتَصَرٌ .
´Narrated 'Amir bin Shurahbil Ash-Sha'bi:` 'Amir bin Shurahbil Ash-Sha'bi narrated that he heard Fatimah bint Qais--who was one of the first Muhajir women-- say: 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Awf proposed marriage to me, along with others of the Companions of Muhammad. And the Messenger of Allah proposed that I marry his freed slave, Usamah bin Zaid. I was told that the Messenger of Allah had said: 'Whoever loves me, let him love Usamah.' When the Messenger of Allah spoke to me I said: 'My affairs are in your hands; marry me to whomever you wish.' He said: 'Go to Umm Sharik.' Umm Sharik was a rich Ansari woman who used to spend a great deal in the cause of Allah, and she always had a lot of guests. I said: 'I will do that.' He said: 'Do not do that, for Umm Sharik has a lot of guests, and I would not like your Khimar to fall off, or your shins to become uncovered, and the people to see something of you that you do not want them to see. Rather go to your cousin (son of your paternal uncle) 'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Umm Maktum, who is a man of Banu Fihr.' So I went to him."
Explanation & Benefits
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
(1) Sending a marriage proposal is not something blameworthy, nor should anyone be upset about it. How can something be attained unless it is sought? However, the proposal should be sent to the woman's guardian (wali). A proposal can be sent directly to a widow as well; she will respond after consulting her guardians. Fatimah bint Qays radi Allahu anha had received her final divorce and her waiting period (‘iddah) had ended. During the ‘iddah, sending a marriage proposal is prohibited. There is a difference in the sequence of the hadith.
(2) “Wealthy woman” is the translation of ghaniyyah. In some manuscripts, the word ‘atiyyah appears, meaning she was an elderly woman. This meaning is also correct. That is why strange guests would come and stand by her, and she would feed them.
(2) “Wealthy woman” is the translation of ghaniyyah. In some manuscripts, the word ‘atiyyah appears, meaning she was an elderly woman. This meaning is also correct. That is why strange guests would come and stand by her, and she would feed them.
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 3239
