´'Abdur-Rahman bin Hurmuz Al-A'raj said:` "Na'im the freed slave of Umm Salamah narrated to me that Umm Salamah was asked: 'Can a woman perform Ghusl with a man?' She said: 'Yes, if she is well-mannered.[1] I remember the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and I performing Ghusl from a single wash tub. We would pour water on our hands until they were clean then pour water over them.'" Al-A'raj said: "Not mentioning the private area not paying attention to it." [1] Kaiysah:" Well-mannered when using the water with the man" (An-Nihayah) And the comments by Al-A'raj after the narration refer to its meaning.
Explanation & Benefits
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
238. Commentary: The narrator of the hadith, A‘raj, is in fact explaining the statement of Umm Salamah radi Allahu anha regarding the meaning of “intelligent,” that is, a woman should not pay attention to the private part of the man at the time of ritual bath (ghusl), and she should not act foolishly while taking water and pouring it over the body, meaning she should protect the water in the vessel from splashes, etc.
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 238