مسند اسحاق بن راهويه
Musnad Ishaq
كتاب النكاح و الطلاقBook of Marriage and Divorce
Residence and maintenance for a woman after irrevocable divorce
Hadith 630
حَدَّثَنَا يَعْلَى , أنا عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ قَالَتْ: كُنْتُ عِنْدَ رَجُلٍ مِنْ بَنِي مَخْزُومٍ وَطَلَّقَنِي الْبَتَّةَ، فَأَرْسَلْتُ إِلَى أَهْلِهِ أَبْتَغِي النَّفَقَةَ، فَقَالُوا: لَا نَفَقَةَ لَكِ عَلَيْنَا، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((لَا نَفَقَةَ لَكِ عَلَيْهِمْ، وَعَلَيْكِ الْعِدَّةُ، فَانْتَقِلِي إِلَى أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ وَلَا تُفَوِّتِينَا بِنَفْسِكِ)) ، ثُمَّ قَالَ: ((إِنَّ أُمَّ شَرِيكٍ يَدْخُلُ عَلَيْهَا إِخْوَانُهَا مِنَ الْمُهَاجِرِينِ الْأَوَّلِينَ، فَانْتَقِلِي إِلَى ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ فَإِنَّهُ قَدْ ذَهَبَ بَصَرُهُ، فَإِذَا وَضَعْتِ ثِيَابَكِ لَمْ يَرَ مِنْكِ شَيْئًا، وَلَا تُفَوِّتِينَا بِنَفْسِكِ)) ، قَالَتْ: فَلَمَّا حَلَلْتُ خَطَبَنِي مُعَاوِيَةُ بْنُ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ وَأَبُوجَهْمٍ الْعَدَوِيُّ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((أَمَا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَعَايِلُ لَا شَيْءَ لَهُ، وَأَمَّا أَبُو جَهْمٍ فَلَا يَضَعُ عَصَاهُ عَنْ عَاتِقِهِ، فَأَيْنَ أَنْتُمْ مِنْ أُسَامَةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ)) ، وَكَانَ أَهْلُهَا كَرِهُوا ذَلِكَ، فَقَالَتْ: لَا أَنْكَحُ إِلَّا الَّذِي دَعَانِي إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَنَكَحْتُ أُسَامَةَ بْنَ زَيْدٍ.
Lady Fatimah bint Qais (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated: I was the wife of a man from the Banu Makhzum tribe, and he gave me an irrevocable divorce. I sent a message to his family and demanded maintenance from them, but they said: “You have no maintenance due from us.” The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “There is no maintenance due to you from them, and you must observe the waiting period (‘iddah). Go to the house of Umm Sharik, and do not neglect to inform us when you make a decision regarding yourself.” Then he said: “At Umm Sharik’s house, the early emigrant Muslim brothers come and go. Go to the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, for he is a blind man; even if you take off your clothes, he will not see anything of you. And do not neglect to inform us when you make a decision regarding yourself.” She (Fatimah bint Qais, may Allah be pleased with her) said: Muawiyah bin Abi Sufyan and Abu Jahm al-Adawi (may Allah be pleased with them) both sent me marriage proposals. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “As for Muawiyah, he is a poor man and has nothing. As for Abu Jahm, he never puts his stick down from his shoulder (he is harsh-tempered). What do you think about Usamah bin Zaid (may Allah be pleased with him)?” Her family did not like him, but she said: “I will marry the one to whom the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) has invited me.” So I married Usamah bin Zaid (may Allah be pleased with him).
Explanation & Benefits
Hafiz Abdush Shakoor Tirmidhi
Benefits:
It is understood that when a person seeks advice regarding marrying someone, entrusting something, entering into a partnership, choosing a neighbor, engaging in business, or any other matter, then one should state the facts truthfully; this is not backbiting (ghibah). (Because there are some permissible forms of backbiting, such as giving sincere advice to someone, supporting an oppressed person, etc.)
From the aforementioned hadith, it is established that Sayyidah Fatimah radi Allahu anha possessed a spirit of obedience to the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she considered the preference of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as her own preference. A Muslim should also possess this quality: when, on one side, there is the love and preference of parents, relatives, and family, and on the other side, there is the preference of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then the preference of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam should be given precedence.
It is understood that when a person seeks advice regarding marrying someone, entrusting something, entering into a partnership, choosing a neighbor, engaging in business, or any other matter, then one should state the facts truthfully; this is not backbiting (ghibah). (Because there are some permissible forms of backbiting, such as giving sincere advice to someone, supporting an oppressed person, etc.)
From the aforementioned hadith, it is established that Sayyidah Fatimah radi Allahu anha possessed a spirit of obedience to the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she considered the preference of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as her own preference. A Muslim should also possess this quality: when, on one side, there is the love and preference of parents, relatives, and family, and on the other side, there is the preference of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then the preference of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam should be given precedence.
Source: Musnad Ishaq bin Rahwayh, Page: 630
