It is narrated from Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) that he said: "The one who takes an oath of *ila* is he who swears never to approach his wife forever."
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1223
Hadith Takhrijصحيح اخرجه البيهقي: 380/2 - وفي المعرفة السنن والآثار له (4522) - وعبد الرزاق (11608)۔
It is narrated from Sulaiman bin Yasar (may Allah have mercy on him) that I saw more than ten companions of the Prophet ﷺ who would stop a person who had taken an oath of abstinence (ila) and ask him (to either reconcile or divorce). Imam Shafi’i (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The minimum number for (bidh’atu ‘ashar) is thirteen, and he also said that they were the Ansar companions (may Allah be pleased with them).
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1224
Hadith Takhrijاسناده صحیح اخرجه البيهقي : 7 / 376 - وفي المعرفة السنن والآثار له (4513) والبغوى في شرح السنة (2363) وابن ابي شيبة (18558)۔
It is narrated from Sulaiman bin Yasar, may Allah have mercy on him, that he stated: I found more than ten companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, all of them would make the one who took an oath of abstinence stand and ask him (about divorce or reconciliation).
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1225
Amr bin Salamah narrated that I was present with Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), and he made the one who had taken an oath of abstinence stand (for a decision), so that he would either divorce (his wife) or take her back.
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1226
Hadith Takhrijاسناده صحیح اخرجه البیهقی : 377/7 - وفي المعرفة السنن والآثار له (4515) - وعبدالرزاق (11567)۔ و ابن ابي شيبة (15533)۔
It is narrated from Marwan bin Hakam that Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) made the one who took an oath of abstinence stand (so that a decision could be made).
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1227
Hadith Takhrijاسناده ضعیف لضعف لیث بن ابي سليم، الا ان المتن صحيح كما تقدم في الحديث السابق - اخرجه البيهقي: 377/7 - وفي المعرفة السنن والآثار له 4515 - وعبد الرزاق (11656) ، وابن ابى شيبة (18554) - والطبرى في تفسيره: (2/ 433)۔
It is narrated from Tawus that Uthman (may Allah be pleased with him) used to make the one who performed ila stand and ask him about (divorce or reconciliation).
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1228
Hadith Takhrijاسناده ضعيف لإنقطاعه : فان طاؤوساً لم يسمع من عثمان اخرجه البيهقي : 377/7 ـ وفي المعرفة السنن والاثار له (4516) وابن ابى شيبة (18557) وعبدالرزاق (11664)۔
Qasim bin Muhammad (may Allah have mercy on him) narrated that when Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) heard mention of a man who swore an oath that he would not go to his wife, and then left her for five months, she did not consider this correct unless he was stopped and a decision was made. She used to say: "Allah the Exalted has said that either keep (her) in a good manner or release (her) in a good way."
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1229
Hadith Takhrijاسناده صحیح اخرجه البيهقي : 387/7 - وفى المعرفة السنن والآثار له (4517)۔ وعبدالرزاق (11658)۔ و ابن ابي شيبة (18563)۔
It is narrated from Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: "When a man makes an oath of abstinence (ila) from his wife, divorce does not take place, even if four months pass, until he is made to stand (before the judge) so that he either divorces her or takes her back."
Hadith Referenceمسند الإمام الشافعي / كتاب عشرة النساء والإيلاء والخلع / 1230
Hadith Takhrijاخرجه البخارى الطلاق، باب قول الله تعالى ﴿لِلَّذِيْنَ يُؤْلُوْنَ مِنْ نِّسَآىٕهِمْ تَرَبُّصُ اَرْبَعَةِ اَشْهُرٍ﴾ (5291)۔