مسند الحميدي
Musnad al-Humaydi
Hadiths of Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)
Instruction not to increase dowry and mention of testimony
Hadith 23
23 - حَدَّثَنَا الْحُمَيْدِيُّ، ثنا سُفْيَانُ، ثنا أَيُّوبُ السِّخْتِيَانِيُّ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِيرِينَ، عَنْ أَبِي الْعَجْفَاءِ السُّلَمِيِّ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَقُولُ: " أَلَا لَا تُغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّهَا لَوْ كَانَتْ مَكْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا، أَوْ تَقْوًي عِنْدَ اللَّهِ كَانَ أَوْلَاكُمْ أَوْ أَحَقُّكُمْ بِهَا النَّبِيَّ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، مَا عَلِمْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ، وَلَا أَنْكَحَ ابْنَةً مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ عَلَي أَكْثَرَ مِنْ ثِنْتَيْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً، وَإِنَّ أَحَدَكُمُ الْيَوْمَ لَيُغْلِي بِصَدَقَةِ الْمَرْأَةِ حَتَّي تَكُونَ لَهَا عَدَاوَةً فِي نَفْسِهِ يَقُولُ: كَلِفْتُ إِلَيْكِ عَلَقَ الْقِرْبَةِ قَالَ: وَكُنْتُ غُلَامًا شَابَّا فَلَمْ أَدْرِ مَا عَلَقُ الْقِرْبَةِ " ¤قَالَ: وَأُخْرَي تَقُولُونَهَا لِبَعْضِ مَنْ يُقْتَلُ فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ هَذِهِ قُتِلَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا، أَوْ مَاتَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا، وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ دُفَّ رَاحِلَتِهِ أَوْ عَجُزَهَا ذَهَبًا، وَقَامَ يَلْتَمِسُ التِّجَارَةَ فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَاكُمْ، وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، أَوْ كَمَا قَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ صَلَّي اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ» قَالَ سُفْيَانُ: كَانَ أَيُّوبُ أَبَدًا يَشُكُّ فِيهِ هَكَذَا أَوْ قَالَ سُفْيَانُ: فَإِنْ كَانَ حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ حَدَّثَ بِهِ هَكَذَا وَإِلَّا فَلَمْ يَحْفَظْ
Abu Ajfa Salmi narrates: I heard Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) saying: Beware! Do not set high dowries for women, because if this was a means of honor in this world or a means of piety in the sight of Allah Almighty, then the person most deserving of it among you would have been the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). To my knowledge, whenever the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) married any of his wives, or married off any of his daughters, the dowry of none of them exceeded "twelve uqiyah," but today one of you pays a high dowry to his wife, to the extent that enmity is created in his heart for that woman and he says: Because of you, I had to face hardship. The narrator says: I was a young man and did not understand what was meant by "‘alaq al-qirbah." Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) also said: Another thing is that you people say about someone killed in battle that so-and-so died a martyr's death, or so-and-so died a martyr's death, whereas it is possible that he had loaded his riding animal with goods, or he was going for trade carrying gold and silver. Do not say this, rather say what the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: (the narrator is unsure, perhaps these are the words) what the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Whoever is killed in the way of Allah will enter Paradise." Sufyan says: The narrator named Ayyub always expressed doubt in the wording of this narration in this way. The narrator named Sufyan says: If Hammad bin Zayd has also narrated this hadith in these words, then it is correct, otherwise this narration is not preserved.
