Hadith 340

(حديث مرفوع) حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ ، عَنِ ابْنِ سِيرِينَ ، سَمِعَهُ مِنْ أَبِي الْعَجْفَاءِ ، سَمِعْتُ عُمَرَ ، يَقُولُ : لَا تُغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ ، فَإِنَّهَا لَوْ كَانَتْ مَكْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا ، أَوْ تَقْوَى فِي الْآخِرَةِ ، لَكَانَ أَوْلَاكُمْ بِهَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، " مَا أَنْكَحَ شَيْئًا مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ وَلَا نِسَائِهِ فَوْقَ اثْنَتَيْ عَشْرَةَ وُقِيَّةً " . وَأُخْرَى تَقُولُونَهَا فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ : قُتِلَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا ، مَاتَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا ، وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ عَجُزَ دَابَّتِهِ ، أَوْ دَفَّ رَاحِلَتِهِ ذَهَبًا وَفِضَّةً ، يَبْتَغِي التِّجَارَةَ ، فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَاكُمْ ، وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ، فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ " .
Abu Al-Ajfa’ Salmi says that once I heard Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) saying: O people! Do not set high dowries for your wives, because if these things were a source of honor in this world or counted as piety in the sight of Allah, then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) would have been the most deserving of them. Yet, the dowry of none of the Prophet’s wives or daughters was more than twelve uqiyah. Then Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The second thing is that when someone is killed during jihad or dies a natural death, you people say that such and such person became a martyr, such and such person departed from this world as a martyr. However, it is also possible that he had hidden gold or silver in the back of his mount or under the saddle, with which he intended to trade. Therefore, do not say with certainty about anyone that he is a martyr. However, you can say that whoever is killed or dies in the path of Allah (he is a martyr) and will enter Paradise, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to say.
Hadith Reference مسند احمد / مسند الخلفاء الراشدين / 340
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