صحيح مسلم
Sahih Muslim
كتاب الطلاق
The Book of Divorce
باب فِي الإِيلاَءِ وَاعْتِزَالِ النِّسَاءِ وَتَخْيِيرِهِنَّ وَقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى: {وَإِنْ تَظَاهَرَا عَلَيْهِ}:
Chapter: Ila', Keeping away from one's wives and giving them the choice, And the saying of Allah, The Most High: "But if you help one another against him
Hadith 1479
حدثنا هَارُونُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ الْأَيْلِيُّ ، حدثنا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ وَهْبٍ ، أَخْبَرَنِي سُلَيْمَانُ يَعْنِي ابْنَ بِلَالٍ ، أَخْبَرَنِي يَحْيَى ، أَخْبَرَنِي عُبَيْدُ بْنُ حُنَيْنٍ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ بْنَ عَبَّاسٍ ، يُحَدِّثُ قَالَ : مَكَثْتُ سَنَةً وَأَنَا أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَسْأَلَ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ : عَنْ آيَةٍ فَمَا أَسْتَطِيعُ أَنْ أَسْأَلَهُ هَيْبَةً لَهُ ، حَتَّى خَرَجَ حَاجًّا فَخَرَجْتُ مَعَهُ ، فَلَمَّا رَجَعَ فَكُنَّا بِبَعْضِ الطَّرِيقِ عَدَلَ إِلَى الْأَرَاكِ لِحَاجَةٍ لَهُ ، فَوَقَفْتُ لَهُ حَتَّى فَرَغَ ، ثُمَّ سِرْتُ مَعَهُ ، فَقُلْتُ : يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ، " مَنِ اللَّتَانِ تَظَاهَرَتَا عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِهِ ؟ فقَالَ : تِلْكَ حَفْصَةُ ، وَعَائِشَةُ ، قَالَ : فَقُلْتُ لَهُ : وَاللَّهِ إِنْ كُنْتُ لَأُرِيدُ أَنْ أَسْأَلَكَ عَنْ هَذَا مُنْذُ سَنَةٍ ، فَمَا أَسْتَطِيعُ هَيْبَةً لَكَ ، قَالَ : فَلَا تَفْعَلْ مَا ظَنَنْتَ أَنَّ عَنْدِي مِنْ عِلْمٍ ، فَسَلْنِي عَنْهُ ، فَإِنْ كُنْتُ أَعْلَمُهُ أَخْبَرْتُكَ ، قَالَ : وَقَالَ عُمَرُ : وَاللَّهِ إِنْ كُنَّا فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ مَا نَعُدُّ لِلنِّسَاءِ أَمْرًا حَتَّى أَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى فِيهِنَّ مَا أَنْزَلَ ، وَقَسَمَ لَهُنَّ مَا قَسَمَ ، قَالَ : فَبَيْنَمَا أَنَا فِي أَمْرٍ أَأْتَمِرُهُ ، إِذْ قَالَت لِي امْرَأَتِي : لَوْ صَنَعْتَ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَقُلْتُ لَهَا : وَمَا لَكِ أَنْتِ وَلِمَا هَاهُنَا وَمَا تَكَلُّفُكِ فِي أَمْرٍ أُرِيدُهُ ؟ فقَالَت لِي : عَجَبًا لَكَ يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ مَا تُرِيدُ أَنْ تُرَاجَعَ أَنْتَ ، وَإِنَّ ابْنَتَكَ لَتُرَاجِعُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حَتَّى يَظَلَّ يَوْمَهُ غَضْبَانَ ، قَالَ عُمَرُ : فَآخُذُ رِدَائِي ثُمَّ أَخْرُجُ مَكَانِي حَتَّى أَدْخُلَ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ ، فَقُلْتُ لَهَا : يَا بُنَيَّةُ ، إِنَّكِ لَتُرَاجِعِينَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حَتَّى يَظَلَّ يَوْمَهُ غَضْبَانَ ؟ فقَالَت : حَفْصَةُ وَاللَّهِ إِنَّا لَنُرَاجِعُهُ ، فَقُلْتُ : تَعْلَمِينَ أَنِّي أُحَذِّرُكِ عُقُوبَةَ اللَّهِ وَغَضَبَ رَسُولِهِ يَا بُنَيَّةُ ، لَا يَغُرَّنَّكِ هَذِهِ الَّتِي قَدْ أَعْجَبَهَا حُسْنُهَا وَحُبُّ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِيَّاهَا ثُمَّ خَرَجْتُ حَتَّى أَدْخُلَ عَلَى أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ لِقَرَابَتِي مِنْهَا فَكَلَّمْتُهَا ، فقَالَت لِي أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ : عَجَبًا لَكَ يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ ، قَدْ دَخَلْتَ فِي كُلِّ شَيْءٍ حَتَّى تَبْتَغِيَ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَأَزْوَاجِهِ ، قَالَ : فَأَخَذَتْنِي أَخْذًا كَسَرَتْنِي ، عَنْ بَعْضِ مَا كُنْتُ أَجِدُ فَخَرَجْتُ مِنْ عَنْدِهَا وَكَانَ لِي صَاحِبٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ إِذَا غِبْتُ أَتَانِي بِالْخَبَرِ ، وَإِذَا غَابَ كُنْتُ أَنَا آتِيهِ بِالْخَبَرِ ، وَنَحْنُ حِينَئِذٍ نَتَخَوَّفُ مَلِكًا مِنْ مُلُوكِ غَسَّانَ ، ذُكِرَ لَنَا أَنَّهُ يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَسِيرَ إِلَيْنَا ، فَقَدِ امْتَلَأَتْ صُدُورُنَا مِنْهُ ، فَأَتَى صَاحِبِي الْأَنْصَارِيُّ يَدُقُّ الْبَابَ ، وَقَالَ : افْتَحِ افْتَحْ ، فَقُلْتُ : جَاءَ الْغَسَّانِيُّ ، فقَالَ : أَشَدُّ مِنْ ذَلِكَ اعْتَزَلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَزْوَاجَهُ ، فَقُلْتُ : رَغِمَ أَنْفُ حَفْصَةَ ، وَعَائِشَةَ ، ثُمَّ آخُذُ ثَوْبِي فَأَخْرُجُ حَتَّى جِئْتُ ، فَإِذَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي مَشْرُبَةٍ لَهُ يُرْتَقَى إِلَيْهَا بِعَجَلَةٍ وَغُلَامٌ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَسْوَدُ عَلَى رَأْسِ الدَّرَجَةِ ، فَقُلْتُ : هَذَا عُمَرُ فَأُذِنَ لِي ، قَالَ عُمَرُ : فَقَصَصْتُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ هَذَا الْحَدِيثَ ، فَلَمَّا بَلَغْتُ حَدِيثَ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ تَبَسَّمَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَإِنَّهُ لَعَلَى حَصِيرٍ مَا بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهُ شَيْءٌ ، وَتَحْتَ رَأْسِهِ وِسَادَةٌ مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ ، وَإِنَّ عَنْدَ رِجْلَيْهِ قَرَظًا مَضْبُورًا ، وَعَنْدَ رَأْسِهِ أُهُبًا مُعَلَّقَةً ، فَرَأَيْتُ أَثَرَ الْحَصِيرِ فِي جَنْبِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَبَكَيْتُ ، فقَالَ : " مَا يُبْكِيكَ ؟ " ، فَقُلْتُ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، إِنَّ كِسْرَى ، وَقَيْصَرَ فِيمَا هُمَا فِيهِ وَأَنْتَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ، فقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " أَمَا تَرْضَى أَنْ تَكُونَ لَهُمَا الدُّنْيَا وَلَكَ الْآخِرَةُ " ،
'Abdullah bin Abbas (RA) reported: I intended to ask 'Umar bin al-Khattab (RA) about a verse, but I waited for one year to ask him out of his fear, until he went out for Pilgrimage and I also accompanied him. As he came back and we were on the way he stepped aside towards an Arak tree to ease himself. I waited for him until he was free. I then walked along with him and said: Commander of the Faithful, who are the two among the wives of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) who backed up one another (in their demand for extra money)? He said: They were Hafsa and 'A'isha (RA) . I said to him: It is for one year that I intended to ask you about this matter but I could not date so on account of the awe for you. He said: Don't do that. If you think that I have any knowledge, do ask me about that. And if I were to know that, I would inform you. He (the narrator) stated that 'Umar had said: By Allah, during the days of ignorance we had no regard for women until Allah the Exalt- ed revealed about them what He has revealed, and appointed (turn) for them what he appointed. He said: It so happened that I was thinking about some matter that my wife said: I wish you had done that and that. I said to her: It does not concern you and you should not feel disturbed in a matter which I intend to do. She said to me: How strange is it that you, O son of Khattab, do not like anyone to retort upon you, whereas your daughter retorts upon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) until he spends the day in vexation. 'Umar said: I took hold of my cloak, then came out of my house until I visited Hafsa and said to her: O daughter, (I heard) that you retort upon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) until he spends the day in vexation, whereupon Hafsa said: By Allah, we do retort upon him. I said: You should bear in mind, my daughter, that I warn you against the punishment of Allah and the wrath of His Messenger (ﷺ) . You may not be misled by one whose beauty has fascinated her, and the love of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) for her. I ('Umar) then visited Umm Salamah because of my relationship with her and I talked to her. Umm Salamah said to me: Umar bin al-Khattab, how strange is it that you meddle with every matter so much so that you are anxious to interfere between Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and his wives, and this perturbed me so much that I refrained from saying what I had to say, so I came out of her apartment, and I had a friend from the Ansar. When I had been absent (from the company of the Holy Prophet) he used to bring me the news and when he had been absent I used to bring him the news, and at that time we dreaded a king of Ghassan. It was mentioned to us that he intended to attack us, and our minds were haunted by him. My friend, the Ansari, came to me, and he knocked at the door and said: Open it, open it. I said: Has the Ghassani come? He said: (The matter is) more serious than that. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) has separated himself from his wives. I said: Let the nose of Hafsa and 'A'isha be besmeared with dust. I then took hold of my cloth and went out until I came and found Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) in his attic to which he climbed by means of a ladder made of date-palm, and the servant of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) who was black had been sitting at the end of the ladder. I said: This is Umar. So permission was granted to me. I narrated this news to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and as I narrated the news concerning Umm Salamah, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) smiled. He was lying on the mat and there was nothing between him and that (mat), and under his head there was a pillow made of leather and it was stuffed with palm fibres and at his feet were lying a heap of saut tree (acacia niloctica, meant for dyeing) and near his head there was hanging a hide. And I saw the marks of the mat on the side of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , and so I wept. He said: What makes you weep? I said: Messenger of Allah, the Khusrau and the Ceasars spend their lives in the midst of luxuries, whereas you being Allah's Messenger (are leading your life in this poverty). Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Don't you like that they should have riches of their world, and you have the Hereafter.
Hadith 1479
وحدثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى ، حدثنا عَفَّانُ ، حدثنا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ ، أَخْبَرَنِي يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ ، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ بْنِ حُنَيْنٍ ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ، قَالَ : أَقْبَلْتُ مَعَ عُمَرَ حَتَّى إِذَا كُنَّا بِمَرِّ الظَّهْرَانِ ، وَسَاقَ الْحَدِيثَ بِطُولِهِ كَنَحْوِ حَدِيثِ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ بِلَالٍ ، غَيْرَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ : قُلْتُ شَأْنُ الْمَرْأَتَيْنِ ، قَالَ : حَفْصَةُ ، وَأُمُّ سَلَمَةَ ، وَزَادَ فِيهِ : وَأَتَيْتُ الْحُجَرَ ، فَإِذَا فِي كُلِّ بَيْتٍ بُكَاءٌ ، وَزَادَ أَيْضًا : وَكَانَ آلَى مِنْهُنَّ شَهْرًا ، فَلَمَّا كَانَ تِسْعًا وَعِشْرِينَ نَزَلَ إِلَيْهِنَّ .
Ibn Abbas (RA) said: I came along with Umar until we reached Marr al-Zahran (the name of a place), and the rest of the hadith is the same as narrated by Sulaiman bin Bilal (RA) (except with) the variation (of words) that I said: (What) about these two women? He said: They were Hafsa and Umm Salamah. And he made this addition: I came to the apartments and in every apartment there was (the noise) of weeping. And this addition was also made: And he (the Holy Prophet) had taken an oath of remaining away from them for a month, and when twenty-nine days had passed, he visited them.
Hadith 1479
وحدثنا وحدثنا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، وَزُهَّيرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ : وَاللَّفْظُ لِأَبِي بَكْرٍ ، قَالَا : حدثنا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ سَعِيدٍ ، سَمِعَ عُبَيْدَ بْنَ حُنَيْنٍ وَهُوَ مَوْلَى الْعَبَّاسِ ، قَالَ : سَمِعْتُ ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ ، يَقُولُ : كُنْتُ أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَسْأَلَ عُمَرَ : عَنِ الْمَرْأَتَيْنِ اللَّتَيْنِ تَظَاهَرَتَا عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَلَبِثْتُ سَنَةً مَا أَجِدُ لَهُ مَوْضِعًا حَتَّى صَحِبْتُهُ إِلَى مَكَّةَ ، فَلَمَّا كَانَ بِمَرِّ الظَّهْرَانِ ذَهَبَ يَقْضِي حَاجَتَهُ ، فقَالَ : أَدْرِكْنِي بِإِدَاوَةٍ مِنْ مَاءٍ ، فَأَتَيْتُهُ بِهَا ، فَلَمَّا قَضَى حَاجَتَهُ وَرَجَعَ ، ذَهَبْتُ أَصُبُّ عَلَيْهِ وَذَكَرْتُ ، فَقُلْتُ لَهُ : يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ " مَنِ الْمَرْأَتَانِ ، فَمَا قَضَيْتُ كَلَامِي حَتَّى ، قَالَ : عَائِشَةُ ، وَحَفْصَةُ " .
Ibn Abbas (RA) is reported to have said: I intended to ask Umar about those two ladies who had pressed for (worldly riches) during the lifetime of the Holy Prophet (ﷺ) , and I kept waiting for one year, but found no suitable opportunity with him until I happened to accompany him to Makkah. And as he reached Marr al Zahran he went away to answer the call of nature, and he said (to me): Bring me a jug of water, and I took that to him. After having answered the call of nature, as he came back, I began to pour water (over his hands and feet), and I remembered (this event of separation of Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) [may peace be upon him] from his wives). So I said to him: Commander of the Faithful, who are the two ladies (who had pressed the Holy Prophet (ﷺ) [may peace be upon him] for providing comforts of life) and I had not yet finished my talk when he said: They were 'A'isha and Hafsa.
Hadith 1475
(حديث موقوف) قَالَ قَالَ الزُّهْرِيُّ : فَأَخْبَرَنِي عُرْوَةُ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَت : لَمَّا مَضَى تِسْعٌ وَعِشْرُونَ لَيْلَةً دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، بَدَأَ بِي ، فَقُلْتُ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، إِنَّكَ أَقْسَمْتَ أَنْ لَا تَدْخُلَ عَلَيْنَا شَهْرًا ، وَإِنَّكَ دَخَلْتَ مِنْ تِسْعٍ وَعِشْرِينَ أَعُدُّهُنَّ ، فقَالَ : " إِنَّ الشَّهْرَ تِسْعٌ وَعِشْرُونَ " ، ثُمَّ قَالَ : " يَا عَائِشَةُ ، إِنِّي ذَاكِرٌ لَكِ أَمْرًا ، فَلَا عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَا تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ " ، ثُمَّ قَرَأَ عَلَيَّ الْآيَةَ : يَأَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لأَزْوَاجِكَ ، حَتَّى بَلَغَ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا سورة الأحزاب آية 28 - 29 ، قَالَت عَائِشَةُ : قَدْ عَلِمَ وَاللَّهِ أَنَّ أَبَوَيَّ لَمْ يَكُونَا لِيَأْمُرَانِي بِفِرَاقِهِ ، قَالَت : فَقُلْتُ : أَوَ فِي هَذَا أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوَيَّ ، فَإِنِّي أُرِيدُ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ ، قَالَ مَعْمَرٌ : فَأَخْبَرَنِي أَيُّوبُ : أَنَّ عَائِشَةَ قَالَت : لَا تُخْبِرْ نِسَاءَكَ أَنِّي اخْتَرْتُكَ ، فقَالَ لَهَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " إِنَّ اللَّهَ أَرْسَلَنِي مُبَلِّغًا وَلَمْ يُرْسِلْنِي مُتَعَنْتًا " ، قَالَ قَتَادَةُ : صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا مَالَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا .
Zuhri said: 'Urwa informed me that 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) said: When twenty-nine nights were over, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) visited me, and he began (his visit) with me. I said: Messenger of Allah, you had taken an oath that you would not visit us for a month, while you have visited after I have counted only twenty-nine (nights). Thereupon he said: The month may also be of twenty-nine (days). He then said: 'A'isha, I am going to talk to you about a matter, and you should not be hasty in it (and do not give your final decision) until you have consulted your parents. He then recited this verse to me: "O Prophet, say to your wives" till he reached "mighty reward" (xxxiii. 28). 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) said: By Allah, he knew that my parents would not allow me to separate from him. I said: Is there any need to consult my parents in this matter? I in fact choose Allah and His Messenger (ﷺ) and the abode in the Hereafter. Ma'mar said: Ayyub reported to me that 'A'isha said: Don't inform your wives that I have chosen you, whereupon Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) said: Verily Allah has sent me as a conveyer of message, and He has not sent me as a source of hardship (to others). Qatada said: "Saghat qulubukum" means "Your hearts have inclined."
