صحيح مسلم
Muslim
كتاب الرضاعThe Book of Suckling
باب الْقَسْمِ بَيْنَ الزَّوْجَاتِ وَبَيَانِ أَنَّ السُّنَّةَ أَنْ تَكُونَ لِكُلِّ وَاحِدَةٍ لَيْلَةٌ مَعَ يَوْمِهَا:Chapter: Dividing one's time among co-wives; The Sunnah is for each one to have one night and one day
حدثنا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ حدثنا شَبَابَةُ بْنُ سَوَّارٍ ، حدثنا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ الْمُغِيرَةِ ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ ، قَالَ : " كَانَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تِسْعُ نِسْوَةٍ ، فَكَانَ إِذَا قَسَمَ بَيْنَهُنَّ لَا يَنْتَهِي إِلَى الْمَرْأَةِ الْأُولَى ، إِلَّا فِي تِسْعٍ ، فَكُنَّ يَجْتَمِعْنَ كُلَّ لَيْلَةٍ فِي بَيْتِ الَّتِي يَأْتِيهَا " ، فَكَانَ فِي بَيْتِ عَائِشَةَ ، فَجَاءَتْ زَيْنَبُ ، فَمَدَّ يَدَهُ إِلَيْهَا ، فقَالَت : هَذِهِ زَيْنَبُ ، فَكَفَّ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَدَهُ فَتَقَاوَلَتَا ، حَتَّى اسْتَخَبَتَا وَأُقِيمَتِ الصَّلَاةُ ، فَمَرَّ أَبُو بَكْرٍ عَلَى ذَلِكَ فَسَمِعَ أَصْوَاتَهُمَا ، فقَالَ : اخْرُجْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، إِلَى الصَّلَاةِ وَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ ، فَخَرَجَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فقَالَت عَائِشَةُ : الْآنَ يَقْضِي النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ صَلَاتَهُ فَيَجِيءُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ ، فَيَفْعَلُ بِي وَيَفْعَلُ ، فَلَمَّا قَضَى النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، صَلَاتَهُ أَتَاهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ ، فقَالَ لَهَا قَوْلًا شَدِيدًا ، وَقَالَ : أَتَصْنَعِينَ هَذَا .
Anas (RA) reported that Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) had nine wives. So when he divided (his stay) with them, the turn of the first wife did not come but on the ninth (day). They (all the wives) used to gather every night in the house of one where he had to come (and stay that night). It was (the night when he had to stay) in the house of 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her), when Zainab came there. He (the Holy Prophet) stretched his hand towards her (Zainab), whereupon she ('A'isha) said: It is Zainab. Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) withdrew his hand. There was an altercation between the two until their voices became loud (and it was at that time) when Iqama was pronounced for prayer. There happened to come Abu Bakr (RA) and he heard their voices and said: Messenger of Allah, (kindly) come for prayer, and throw dust in their mouths. So the Prophet (ﷺ) went out. 'A'isha said: When Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) would finish his prayer there would also come Abu Bakr (RA) and he would do as he does (on such occasions, i. e. reprimanding). When Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) had finished his prayer, there came to her Abu Bakr. and spoke to her ('A'isha) in stern words and said: Do you behave like this?
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Abdul Aziz Alvi
Hadith Footnote:
Vocabulary of the Hadith:
ISTAKHABATA:
"Sakhab" means noise and commotion,
the clashing of voices.
Benefits and Issues:
As long as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) remained in Makkah al-Mukarramah,
he did not marry another woman during the lifetime of Khadijah (radi Allahu anha), and Khadijah (radi Allahu anha) herself was a previously married woman, with whom the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) married at the age of twenty-five, while she was forty years old.
After her death, in the tenth year of Prophethood, he married Sawdah (radi Allahu anha) because he was facing difficulties in managing household affairs.
Then, after the migration to Madinah, when Islam began to spread, the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) married, due to religious necessities, so that close relations could be established with various families and they could become his supporters and helpers,
and so that all aspects of his domestic life would be presented before the Ummah, and through his wives, the propagation and dissemination of religion among women could take place.
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) married previously married women from different tribes at various times, to console them and to gain the affection and love of their families.
After Sawdah (radi Allahu anha), he married Aishah (radi Allahu anha), then in the third year of Hijrah, Hafsah (radi Allahu anha), and in the same year, Zaynab bint Khuzaymah (radi Allahu anha), who lived for only three months.
After her, he married Umm Salamah (radi Allahu anha), then Zaynab bint Jahsh (radi Allahu anha),
after her, Umm Habibah (radi Allahu anha),
then Juwayriyyah (radi Allahu anha), then Safiyyah (radi Allahu anha), and finally Maymunah (radi Allahu anha).
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not marry for the fulfillment of carnal desires,
because if, Allah forbid, he had been lustful, he would not have spent his youth and the prime of his life—twenty-five years—in the companionship of a forty-year-old widow,
He was not obligated to assign turns (between his wives), yet he established a schedule and adhered to it.
Generally, on the night of a wife’s turn, all the wives would gather at her place after Maghrib,
One day, a strange incident occurred: due to the darkness of the night (since lamps were not commonly used),
the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) reached out towards Aishah (radi Allahu anha) upon the arrival of Zaynab (radi Allahu anha), but she informed him that Zaynab (radi Allahu anha) had already arrived,
therefore, expressing affection and love in her presence was not appropriate.
Or, he reached out towards Zaynab (radi Allahu anha), thinking she was Aishah (radi Allahu anha), so Aishah (radi Allahu anha) said, "That is Zaynab (radi Allahu anha), and today is my turn."
Upon this, a mutual dispute arose,
which led to raised voices.
And this commotion continued until the time for the Isha prayer arrived, and in this state, Abu Bakr (radi Allahu anhu) passed by. He said, "O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), restrain them firmly and come for the prayer."
Then, after the prayer, as Aishah (radi Allahu anha) feared, he went and reprimanded and admonished her.
Vocabulary of the Hadith:
ISTAKHABATA:
"Sakhab" means noise and commotion,
the clashing of voices.
Benefits and Issues:
As long as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) remained in Makkah al-Mukarramah,
he did not marry another woman during the lifetime of Khadijah (radi Allahu anha), and Khadijah (radi Allahu anha) herself was a previously married woman, with whom the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) married at the age of twenty-five, while she was forty years old.
After her death, in the tenth year of Prophethood, he married Sawdah (radi Allahu anha) because he was facing difficulties in managing household affairs.
Then, after the migration to Madinah, when Islam began to spread, the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) married, due to religious necessities, so that close relations could be established with various families and they could become his supporters and helpers,
and so that all aspects of his domestic life would be presented before the Ummah, and through his wives, the propagation and dissemination of religion among women could take place.
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) married previously married women from different tribes at various times, to console them and to gain the affection and love of their families.
After Sawdah (radi Allahu anha), he married Aishah (radi Allahu anha), then in the third year of Hijrah, Hafsah (radi Allahu anha), and in the same year, Zaynab bint Khuzaymah (radi Allahu anha), who lived for only three months.
After her, he married Umm Salamah (radi Allahu anha), then Zaynab bint Jahsh (radi Allahu anha),
after her, Umm Habibah (radi Allahu anha),
then Juwayriyyah (radi Allahu anha), then Safiyyah (radi Allahu anha), and finally Maymunah (radi Allahu anha).
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not marry for the fulfillment of carnal desires,
because if, Allah forbid, he had been lustful, he would not have spent his youth and the prime of his life—twenty-five years—in the companionship of a forty-year-old widow,
He was not obligated to assign turns (between his wives), yet he established a schedule and adhered to it.
Generally, on the night of a wife’s turn, all the wives would gather at her place after Maghrib,
One day, a strange incident occurred: due to the darkness of the night (since lamps were not commonly used),
the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) reached out towards Aishah (radi Allahu anha) upon the arrival of Zaynab (radi Allahu anha), but she informed him that Zaynab (radi Allahu anha) had already arrived,
therefore, expressing affection and love in her presence was not appropriate.
Or, he reached out towards Zaynab (radi Allahu anha), thinking she was Aishah (radi Allahu anha), so Aishah (radi Allahu anha) said, "That is Zaynab (radi Allahu anha), and today is my turn."
Upon this, a mutual dispute arose,
which led to raised voices.
And this commotion continued until the time for the Isha prayer arrived, and in this state, Abu Bakr (radi Allahu anhu) passed by. He said, "O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), restrain them firmly and come for the prayer."
Then, after the prayer, as Aishah (radi Allahu anha) feared, he went and reprimanded and admonished her.
Source: Tuhfat al-Muslim: Commentary on Sahih Muslim, Page: 3628
