Sayyiduna Hakim bin Hizam (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates from the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that he said: "The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and begin charity with the one who is among your family (close relatives), and the best charity is that which is given from surplus wealth. And whoever refrains from asking, Allah will keep him from asking, and whoever wants to remain self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient."