Mu'jam al-Saghir

Hadith Commentary:
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There is crookedness in the creation of women; therefore, benefit from them in this state and do not try to straighten them according to your own temperament, because it is possible that, due to their inherent nature, they may not agree with your opinions, and matters may escalate to disputes, which could lead to separation between you. Thus, in one hadith, this is clarified: the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
“If you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.”
(Sahih Muslim, al-Rada’, Hadith: 3643(715))
From this hadith, it is also understood that the crookedness of a woman is in her upper part, that is, her tongue; she will express her crookedness through her speech.
Furthermore, a woman is not quickly inclined to accept corrective training regarding her tongue; rather, sometimes the matter becomes even more intense than before. Therefore, one should be patient with her crookedness; therein lies goodness and blessing.

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It should be noted that a woman’s excessive silence and sealing her tongue at the time of bearing true witness are also among the fruits and branches of this crookedness.
Most women are afflicted with such excesses and deficiencies regarding their speech.

Takhrij:
«أخرجه البخاري، النكاح، باب الوصاة بالنساء، حديث:5185، 5186، ومسلم، الرضاع، باب الوصية بالنساء، حديث:1468.»©Explanation:
In this hadith, there is a command to live with women in kindness and to treat them well, and an exhortation to overlook and forgive their minor faults and shortcomings. It emphasizes bearing with their weaknesses and inappropriate actions, because these are part of their nature.