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سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب الأدبChapters on Etiquette
بَابُ : بِرِّ الْوَالِدِ وَالإِحْسَانِ إِلَى الْبَنَاتِChapter: Honoring one's father and being kind to daughters
Hadith 3666
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ , حَدَّثَنَا عَفَّانُ , حَدَّثَنَا وُهَيْبٌ , حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ خُثَيْمٍ , عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ أَبِي رَاشِدٍ , عَنْ يَعْلَى الْعَامِرِيِّ , أَنَّهُ قَالَ : جَاءَ الْحَسَنُ , وَالْحُسَيْنُ يَسْعَيَانِ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَضَمَّهُمَا إِلَيْهِ , وَقَالَ : " إِنَّ الْوَلَدَ مَبْخَلَةٌ مَجْبَنَةٌ " .
´It was narrated from Ya'la Al -Amir that he said:` "Hasan and Hussain came running to the Prophet (ﷺ) and he embraced them and said: 'Children make a man a miser and a coward.'"
Brief Explanation
1؎: That is, a person, out of love for his children, becomes miserly in spending wealth, and wishes to leave wealth behind for his children, and becomes lazy regarding jihad.
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊ Expressing love and affection towards one’s children becomes a cause for love of elders to develop in their hearts.
➋ When there is an opportunity to spend in the way of Allah, a person sometimes thinks that this money should be saved, as it will benefit the children. It is difficult to control this sentiment; however, one should strive to keep this love for children within limits so that one does not become miserly.
➌ When there is an opportunity for jihad in the way of Allah, the thought arises: “If I am martyred, what will become of my children?” In this way, cowardice develops in the heart.
➍ The emotions of love for one’s children should be kept subordinate to the commands of the Shari‘ah.
➊ Expressing love and affection towards one’s children becomes a cause for love of elders to develop in their hearts.
➋ When there is an opportunity to spend in the way of Allah, a person sometimes thinks that this money should be saved, as it will benefit the children. It is difficult to control this sentiment; however, one should strive to keep this love for children within limits so that one does not become miserly.
➌ When there is an opportunity for jihad in the way of Allah, the thought arises: “If I am martyred, what will become of my children?” In this way, cowardice develops in the heart.
➍ The emotions of love for one’s children should be kept subordinate to the commands of the Shari‘ah.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 3666
