سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب الأدبChapters on Etiquette
بَابُ : بِرِّ الْوَالِدِ وَالإِحْسَانِ إِلَى الْبَنَاتِChapter: Honoring one's father and being kind to daughters
Hadith 3665
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ , حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ , عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ , عَنْ أَبِيهِ , عَنْ عَائِشَةَ , قَالَتْ : قَدِمَ نَاسٌ مِنْ الْأَعْرَابِ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , فَقَالُوا : أَتُقَبِّلُونَ صِبْيَانَكُمْ ؟ قَالُوا : نَعَمْ , فَقَالُوا : لَكِنَّا وَاللَّهِ مَا نُقَبِّلُ , فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " وَأَمْلِكُ أَنْ كَانَ اللَّهُ قَدْ نَزَعَ مِنْكُمُ الرَّحْمَةَ ؟ " .
´It was narrated that Aisha, said:` "Some Bedouin people came to the Prophet(ﷺ) and said: 'Do you kiss your children?' He said: 'Yes'. He said: 'But we, by Allah, never kiss (our children)'. The Prophet(ﷺ) said: 'What can I do if Allah has taken away mercy from you?'"
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Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊ Loving one’s children is a sign of compassion and affection.
➋ Hearts are in the grasp of Allah. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) used to admonish and give advice, and would clarify the truth explicitly. Granting guidance is the work of Allah.
➊ Loving one’s children is a sign of compassion and affection.
➋ Hearts are in the grasp of Allah. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) used to admonish and give advice, and would clarify the truth explicitly. Granting guidance is the work of Allah.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 3665
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
(1)
It is possible that by "the Bedouin" is meant Akra‘ bin Habis radi Allahu anhu, because he too was somewhat stern by nature.
(2)
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam described showing love and affection to children as an act of mercy, because he said to the Bedouin:
“If Allah has removed mercy from your heart, then I am not able to instill the feeling of mercy in your heart.”
Hafiz Ibn Hajar rahimahullah writes that a similar incident occurred with Qays bin ‘Asim al-Tamimi radi Allahu anhu and Hisn bin Hudhayfah al-Fazari radi Allahu anhu as well.
From these ahadith it is understood that kissing a child, whether a mahram or a non-mahram, is due to compassion and affection; there is no suspicion of pleasure or desire in it, therefore there is no doubt about its permissibility. Similarly, hugging children and smelling them is also permissible.
(Fath al-Bari: 10/528)
And Allah knows best.
(1)
It is possible that by "the Bedouin" is meant Akra‘ bin Habis radi Allahu anhu, because he too was somewhat stern by nature.
(2)
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam described showing love and affection to children as an act of mercy, because he said to the Bedouin:
“If Allah has removed mercy from your heart, then I am not able to instill the feeling of mercy in your heart.”
Hafiz Ibn Hajar rahimahullah writes that a similar incident occurred with Qays bin ‘Asim al-Tamimi radi Allahu anhu and Hisn bin Hudhayfah al-Fazari radi Allahu anhu as well.
From these ahadith it is understood that kissing a child, whether a mahram or a non-mahram, is due to compassion and affection; there is no suspicion of pleasure or desire in it, therefore there is no doubt about its permissibility. Similarly, hugging children and smelling them is also permissible.
(Fath al-Bari: 10/528)
And Allah knows best.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 5998
Shaykh Maulana Abdul Aziz Alvi
Hadith Commentary: Benefits and Issues: From this hadith, it is understood that kissing and embracing one's young children is a result of natural and innate affection and love, and not showing love and affection to them is an indication of hardness and wretchedness of the heart.
Source: Tuhfat al-Muslim: Commentary on Sahih Muslim, Page: 6027
