سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب النكاحThe Chapters on Marriage
بَابُ : حُسْنِ مُعَاشَرَةِ النِّسَاءِChapter: Good treatment of women
Hadith 1981
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بِشْرٍ ، عَنْ زَكَرِيَّا ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ ، عَنْ الْبَهِيِّ ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ ، قَالَ : قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ : مَا عَلِمْتُ حَتَّى دَخَلَتْ عَلَيَّ زَيْنَبُ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنٍ وَهِيَ غَضْبَى ، ثُمّ قَالَتْ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، أَحَسْبُكَ إِذَا قَلَبَتْ بُنَيَّةُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ذُرَيْعَتَيْهَا ، ثُمَّ أَقَبَلَتْ عَلَيَّ فَأَعْرَضْتُ عَنْهَا ، حَتَّى قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " دُونَكِ فَانْتَصِرِي ، فَأَقْبَلْتُ عَلَيْهَا حَتَّى رَأَيْتُهَا وَقَدْ يَبِسَ رِيقُهَا فِي فِيهَا مَا تَرُدُّ عَلَيَّ شَيْئًا " ، فَرَأَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَتَهَلَّلُ وَجْهُهُ .
´Urwah bin Zubair narrated that 'Aishah said:` "I did not know until Zainab burst in on me without permission and she was angry. Then she said: 'O Messenger of Allah, is it enough for you that the young daughter of Abu Bakr waves her hands in front of you?' Then she turned to me, but I ignored her until the Prophet said: 'You should say something to defend yourself.' So I turned on her, (and replied to her) until I saw that her mouth had become dry, and she did not say anything back to me. And I saw the Prophet with his face shining." (Hasan).
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
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Umm al-Mu’minin (Mother of the Believers) Zaynab bint Jahsh radi Allahu anha was the paternal cousin of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Her mother’s name was Umaymah bint Abd al-Muttalib. (Tahdhib al-Tahdhib, by Hafiz Ibn Hajar, biography of Zaynab bint Jahsh) Allah Ta’ala arranged the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Zaynab bint Jahsh radi Allahu anha through revelation. There was no need for the customary offer and acceptance (ijab wa qubul) in this world. See: (Surah al-Ahzab, Ayah: 37)
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The expression of anger by Zaynab radi Allahu anha towards Aisha radi Allahu anha was due to those natural emotions that one co-wife may have towards another, which is why she called Aisha radi Allahu anha “baniyyah” (little daughter, girl). The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam permitting Aisha radi Allahu anha to respond was based on justice, so when Aisha silenced Zaynab radi Allahu anhuma, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was pleased. Minor matters and small quarrels among women should be overlooked, or they should be resolved in an appropriate manner.
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Umm al-Mu’minin (Mother of the Believers) Zaynab bint Jahsh radi Allahu anha was the paternal cousin of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Her mother’s name was Umaymah bint Abd al-Muttalib. (Tahdhib al-Tahdhib, by Hafiz Ibn Hajar, biography of Zaynab bint Jahsh) Allah Ta’ala arranged the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Zaynab bint Jahsh radi Allahu anha through revelation. There was no need for the customary offer and acceptance (ijab wa qubul) in this world. See: (Surah al-Ahzab, Ayah: 37)
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The expression of anger by Zaynab radi Allahu anha towards Aisha radi Allahu anha was due to those natural emotions that one co-wife may have towards another, which is why she called Aisha radi Allahu anha “baniyyah” (little daughter, girl). The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam permitting Aisha radi Allahu anha to respond was based on justice, so when Aisha silenced Zaynab radi Allahu anhuma, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was pleased. Minor matters and small quarrels among women should be overlooked, or they should be resolved in an appropriate manner.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1981
