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سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب النكاحThe Chapters on Marriage
بَابُ : الْقِسْمَةِ بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِChapter: Dividing one’s time among wives
Hadith 1971
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى ، قَالَا : حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ ، أَنْبَأَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلَابَةَ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَتْ : كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّه صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقْسِمُ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ ، فَيَعْدِلُ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ : " اللَّهُمَّ هَذَا فِعْلِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ ، فَلَا تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلَا أَمْلِكُ " .
´It was narrated that 'Aishah said:` "The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally among his wives, then he would say 'O Allah, this is what I am doing with regard to that which is within my control, so do not hold me accountable for that which is under Your control and is beyond my control.'"
Related hadith on this topic
Brief Explanation
1؎: According to the example of the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), a man should exercise justice between his wives as far as he is able; staying with each wife in turn is a matter of choice and within his capacity. However, the love of the heart and the desire for intercourse (jima‘) are not within one's control. A man may feel inclination toward one wife and not toward another; thus, achieving equality in this regard is not possible for a man, and Allah the Exalted will pardon him for this. It is stated in al-Rawdah al-Nadiyyah that a woman has the right to gift her turn to another woman, as will be mentioned later, or to forgo her turn for her husband.
Explanation & Benefits
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
“I am powerless.” That is, [this refers to] heartfelt love, because it is connected to the personality, qualities, and conduct of the person concerned. In these matters, individuals are not equal; therefore, love also cannot be the same for everyone. However, outward conduct with wives must be the same, because in being wives, all are equal and their rights are also equal. Even though equality in these outward matters was not obligatory upon the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), yet he himself maintained equality and acted justly… (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)…
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 3395
Shaykh Dr. Abdur Rahman Freywai
Commentary:
Note:
(Hammad ibn Zayd and other more reliable narrators have narrated this from Ayyub «عن أبي قلابة عن النبي ﷺ» as mursal, but the first part of the hadith «اللهم هذا قسمي فيما أملك» is hasan.
Taraaju‘ al-Albani 346)
Note:
(Hammad ibn Zayd and other more reliable narrators have narrated this from Ayyub «عن أبي قلابة عن النبي ﷺ» as mursal, but the first part of the hadith «اللهم هذا قسمي فيما أملك» is hasan.
Taraaju‘ al-Albani 346)
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi – Majlis ‘Ilmi Dar al-Da‘wah, New Delhi Edition, Page: 1140
Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi
Benefits and Issues:
The meaning is that I do not fall short in social conduct, but the matter of the heart is not within my control.
Therefore, do not reproach me for any increase or decrease in heartfelt love.
From this, it is understood that one who has more than one wife—if he maintains justice and fairness in outward conduct—will not be held accountable for any deficiency or excess in the inclination of the heart.
And Allah knows best.
The meaning is that I do not fall short in social conduct, but the matter of the heart is not within my control.
Therefore, do not reproach me for any increase or decrease in heartfelt love.
From this, it is understood that one who has more than one wife—if he maintains justice and fairness in outward conduct—will not be held accountable for any deficiency or excess in the inclination of the heart.
And Allah knows best.
Source: Sunan Abu Dawood – Commentary by Shaykh Umar Farooq Saeedi, Page: 2134
Shaykh Safi ur-Rahman Mubarakpuri
Takhrij:
«أخرجه أبوداود، النكاح، باب في القسم بين النساء، حديث:2134، والترمذي، النكاح، حديث:1140، والنسائي، عشرة النساء، حديث:3395، وابن ماجه، النكاح، حديث:1971، وابن حبان(الموارد)، حديث:1305، والحاكم:2 /187 وصححه علي شرط مسلم، ووافقه الذهبي.»©
Explanation:
From this hadith, it is understood that one must establish justice and fairness among one’s wives. However, if there is a greater inclination of the heart towards one of them, there will be no reproach for that, because women differ in terms of character and conduct, morals, beauty and appearance, and habits and traits.
The woman who possesses more beauty and appearance, good morals and qualities, and the characteristic of obedience to her husband, the husband’s inclination will naturally be greater towards her.
«أخرجه أبوداود، النكاح، باب في القسم بين النساء، حديث:2134، والترمذي، النكاح، حديث:1140، والنسائي، عشرة النساء، حديث:3395، وابن ماجه، النكاح، حديث:1971، وابن حبان(الموارد)، حديث:1305، والحاكم:2 /187 وصححه علي شرط مسلم، ووافقه الذهبي.»©
Explanation:
From this hadith, it is understood that one must establish justice and fairness among one’s wives. However, if there is a greater inclination of the heart towards one of them, there will be no reproach for that, because women differ in terms of character and conduct, morals, beauty and appearance, and habits and traits.
The woman who possesses more beauty and appearance, good morals and qualities, and the characteristic of obedience to her husband, the husband’s inclination will naturally be greater towards her.
Source: Bulugh al-Maram: Commentary by Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri, Page: 905
