سنن ابن ماجه
Sunan Ibn Majah
كتاب النكاح
The Chapters on Marriage
بَابُ : لاَ يَخْطُبِ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ
Chapter: A man should not propose marriage to a woman to whom his brother already proposed
Hadith 1869
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، وَعَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ ، قَالَا : حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ ، عَنْ أَبِي بَكْرِ بْنِ أَبِي الْجَهْمِ بْنِ صُخَيْرٍ الْعَدَوِيِّ ، قَالَ : سَمِعْتُ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ ، تَقُولُ : قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " إِذَا حَلَلْتِ فَآذِنِينِي " ، فَآذَنَتْهُ فَخَطَبَهَا مُعَاوِيَةُ ، وَأَبُو الْجَهْمِ بْنُ صُخَيْرٍ ، وَأُسَامَةُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَرَجُلٌ تَرِبٌ لَا مَالَ لَهُ ، وَأَمَّا أَبُو الْجَهْمِ فَرَجُلٌ ضَرَّابٌ لِلنِّسَاءِ ، وَلَكِنْ أُسَامَةُ " ، فَقَالَتْ بِيَدِهَا هَكَذَا : أُسَامَةُ ، أُسَامَةُ ، فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " طَاعَةُ اللَّهِ ، وَطَاعَةُ رَسُولِهِ خَيْرٌ لَكِ " ، قَالَتْ : فَتَزَوَّجْتُهُ فَاغْتَبَطْتُ بِهِ .
´It was narrated that:` Abu Bakr bin Abu Jahm bin Sukhair Al-Adawi said: “I heard Fathima bint Qais say: 'The Messenger of Allah said to me: “When you become lawful, tell me.” So I told him.' Then Muawiyah, Abu Jahm bin Sukhair and Usamah bin Zaid proposed marriage to her. The Messenger of Allah said: 'As for Muawiyah, he is a poor man who has no money. As from Abu Jahm he is a man who habitually beats woman. But Usamah (is good).' She gestured with her hand, saying: 'Usamah, Usamah!?' The Messenger of Allah said to her: 'Obedience to Allah and obedience to His Messenger is better for you.' She said: 'So I married him and I was pleased with him.' ”
