سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب النكاحThe Chapters on Marriage
بَابُ : النَّظَرِ إِلَى الْمَرْأَةِ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَاChapter: Looking at a woman when wanting to marry her
Hadith 1866
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ أَبِي الرَّبِيعِ ، أَنْبَأَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ ، عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ ، عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ ، عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ ، قَالَ : أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا ، فَقَالَ : " اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا ، فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا " ، فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنْ الْأَنْصَارِ ، فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا ، وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَا ذَلِكَ ، قَالَ : فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا ، فَقَالَتْ : إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ ، وَإِلَّا فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ ، قَالَ : فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا ، فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا ، فَذَكَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا .
´It was narrated that:` Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her.
Related hadith on this topic
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
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The parents did not dislike the Prophetic hadith itself; rather, what they disliked was that a non-related man should look at their young daughter.
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A young unmarried girl should observe proper veiling (purdah).
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A boy should only look at the girl whom he truly intends to marry.
It is a very bad thing to go around looking at people’s daughters under this pretext.
Allah, the Exalted, is aware of the thoughts in hearts; no one’s betrayal is hidden from Him.
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The hearts of the male and female Companions (Sahabah and Sahabiyyat) held great respect for the Prophetic hadith. Thus, when the girl was informed of the instruction of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), she immediately agreed, even though, by her natural disposition, this matter was unpleasant for her.
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From this, it is also understood how much importance the Companions (radi Allahu anhum) placed on the command of the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
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The parents did not dislike the Prophetic hadith itself; rather, what they disliked was that a non-related man should look at their young daughter.
➋
A young unmarried girl should observe proper veiling (purdah).
➌
A boy should only look at the girl whom he truly intends to marry.
It is a very bad thing to go around looking at people’s daughters under this pretext.
Allah, the Exalted, is aware of the thoughts in hearts; no one’s betrayal is hidden from Him.
➍
The hearts of the male and female Companions (Sahabah and Sahabiyyat) held great respect for the Prophetic hadith. Thus, when the girl was informed of the instruction of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), she immediately agreed, even though, by her natural disposition, this matter was unpleasant for her.
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From this, it is also understood how much importance the Companions (radi Allahu anhum) placed on the command of the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1866
Shaykh Dr. Abdur Rahman Freywai
Explanation:
1:
According to the majority of scholars, this ruling is recommended (mustahabb) and not obligatory (wajib). If someone sends a trustworthy female relative to inquire about a woman's appearance, habits, and characteristics, this is also permissible, just as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) sent Umm Sulaym (radi Allahu anha) to gather information about a woman.
1:
According to the majority of scholars, this ruling is recommended (mustahabb) and not obligatory (wajib). If someone sends a trustworthy female relative to inquire about a woman's appearance, habits, and characteristics, this is also permissible, just as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) sent Umm Sulaym (radi Allahu anha) to gather information about a woman.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi – Majlis ‘Ilmi Dar al-Da‘wah, New Delhi Edition, Page: 1087
