سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب النكاحThe Chapters on Marriage
بَابُ : النَّظَرِ إِلَى الْمَرْأَةِ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَاChapter: Looking at a woman when wanting to marry her
Hadith 1864
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، حَدَّثَنَا حَفْصُ بْنُ غِيَاثٍ ، عَنْ حَجَّاجٍ ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سُلَيْمَانَ ، عَنْ عَمِّهِ سَهْلِ بْنِ أَبِي حَثْمَةَ ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ مَسْلَمَةَ ، قَالَ : خَطَبْتُ امْرَأَةً ، فَجَعَلْتُ أَتَخَبَّأُ لَهَا ، حَتَّى نَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فِي نَخْلٍ لَهَا ، فَقِيلَ لَهُ : أَتَفْعَلُ هَذَا وَأَنْتَ صَاحِبُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ؟ ، فَقَالَ : سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، يَقُولُ : " إِذَا أَلْقَى اللَّهُ فِي قَلْبِ امْرِئٍ خِطْبَةَ امْرَأَةٍ ، فَلَا بَأْسَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا " .
´It was narrated that:` Muhammad bin Salamah said: “I proposed marriage to a woman, then I hid and waited to see her until I saw her among some date palm trees that belonged to her.” It was said to him: “Do you do such a thing when you are a companion of the Messenger of Allah?” He said: “I heard the Messenger of Allah saying: 'When Allah causes a man to propose to a woman, there is nothing wrong with him looking at her.' ”
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
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Regarding the mentioned narration, our esteemed researcher writes that its chain of transmission is weak; however, the following narration suffices for it.
See:
(al-Saheehah, No. 98)
➋
It is permissible to look at a woman whom one intends to marry.
It is also permissible for a woman to look at a man.
Although there is no hadith narrated specifically about this, by analogy with the ruling for men, it can be said that it is permissible for a woman to look at a man as well.
It is not necessary that the woman be aware of being looked at; rather, it is permissible to look at her even if she is unaware, provided the opportunity arises.
If it is not possible to see her oneself, then a trustworthy woman may be sent to the girl’s house, and she should observe the girl while keeping in mind the man’s preferences and likes.
➊
Regarding the mentioned narration, our esteemed researcher writes that its chain of transmission is weak; however, the following narration suffices for it.
See:
(al-Saheehah, No. 98)
➋
It is permissible to look at a woman whom one intends to marry.
It is also permissible for a woman to look at a man.
Although there is no hadith narrated specifically about this, by analogy with the ruling for men, it can be said that it is permissible for a woman to look at a man as well.
It is not necessary that the woman be aware of being looked at; rather, it is permissible to look at her even if she is unaware, provided the opportunity arises.
If it is not possible to see her oneself, then a trustworthy woman may be sent to the girl’s house, and she should observe the girl while keeping in mind the man’s preferences and likes.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1864
