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سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب النكاحThe Chapters on Marriage
بَابُ : حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِChapter: The husband’s rights over his wife
Hadith 1853
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَزْهَرُ بْنُ مَرْوَانَ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ الشَّيْبَانِيِّ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي أَوْفَى ، قَالَ : لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذٌ مِنَ الشَّامِ ، سَجَدَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، قَالَ : مَا هَذَا يَا مُعَاذُ ؟ ، قَالَ : أَتَيْتُ الشَّامَ فَوَافَقْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لِأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ ، وَبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ ، فَوَدِدْتُ فِي نَفْسِي أَنْ نَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ بِكَ ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " فَلَا تَفْعَلُوا ، فَإِنِّي لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِغَيْرِ اللَّهِ ، لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا ، وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ ، لَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا ، وَلَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ " .
´It was narrated that:` Abdullah bin Abu Awfa said “When Muadh bin Jabal came from Sham, he prostrated to the Prophet who said: 'What is this, O Muadh?' He said: 'I went to Sham and saw them prostrating to their bishops and patricians and I wanted to do that for you.' The messenger of Allah said: 'Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman can fulfill her duty towards Allah until she fulfills her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.' ”
Brief Explanation
1؎ : This is because a righteous and religious woman is a source of worldly happiness and comfort. Her companionship brings joy to a person; no matter how much distress he faces outside, when he sits with his pure-natured wife, he forgets all his sorrows and grief. On the contrary, if the woman is corrupt and ill-tempered, then worldly life becomes like hell; no matter how much wealth and property one has, it all becomes useless and meaningless, and there is no enjoyment in life. Ali radi Allahu anhu has interpreted the goodness of this world in «رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً» (Surah al-Baqarah: 201) as a righteous and religious woman, the goodness of the Hereafter as the maidens of Paradise (hur), and protection from the punishment of the Fire as being saved from a corrupt and foul-mouthed woman.
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊
To prostrate to any of the creation as an act of worship is disbelief (kufr).
To prostrate out of respect was permissible in previous religious laws, but in our Shari‘ah this too is forbidden (haram).
➋
The permissibility of an act in a previous religious law does not prove that there is no harm in it, for example:
In the time of Adam (alayhis salam), marriage to a real (biological) sister was permissible, but now it is forbidden.
Previously, it was permissible to have more than four wives at the same time or to marry two sisters at the same time, but now it is not.
➌
Some people say that we do not prostrate to the elders, rather we kiss their feet, or to please someone we fall at their feet, or fall down at their feet—this too is prostration (sujud).
Changing the name does not make the forbidden (haram) permissible (halal).
➍
One should avoid adopting the customs and etiquettes of the Jews and Christians, because such acts are generally connected to their erroneous beliefs, even if that connection is not so clear to us.
The same ruling applies to the customs and traditions of other non-Muslim nations, such as:
Hindus, Sikhs, Parsis, Buddhists, etc.
➎
The right of the husband is very great, but this does not mean that the rights of the wife should be neglected, just as the rights of the parents are very great, but the rights of the children should also be kept in view.
➏
One of the major purposes of marriage (nikah) is the protection of chastity and modesty, therefore a woman should not hesitate in fulfilling the sexual desire of the man.
The man should also, when he feels that the woman desires intercourse, fulfill this right of hers.
The hadith mentions the woman because generally it is the woman who expresses hesitation, while the opposite case is rare.
➐
A woman should observe respect for the man.
➊
To prostrate to any of the creation as an act of worship is disbelief (kufr).
To prostrate out of respect was permissible in previous religious laws, but in our Shari‘ah this too is forbidden (haram).
➋
The permissibility of an act in a previous religious law does not prove that there is no harm in it, for example:
In the time of Adam (alayhis salam), marriage to a real (biological) sister was permissible, but now it is forbidden.
Previously, it was permissible to have more than four wives at the same time or to marry two sisters at the same time, but now it is not.
➌
Some people say that we do not prostrate to the elders, rather we kiss their feet, or to please someone we fall at their feet, or fall down at their feet—this too is prostration (sujud).
Changing the name does not make the forbidden (haram) permissible (halal).
➍
One should avoid adopting the customs and etiquettes of the Jews and Christians, because such acts are generally connected to their erroneous beliefs, even if that connection is not so clear to us.
The same ruling applies to the customs and traditions of other non-Muslim nations, such as:
Hindus, Sikhs, Parsis, Buddhists, etc.
➎
The right of the husband is very great, but this does not mean that the rights of the wife should be neglected, just as the rights of the parents are very great, but the rights of the children should also be kept in view.
➏
One of the major purposes of marriage (nikah) is the protection of chastity and modesty, therefore a woman should not hesitate in fulfilling the sexual desire of the man.
The man should also, when he feels that the woman desires intercourse, fulfill this right of hers.
The hadith mentions the woman because generally it is the woman who expresses hesitation, while the opposite case is rare.
➐
A woman should observe respect for the man.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1853
