سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
كتاب الجنائزChapters: Regarding Funerals
بَابُ : مَا جَاءَ فِي الْبُكَاءِ عَلَى الْمَيِّتِChapter: What was narrated concerning weeping for the deceased
Hadith 1589
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا سُوَيْدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سُلَيْمٍ ، عَنْ ابْنِ خُثَيْمٍ ، عَنْ شَهْرِ بْنِ حَوْشَبٍ ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ يَزِيدَ ، قَالَتْ : لَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ ابْنُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ بَكَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَقَالَ لَهُ الْمُعَزِّي إِمَّا أَبُو بَكْرٍ ، وَإِمَّا عُمَرُ : أَنْتَ أَحَقُّ مَنْ عَظَّمَ اللَّهُ حَقَّهُ ، قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " تَدْمَعُ الْعَيْنُ ، وَيَحْزَنُ الْقَلْبُ ، وَلَا نَقُولُ مَا يُسْخِطُ الرَّبَّ ، لَوْلَا أَنَّهُ وَعْدٌ صَادِقٌ وَمَوْعُودٌ جَامِعٌ ، وَأَنَّ الْآخِرَ تَابِعٌ لِلْأَوَّلِ ، لَوَجَدْنَا عَلَيْكَ يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ أَفْضَلَ مِمَّا وَجَدْنَا ، وَإِنَّا بِكَ لَمَحْزُونُونَ " .
´It was narrated that Asma’ bint Yazid said:` “When Ibrahim, the son of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), died, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) wept. The one who was consoling him, either Abu Bakr or ‘Umar, said to him: ‘You are indeed the best of those who glorify Allah with what is due to him.’ The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘The eye weeps and the heart grieves, but we do not say anything that angers the Lord. Were it not that death is something that inevitably comes to all, and that the latter will surely join the former, then we would have been more than we are, verily we grieve for you.’”
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
➊ It is permissible to weep upon the death of a loved one or friend, provided that one does not adopt the mannerisms of the Age of Ignorance (Jahiliyyah).
➋ Other individuals should console the relatives of the deceased in an appropriate manner, so that their grief may be alleviated.
➌ The statement of Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu or Umar radi Allahu anhu means that this was Allah’s will. Now, one should be content with Allah’s decree; this is an exhortation to patience while remaining within the bounds of proper etiquette.
➍ True patience is that, even in times of grief, one safeguards one’s tongue and hands, etc., from unlawful actions. One should not utter words that express displeasure with Allah.
➎ The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has drawn attention to an important fundamental reality regarding the grief caused by death: that the promise of death is true. No one can escape it; if the deceased had not departed today, he would have gone tomorrow—eventually, he had to go. The second point is that the separation caused by death is a temporary separation. If one person has passed away before us and become separated from us, the one who remains behind will also die and reach the same place. Then this separation will end, and after that, there will be no more separation. If attention is paid to these two matters, the grief of death is certainly lessened.
➊ It is permissible to weep upon the death of a loved one or friend, provided that one does not adopt the mannerisms of the Age of Ignorance (Jahiliyyah).
➋ Other individuals should console the relatives of the deceased in an appropriate manner, so that their grief may be alleviated.
➌ The statement of Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu or Umar radi Allahu anhu means that this was Allah’s will. Now, one should be content with Allah’s decree; this is an exhortation to patience while remaining within the bounds of proper etiquette.
➍ True patience is that, even in times of grief, one safeguards one’s tongue and hands, etc., from unlawful actions. One should not utter words that express displeasure with Allah.
➎ The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has drawn attention to an important fundamental reality regarding the grief caused by death: that the promise of death is true. No one can escape it; if the deceased had not departed today, he would have gone tomorrow—eventually, he had to go. The second point is that the separation caused by death is a temporary separation. If one person has passed away before us and become separated from us, the one who remains behind will also die and reach the same place. Then this separation will end, and after that, there will be no more separation. If attention is paid to these two matters, the grief of death is certainly lessened.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1589
