سنن ابن ماجه
Ibn Majah
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بَابُ : مَا جَاءَ فِي النَّهْيِ عَنْ ضَرْبِ الْخُدُودِ وَشَقِّ الْجُيُوبِChapter: What was narrated concerning the prohibition of striking one’s cheeks and tearing one’s garment
Hadith 1584
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ . ح وحَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ ، وَعَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ جميعا ، عَنْ سُفْيَانَ ، عَنْ زُبَيْدٍ ، عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ، عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ . ح وحَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ ، وَأَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ خَلَّادٍ ، قَالَا : حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ ، حَدَّثَنَا الْأَعْمَشُ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مُرَّةَ ، عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " لَيْسَ مِنَّا مَنْ شَقَّ الْجُيُوبَ ، وَضَرَبَ الْخُدُودَ ، وَدَعَا بِدَعْوَى الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ " .
´It was narrated from ‘Abdullah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:` “He is not one of us who tears his garments, strikes his cheeks, and cries with the cry of the Days of Ignorance.’”
Related hadith on this topic
Explanation & Benefits
Maulana Ataullah Sajid
Benefits and Issues:
(1)
Sorrow of the heart and the shedding of tears from the eyes are not contrary to patience (sabr). However, apart from this, the various inappropriate actions that people commit out of impatience are religiously prohibited.
(2)
Before Islam, it was customary among people that, in order to express grief over the deceased, they would weep loudly while praising the dead and would tear their collars. In Islam, these practices have been prohibited.
(3) (Laysa minna)
“He is not from among us”—this does not mean that the one who commits such acts leaves Islam. Rather, it means that he is not upon our way; this is not the way of Muslims, because it is among the wrong customs of the people of ignorance (jahiliyyah). We should avoid this.
(1)
Sorrow of the heart and the shedding of tears from the eyes are not contrary to patience (sabr). However, apart from this, the various inappropriate actions that people commit out of impatience are religiously prohibited.
(2)
Before Islam, it was customary among people that, in order to express grief over the deceased, they would weep loudly while praising the dead and would tear their collars. In Islam, these practices have been prohibited.
(3) (Laysa minna)
“He is not from among us”—this does not mean that the one who commits such acts leaves Islam. Rather, it means that he is not upon our way; this is not the way of Muslims, because it is among the wrong customs of the people of ignorance (jahiliyyah). We should avoid this.
Source: Commentary on Sunan Ibn Mājah by Mawlānā ‘Atā’ullāh Sājid, Page: 1584
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
To incite tribalism (asabiyyah) at the time of calamity and to stir up the emotions of others upon it are slogans of the era of ignorance (jahiliyyah).
If one does this considering it lawful (halal), then a person exits the religion; otherwise, the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) stated, as a form of rebuke and reprimand:
“He is not upon the way of the Muslims.”
And Allah knows best.
To incite tribalism (asabiyyah) at the time of calamity and to stir up the emotions of others upon it are slogans of the era of ignorance (jahiliyyah).
If one does this considering it lawful (halal), then a person exits the religion; otherwise, the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) stated, as a form of rebuke and reprimand:
“He is not upon the way of the Muslims.”
And Allah knows best.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 3519
Hafiz Imran Ayyub Lahori
Lexical Explanation:
«الْخُدُوْدَ» is the plural of «خَد», meaning "cheek."
«الْجُيُوٌبَ» is the plural of «جَيٌب», meaning "collar" or "neckline."
Understanding the Hadith:
It is understood that expressing excessive grief, wailing, and screaming in times of calamity and hardship is not permissible, and the cries of ignorance (such as invoking destruction and ruin, lamenting, wailing, etc.) are also forbidden. In the Qur'an, those who are rightly guided are described as those who are patient in times of calamity and utter these words: «إِنَّا لِلَّـهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ» [سورة البقرة : آيت 156]
«الْخُدُوْدَ» is the plural of «خَد», meaning "cheek."
«الْجُيُوٌبَ» is the plural of «جَيٌب», meaning "collar" or "neckline."
Understanding the Hadith:
It is understood that expressing excessive grief, wailing, and screaming in times of calamity and hardship is not permissible, and the cries of ignorance (such as invoking destruction and ruin, lamenting, wailing, etc.) are also forbidden. In the Qur'an, those who are rightly guided are described as those who are patient in times of calamity and utter these words: «إِنَّا لِلَّـهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ» [سورة البقرة : آيت 156]
Source: Jawahir al-Iman: Commentary on al-Lu'lu wal-Marjan, Page: 65
Maulana Dawood Raz
Hadith Commentary:
That is, they are excluded from our Ummah.
It is understood from this that this action is extremely detestable.
That is, they are excluded from our Ummah.
It is understood from this that this action is extremely detestable.
Source: Sahih Bukhari: Commentary by Maulana Dawood Raz, Page: 1294
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
(1)
The meaning of this hadith is not that one becomes deserving of the warning (wa‘id) only by committing all three of the mentioned acts, but rather, each of these acts individually is a cause for the mentioned warning. As is stated in Sahih Muslim, whoever strikes his cheeks, tears his collar, or calls out with the calls of the Age of Ignorance (jahiliyyah) at the time of calamity, he is not from us.
(Sahih Muslim, Al-Iman, Hadith: 285 (103))
(2)
It is also understood from this hadith that tearing one’s collar and striking one’s cheeks at the time of calamity is forbidden (haram), because this indicates a lack of acceptance of Allah’s decree (qadar).
If someone knows of its prohibition, and despite this, considers it lawful (halal) and does so, then he is outside the fold of Islam.
Sufyan al-Thawri rahimahullah used to prohibit any kind of interpretation or explanation (ta’wil) regarding this hadith, as such would nullify the purpose of the warning (wa‘id), which is to prevent people from such heinous acts.
(Fath al-Bari: 3/209)
(1)
The meaning of this hadith is not that one becomes deserving of the warning (wa‘id) only by committing all three of the mentioned acts, but rather, each of these acts individually is a cause for the mentioned warning. As is stated in Sahih Muslim, whoever strikes his cheeks, tears his collar, or calls out with the calls of the Age of Ignorance (jahiliyyah) at the time of calamity, he is not from us.
(Sahih Muslim, Al-Iman, Hadith: 285 (103))
(2)
It is also understood from this hadith that tearing one’s collar and striking one’s cheeks at the time of calamity is forbidden (haram), because this indicates a lack of acceptance of Allah’s decree (qadar).
If someone knows of its prohibition, and despite this, considers it lawful (halal) and does so, then he is outside the fold of Islam.
Sufyan al-Thawri rahimahullah used to prohibit any kind of interpretation or explanation (ta’wil) regarding this hadith, as such would nullify the purpose of the warning (wa‘id), which is to prevent people from such heinous acts.
(Fath al-Bari: 3/209)
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 1294
Maulana Dawood Raz
Hadith Commentary:
Those people who beat their chests over elders martyred long ago should reflect that, in doing so, they are, in a certain way, rebelling against the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Those people who beat their chests over elders martyred long ago should reflect that, in doing so, they are, in a certain way, rebelling against the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Source: Sahih Bukhari: Commentary by Maulana Dawood Raz, Page: 1297
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
The meaning of the Prophet’s (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) declaration of disavowal from people who commit these actions is that he is not pleased or satisfied with such a person’s deed.
This approach is adopted regarding major sins (kabirah). Thus, actions such as wailing at the time of calamity, lamenting, striking the cheeks, tearing the collar, scratching the face, letting the hair loose and spreading it, crying out in anguish, and uttering the nonsense of the days of ignorance—all these are tantamount to being displeased with Allah’s decree. Therefore, these acts are unanimously forbidden (haram).
And Allah knows best.
The meaning of the Prophet’s (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) declaration of disavowal from people who commit these actions is that he is not pleased or satisfied with such a person’s deed.
This approach is adopted regarding major sins (kabirah). Thus, actions such as wailing at the time of calamity, lamenting, striking the cheeks, tearing the collar, scratching the face, letting the hair loose and spreading it, crying out in anguish, and uttering the nonsense of the days of ignorance—all these are tantamount to being displeased with Allah’s decree. Therefore, these acts are unanimously forbidden (haram).
And Allah knows best.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 1297
Maulana Dawood Raz
Hadith Commentary:
That is, his action is like those people who are non-Muslims, or it means that he is excluded from our Ummah.
In any case, this also proves the prohibition of wailing (niyahah).
That is, his action is like those people who are non-Muslims, or it means that he is excluded from our Ummah.
In any case, this also proves the prohibition of wailing (niyahah).
Source: Sahih Bukhari: Commentary by Maulana Dawood Raz, Page: 1298
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
There is no prohibition of wailing (wawaila) in this hadith.
Imam Bukhari rahimahullah has established a chapter heading and indicated towards the hadith narrated by Hazrat Abu Umamah radi Allahu anhu, who states that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cursed the woman who, at the time of calamity, scratches her face, tears her collar, and utters words of destruction and ruin.
(Sunan Ibn Majah, Al-Jana'iz, Hadith: 1585)
In this hadith, there is explicit mention of wailing (wawaila), that doing so at the time of calamity is impermissible and a cause for curse.
There is no prohibition of wailing (wawaila) in this hadith.
Imam Bukhari rahimahullah has established a chapter heading and indicated towards the hadith narrated by Hazrat Abu Umamah radi Allahu anhu, who states that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cursed the woman who, at the time of calamity, scratches her face, tears her collar, and utters words of destruction and ruin.
(Sunan Ibn Majah, Al-Jana'iz, Hadith: 1585)
In this hadith, there is explicit mention of wailing (wawaila), that doing so at the time of calamity is impermissible and a cause for curse.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 1298
Shaykh Maulana Abdul Aziz Alvi
Hadith Commentary:
Vocabulary of the Hadith:
D‘AĀ BI-DA‘WĀ AL-JĀHILIYYAH:
The meaning of "calling with the call of the Days of Ignorance" is:
Lamenting,
Wailing and expressing excessive grief,
Praying for destruction and ruin upon oneself.
Remembering the deeds—whether right or wrong—of the deceased,
Crying and screaming over them,
And unfortunately, these actions are commonly found among women in Muslim households nowadays.
May Allah protect us from them.
Vocabulary of the Hadith:
D‘AĀ BI-DA‘WĀ AL-JĀHILIYYAH:
The meaning of "calling with the call of the Days of Ignorance" is:
Lamenting,
Wailing and expressing excessive grief,
Praying for destruction and ruin upon oneself.
Remembering the deeds—whether right or wrong—of the deceased,
Crying and screaming over them,
And unfortunately, these actions are commonly found among women in Muslim households nowadays.
May Allah protect us from them.
Source: Tuhfat al-Muslim: Commentary on Sahih Muslim, Page: 285
Shaykh Dr. Abdur Rahman Freywai
English Commentary: 1:
What is meant by the call of the Age of Ignorance (Jahiliyyah) is wailing,
such as saying, "Oh, my lion! My moon!
Oh, the one who has orphaned my children, the one who has ruined the happiness of women!" and so on, crying out in this manner.
2:
That is, not upon the way of the Muslims.
When, on such occasions, one sees the ways and manners of lamentation and panic among non-Muslims being imitated by Muslims, the truthfulness of this hadith becomes all the more evident.
What is meant by the call of the Age of Ignorance (Jahiliyyah) is wailing,
such as saying, "Oh, my lion! My moon!
Oh, the one who has orphaned my children, the one who has ruined the happiness of women!" and so on, crying out in this manner.
2:
That is, not upon the way of the Muslims.
When, on such occasions, one sees the ways and manners of lamentation and panic among non-Muslims being imitated by Muslims, the truthfulness of this hadith becomes all the more evident.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhi – Majlis ‘Ilmi Dar al-Da‘wah, New Delhi Edition, Page: 999
Hafiz Muhammad Ameen
1861. Commentary:
➊ "He is not one of us" means that he is not upon the way we have established; rather, in this action, he is like the disbelievers, not that he becomes a disbeliever.
➋ One should accept the decree of Allah, the Exalted, with contentment. Wailing and lamentation fall under the category of ingratitude.
➊ "He is not one of us" means that he is not upon the way we have established; rather, in this action, he is like the disbelievers, not that he becomes a disbeliever.
➋ One should accept the decree of Allah, the Exalted, with contentment. Wailing and lamentation fall under the category of ingratitude.
Source: Sunan Nasa'i: Translation and Benefits by Shaykh Hafiz Muhammad Amin Hafizullah, Page: 1861
Shaykh Muhammad Ibrahim bin Basheer
Benefit:
From this hadith, it is established that the noble wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are the mothers of the believers. It is also established that kissing one's wife while fasting is permissible, but only if one has control over one's desires; if a person cannot control himself, then he should not kiss his wife while fasting. It is also understood that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had immense self-control—Subhan Allah. Sayyidah Aisha radi Allahu anha did not feel shy in explaining legal (shar‘i) matters. Some people consider even a woman's voice to be part of the veil (purdah), which is incorrect.
From this hadith, it is established that the noble wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are the mothers of the believers. It is also established that kissing one's wife while fasting is permissible, but only if one has control over one's desires; if a person cannot control himself, then he should not kiss his wife while fasting. It is also understood that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had immense self-control—Subhan Allah. Sayyidah Aisha radi Allahu anha did not feel shy in explaining legal (shar‘i) matters. Some people consider even a woman's voice to be part of the veil (purdah), which is incorrect.
Source: Musnad al-Humaydi: Commentary by Muhammad Ibrahim bin Bashir, Page: 197
