صحيح البخاري Sahih Bukhari كتاب الجنائز The Book of Al-Janaiz (Funerals)
بَابُ مَا يُنْهَى عَنِ النَّوْحِ وَالْبُكَاءِ وَالزَّجْرِ عَنْ ذَلِكَ:

(45) Chapter. The forbiddance of wailing and crying aloud; and scolding those who practise them.

2 hadith
Hadith 1305
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ حَوْشَبٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَهَّابِ ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ , قَالَ : أَخْبَرَتْنِي عَمْرَةُ قَالَتْ : سَمِعْتُ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا , تَقُولُ : لَمَّا جَاءَ قَتْلُ زَيْدِ بْنِ حَارِثَةَ ، وَجَعْفَرٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ ، وَأَنَا أَطَّلِعُ مِنْ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ , فَقَالَ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ , فَأَمَرَهُ بِأَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ , فَذَهَبَ الرَّجُلُ ثُمَّ أَتَى , فَقَالَ : قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ وَذَكَرَ أَنَّهُنَّ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ , فَأَمَرَهُ الثَّانِيَةَ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ , فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَى , فَقَالَ : وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ غَلَبْنَنِي أَوْ غَلَبْنَنَا الشَّكُّ مِنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ حَوْشَبٍ ، فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , قَالَ : فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ , فَقُلْتُ : أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا أَنْتَ بِفَاعِلٍ وَمَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ " .
Narrated Aisha: When the news of the martyrdom of Zaid bin Haritha, Ja`far and `Abdullah bin Rawaha came, the Prophet sat down looking sad, and I was looking through the chink of the door. A man came and said, "O Allah's Apostle! The women of Ja`far," and then he mentioned their crying . The Prophet (p.b.u.h) ordered him to stop them from crying. The man went and came back and said, "I tried to stop them but they disobeyed." The Prophet (p.b.u.h) ordered him for the second time to forbid them. He went again and came back and said, "They did not listen to me, (or "us": the sub-narrator Muhammad bin Haushab is in doubt as to which is right). " (`Aisha added: The Prophet said, "Put dust in their mouths." I said (to that man), "May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)." By Allah, you could not (stop the women from crying) to fulfill the order, besides you did not relieve Allah's Apostle from fatigue."
Hadith Reference Sahih Bukhari / The Book of Al-Janaiz (Funerals) / Hadith: 1305
Hadith Grading محدثین: أحاديث صحيح البخاريّ كلّها صحيحة
Hadith 1306
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْوَهَّابِ ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا أَيُّوبُ ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدٍ ، عَنْ أُمِّ عَطِيَّةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا , قَالَتْ : " أَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عِنْدَ الْبَيْعَةِ أَنْ لَا نَنُوحَ فَمَا وَفَتْ مِنَّا امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَ خَمْسِ نِسْوَةٍ أُمِّ سُلَيْمٍ وَأُمِّ الْعَلَاءِ وَابْنَةِ أَبِي سَبْرَةَ امْرَأَةِ مُعَاذٍ وَامْرَأَتَيْنِ أَوْ ابْنَةِ أَبِي سَبْرَةَ وَامْرَأَةِ مُعَاذٍ وَامْرَأَةٍ أُخْرَى " .
Narrated Um 'Atiyya: At the time of giving the pledge of allegiance to the Prophet one of the conditions was that we would not wail, but it was not fulfilled except by five women and they are Um Sulaim, Um Al-`Ala', the daughter of Abi Sabra (the wife of Mu`adh), and two other women; or the daughter of Abi Sabra and the wife of Mu`adh and another woman.
Hadith Reference Sahih Bukhari / The Book of Al-Janaiz (Funerals) / Hadith: 1306
Hadith Grading محدثین: أحاديث صحيح البخاريّ كلّها صحيحة