صحيح البخاري
Bukhari
كتاب النكاحThe Book of (The Wedlock)
بَابُ قَوْلِ اللَّهِ جَلَّ وَعَزَّ: {وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ النِّسَاءِ أَوْ أَكْنَنْتُمْ فِي أَنْفُسِكُمْ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ} الآيَةَ إِلَى قَوْلِهِ: {غَفُورٌ حَلِيمٌ} :Chapter. The Statement of Allah: “And there is no sin on you if you make a hint of betrothal or conceal it in yourself, Allah knows... (up to)... Oft-Forgiving, Most Forbearing.” (V.2:235)
Hadith 5124
اُردوEn
أَضْمَرْتُمْ وَكُلُّ شَيْءٍ صُنْتَهُ وَأَضْمَرْتَهُ فَهُوَ مَكْنُونٌ.
«أكننتم» means «اضمرتم», that is, everything which you protect and conceal in your heart is called «مكنون».
وَقَالَ لِي طَلْقٌ : حَدَّثَنَا زَائِدَةُ ، عَنْ مَنْصُورٍ ، عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ ، عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ فِيمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ النِّسَاءِ سورة البقرة آية 235 ، يَقُولُ : إِنِّي أُرِيدُ التَّزْوِيجَ وَلَوَدِدْتُ أَنَّهُ تَيَسَّرَ لِي امْرَأَةٌ صَالِحَةٌ ، وَقَالَ الْقَاسِمُ : يَقُولُ : إِنَّكِ عَلَيَّ كَرِيمَةٌ وَإِنِّي فِيكِ لَرَاغِبٌ وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَسَائِقٌ إِلَيْكِ خَيْرًا أَوْ نَحْوَ هَذَا ، وَقَالَ عَطَاءٌ : يُعَرِّضُ وَلَا يَبُوحُ ، يَقُولُ : إِنَّ لِي حَاجَةً وَأَبْشِرِي وَأَنْتِ بِحَمْدِ اللَّهِ نَافِقَةٌ ، وَتَقُولُ هِيَ : قَدْ أَسْمَعُ مَا تَقُولُ وَلَا تَعِدُ شَيْئًا وَلَا يُوَاعِدُ وَلِيُّهَا بِغَيْرِ عِلْمِهَا ، وَإِنْ وَاعَدَتْ رَجُلًا فِي عِدَّتِهَا ، ثُمَّ نَكَحَهَا بَعْدُ لَمْ يُفَرَّقْ بَيْنَهُمَا ، وَقَالَ الْحَسَنُ : " لَا تُوَاعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا الزِّنَا ، وَيُذْكَرُ عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ : " حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ الْكِتَابُ أَجَلَهُ تَنْقَضِيَ الْعِدَّةُ ".
Ibn `Abbas said: "Hint your intention of marrying' is made by saying (to the widow) for example: "I want to marry, and I wish that Allah will make a righteous lady available for me.' " Al-Qasim said: One may say to the widow: 'I hold all respect for you, and I am interested in you; Allah will bring you much good, or something similar 'Ata said: One should hint his intention, and should not declare it openly. One may say: 'I have some need. Have good tidings. Praise be to Allah; you are fit to remarry.' She (the widow) may say in reply: I am listening to what you say,' but she should not make a promise. Her guardian should not make a promise (to somebody to get her married to him) without her knowledge. But if, while still in the Iddat period, she makes a promise to marry somebody, and he ultimately marries her, they are not to be separated by divorce (i.e., the marriage is valid).
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
(1)
Imam Bukhari rahimahullah has narrated a report from Ibn Abbas radi Allahu anhuma regarding whether or not a marriage proposal may be given to a woman during her waiting period (‘iddah). Meanwhile, there are also marfu‘ (attributed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) hadiths recorded in the books of hadith. For example:
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to Fatimah bint Qays radi Allahu anhuma, who was observing her waiting period after receiving her final divorce:
“When your waiting period (‘iddah) is over, inform me.”
(Sahih Muslim, Book of Divorce, Hadith: 3697 (1480))
In another narration, it is mentioned that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent a message during her waiting period:
“Do not make any decision regarding yourself in haste without consulting me.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud, Book of Divorce, Hadith: 2286)
Hafiz Ibn Hajar rahimahullah has written:
It is forbidden to give a clear marriage proposal to any woman during her waiting period (‘iddah), whether it is the waiting period due to death (of her husband) or due to divorce.
And the waiting period of divorce, whether it is revocable (raj‘i) or irrevocable (ba’inah).
This ruling applies to every type of woman; however, indirect hints and allusions (ta‘ridh) are permissible during the waiting period of death, but not during the waiting period of revocable divorce.
(Fath al-Bari: 9/224)
The purpose is that a widow may be given a hint of a marriage proposal during her waiting period, but it is not correct to speak in explicit terms.
After the waiting period, it is permissible to speak clearly, as the Noble Qur’an has permitted this.
(1)
Imam Bukhari rahimahullah has narrated a report from Ibn Abbas radi Allahu anhuma regarding whether or not a marriage proposal may be given to a woman during her waiting period (‘iddah). Meanwhile, there are also marfu‘ (attributed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) hadiths recorded in the books of hadith. For example:
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to Fatimah bint Qays radi Allahu anhuma, who was observing her waiting period after receiving her final divorce:
“When your waiting period (‘iddah) is over, inform me.”
(Sahih Muslim, Book of Divorce, Hadith: 3697 (1480))
In another narration, it is mentioned that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent a message during her waiting period:
“Do not make any decision regarding yourself in haste without consulting me.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud, Book of Divorce, Hadith: 2286)
Hafiz Ibn Hajar rahimahullah has written:
It is forbidden to give a clear marriage proposal to any woman during her waiting period (‘iddah), whether it is the waiting period due to death (of her husband) or due to divorce.
And the waiting period of divorce, whether it is revocable (raj‘i) or irrevocable (ba’inah).
This ruling applies to every type of woman; however, indirect hints and allusions (ta‘ridh) are permissible during the waiting period of death, but not during the waiting period of revocable divorce.
(Fath al-Bari: 9/224)
The purpose is that a widow may be given a hint of a marriage proposal during her waiting period, but it is not correct to speak in explicit terms.
After the waiting period, it is permissible to speak clearly, as the Noble Qur’an has permitted this.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 5124
