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صحيح البخاري
Bukhari
كتاب أحاديث الأنبياءThe Book of The Stories of The Prophets
بَابُ قَوْلِ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى: {وَإِذْ قَالَ رَبُّكَ لِلْمَلاَئِكَةِ إِنِّي جَاعِلٌ فِي الأَرْضِ خَلِيفَةً} :(1b) Chapter.
Hadith 3331
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كُرَيْبٍ وَمُوسَى بْنُ حِزَامٍ ، قَالَا : حَدَّثَنَا حُسَيْنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ ، عَنْ زَائِدَةَ ، عَنْ مَيْسَرَةَ الْأَشْجَعِيِّ ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَرَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " اسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ وَإِنَّ أَعْوَجَ شَيْءٍ فِي الضِّلَعِ أَعْلَاهُ ، فَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهُ كَسَرْتَهُ ، وَإِنْ تَرَكْتَهُ لَمْ يَزَلْ أَعْوَجَ فَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ " .
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah 's Apostle said, "Treat women nicely, for a women is created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion, so, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely."
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Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Abdul Sattar al-Hammad
Hadith Commentary:
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There is crookedness in the creation of women; therefore, benefit from them in this state and do not try to straighten them according to your own temperament, because it is possible that, due to their inherent nature, they may not agree with your opinions, and matters may escalate to disputes, which could lead to separation between you. Thus, in one hadith, this is clarified: the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
“If you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.”
(Sahih Muslim, al-Rada’, Hadith: 3643(715))
From this hadith, it is also understood that the crookedness of a woman is in her upper part, that is, her tongue; she will express her crookedness through her speech.
Furthermore, a woman is not quickly inclined to accept corrective training regarding her tongue; rather, sometimes the matter becomes even more intense than before. Therefore, one should be patient with her crookedness; therein lies goodness and blessing.
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It should be noted that a woman’s excessive silence and sealing her tongue at the time of bearing true witness are also among the fruits and branches of this crookedness.
Most women are afflicted with such excesses and deficiencies regarding their speech.
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There is crookedness in the creation of women; therefore, benefit from them in this state and do not try to straighten them according to your own temperament, because it is possible that, due to their inherent nature, they may not agree with your opinions, and matters may escalate to disputes, which could lead to separation between you. Thus, in one hadith, this is clarified: the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
“If you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.”
(Sahih Muslim, al-Rada’, Hadith: 3643(715))
From this hadith, it is also understood that the crookedness of a woman is in her upper part, that is, her tongue; she will express her crookedness through her speech.
Furthermore, a woman is not quickly inclined to accept corrective training regarding her tongue; rather, sometimes the matter becomes even more intense than before. Therefore, one should be patient with her crookedness; therein lies goodness and blessing.
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It should be noted that a woman’s excessive silence and sealing her tongue at the time of bearing true witness are also among the fruits and branches of this crookedness.
Most women are afflicted with such excesses and deficiencies regarding their speech.
Source: Hidayat al-Qari: Commentary on Sahih Bukhari, Urdu, Page: 3331
Shaykh Safi ur-Rahman Mubarakpuri
Takhrij:
«أخرجه البخاري، النكاح، باب الوصاة بالنساء، حديث:5185، 5186، ومسلم، الرضاع، باب الوصية بالنساء، حديث:1468.»©Explanation:
In this hadith, there is a command to live with women in kindness and to treat them well, and an exhortation to overlook and forgive their minor faults and shortcomings. It emphasizes bearing with their weaknesses and inappropriate actions, because these are part of their nature.
«أخرجه البخاري، النكاح، باب الوصاة بالنساء، حديث:5185، 5186، ومسلم، الرضاع، باب الوصية بالنساء، حديث:1468.»©Explanation:
In this hadith, there is a command to live with women in kindness and to treat them well, and an exhortation to overlook and forgive their minor faults and shortcomings. It emphasizes bearing with their weaknesses and inappropriate actions, because these are part of their nature.
Source: Bulugh al-Maram: Commentary by Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri, Page: 869
