الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل البر وصلة الرحمIssues of Righteousness and Maintaining Family Ties
بَابُ في بر الأولادِ وَالأقَارِبِ الْأَقْرَبِ فَالْاقْرَبِ اب مَا جَاءَ فِي نَمْرَةِ الأَوْلَادِ وَالتَّرْغِيْبِ فِي ادِيهِمْ وَالْعَطْفِ عَلَيْهِمْ
Chapter on dutifulness to children and close relatives, what has been narrated regarding the virtue of children, and encouragement towards kindness to them and compassion for them
Hadith 9015
عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَقِيرًا فَلْيَبْدَأْ بِنَفْسِهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ فَضْلًا فَعَلَى عِيَالِهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ فَضْلًا فَعَلَى ذَوِي قَرَابَتِهِ أَوْ قَالَ عَلَى ذَوِي رَحِمِهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ فَضْلًا فَهَا هُنَا وَهَا هُنَا
Sayyiduna Jabir bin Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with them) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: When any one of you is poor, he should begin with himself; if any wealth remains, he should spend it on his children; if there is still surplus wealth, he should spend it on his other relatives; and if there is still wealth left, then he should spend it here and there, that is, on other people.
Hadith 9016
عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِي كَرِبَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا أَطْعَمْتَ نَفْسَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ وَلَدَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ زَوْجَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَمَا أَطْعَمْتَ خَادِمَكَ فَهُوَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ
Sayyiduna Miqdam bin Ma’dikarib (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whatever you feed yourself, it will be charity for you; whatever you feed your children, that too will be charity for you; whatever you feed your wife, that too will be charity for you; and whatever you feed your servant, that too will be charity for you.
Hadith 9017
عَنْ ثَوْبَانَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ أَفْضَلُ دِينَارٍ دِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى عِيَالِهِ وَدِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ عَلَى دَابَّتِهِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ قَالَ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَبُو قِلَابَةَ مِنْ قِبَلِهِ بِرًّا بِالْعِيَالِ قَالَ وَأَيُّ رَجُلٍ أَعْظَمُ أَجْرًا مِنْ رَجُلٍ يُنْفِقُ عَلَى عِيَالِهِ صِغَارًا يُعِفُّهُمُ اللَّهُ بِهِ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Thawban (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: The most virtuous dinar is the one which a servant spends on his children, and it is the dinar which a man spends on his riding animal in the way of Allah. Then Abu Qilabah, while speaking about treating children well, said from himself: And who can be greater in reward and recompense than the person who spends on his small children, and thus Allah Almighty keeps them chaste through him.
Hadith 9018
عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِي كَرِبَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالْأَقْرَبِ فَالْأَقْرَبِ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Miqdam bin Ma'dikarib (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Indeed, Allah Almighty has enjoined you to bequeath regarding your closest relatives, and then those who come after them.
Hadith 9019
عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ أَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَذْنَبْتُ ذَنْبًا كَبِيرًا فَهَلْ لِي تَوْبَةٌ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَلَكَ وَالِدَانِ قَالَ لَا قَالَ فَلَكَ خَالَةٌ قَالَ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَبَرَّهَا إِذًا
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah! I have committed a very great sin, is there any possibility of repentance for me? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Are your parents alive? He said: No. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Do you have a maternal aunt? He said: Yes. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then do good to her.
Hadith 9020
عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ يَسَارٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنْ مَيْمُونَةَ زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ أَعْتَقْتُ جَارِيَةً لِي فَدَخَلَ عَلَيَّ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ بِعِتْقِهَا فَقَالَ آجَرَكِ اللَّهُ أَمَا إِنَّكِ لَوْ كُنْتِ أَعْطَيْتِهَا أَخْوَالَكِ كَانَ أَعْظَمَ لِأَجْرِكِ
It is narrated from the wife of the Prophet, Sayyida Maymunah (may Allah be pleased with her), she says: I freed one of my slave girls, then when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to me, I informed him about her emancipation. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: May Allah grant you reward, but if you had given her to your maternal uncles, there would have been more reward for you in that.
Hadith 9021
عَنْ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ قُلْتُ لِمُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ قُرَّةَ أَسَمِعْتَ أَنَسًا يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ لِلنُّعْمَانِ بْنِ مُقَرِّنٍ ابْنُ أُخْتِ الْقَوْمِ مِنْهُمْ قَالَ نَعَمْ
Imam Shu’bah says: I said to Mu’awiyah bin Qurrah: Did you hear from Sayyiduna Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) that he narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Sayyiduna Nu’man bin Muqarrin (may Allah be pleased with him): The nephew of the people is from among them. He said: Yes.
Hadith 9022
عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ عَلِيًّا رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ يَقُولُ اجْتَمَعْتُ أَنَا وَفَاطِمَةُ وَالْعَبَّاسُ وَزَيْدُ بْنُ حَارِثَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ الْعَبَّاسُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كَبِرَ سِنِّي وَرَقَّ عَظْمِي وَكَثُرَتْ مُؤْنَتِي فَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَنْ تَأْمُرَ لِي بِكَذَا وَكَذَا وَسْقًا مِنْ طَعَامٍ فَافْعَلْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَفْعَلُ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ قَالَ زَيْدُ بْنُ حَارِثَةَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كُنْتَ أَعْطَيْتَنِي أَرْضًا كَانَتْ مَعِيشَتِي مِنْهَا ثُمَّ قَبَضْتَهَا فَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ أَنْ تَرُدَّهَا عَلَيَّ فَافْعَلْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَفْعَلُ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ أَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنْ رَأَيْتَ أَنْ تُوَلِّيَنِي هَذَا الْحَقَّ الَّذِي جَعَلَهُ اللَّهُ لَنَا فِي كِتَابِهِ مِنْ هَذَا الْخُمُسِ فَأَقْسِمُهُ فِي حَيَاتِكَ كَيْ لَا يُنَازِعَنِيهِ أَحَدٌ بَعْدَكَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَفْعَلُ ذَلِكَ فَوَلَّانِيهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَسَمْتُهُ فِي حَيَاتِهِ ثُمَّ وَلَّانِيهِ أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَقَسَمْتُهُ فِي حَيَاتِهِ ثُمَّ وَلَّانِيهِ عُمَرُ فَقَسَمْتُهُ فِي حَيَاتِهِ حَتَّى كَانَتْ آخِرُ سَنَةٍ مِنْ سِنِي عُمَرَ فَإِنَّهُ أَتَاهُ مَالٌ كَثِيرٌ {وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّمَا غَنِمْتُمْ مِنْ شَيْءٍ فَأَنَّ لِلَّهِ خُمُسَهُ وَلِلرَّسُولِ وَلِذِي الْقُرْبَى} [الأنفال: 41]
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), he says: I, Sayyida Fatima, Sayyiduna Abbas, and Sayyiduna Zaid bin Haritha (may Allah be pleased with them), gathered in the presence of the Messenger of Allah. Sayyiduna Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O Messenger of Allah! Now I have grown old, my bones have become weak, and I have endured much hardship, so if you deem it appropriate, please order for me a certain amount of grain. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: We will do so. Then Sayyiduna Zaid bin Haritha (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O Messenger of Allah! You had given me a piece of land, which was my means of livelihood, but then you took it back; if you deem it appropriate, please give it to me again. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: We will do so. Then I said: O Messenger of Allah! If you deem it appropriate, appoint me as the guardian of that right which Allah Almighty has mentioned in His Book in the form of khumus, so that I may distribute it during your lifetime, so that after you no one may dispute with me about it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: We will do so. Thus, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) appointed me as its guardian, and I distributed it during his blessed life. Then Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) appointed me as its guardian, and I distributed it during his lifetime as well. Then Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) appointed me as its guardian, and I distributed it during his lifetime, until it was the last year of Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) and a great amount of wealth came to him.
Hadith 9023
عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ قَدِمَتْ عِيرٌ الْمَدِينَةَ فَاشْتَرَى النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَرَبِحَ أَوَاقِيَ فَقَسَمَهَا فِي أَرَامِلِ بَنِي عَبْدِ الْمُطَّلِبِ وَقَالَ لَا أَشْتَرِي شَيْئًا لَيْسَ عِنْدِي ثَمَنُهُ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them both, who says: A caravan arrived in Madinah Munawwarah. The Noble Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, bought something from them and earned a few uqiyyahs of profit from it, and then distributed it among the widows of Banu Abdul Muttalib and said: In the future, I will not buy anything for which I do not have the price with me.
Hadith 9024
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ كَانَ أَبُو طَلْحَةَ أَكْثَرَ أَنْصَارِيٍّ بِالْمَدِينَةِ مَالًا وَكَانَ أَحَبَّ أَمْوَالِهِ إِلَيْهِ بَيْرُحَاءَ وَكَانَتْ مُسْتَقْبِلَةَ الْمَسْجِدِ فَكَانَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَدْخُلُهَا وَيَشْرَبُ مِنْ مَاءٍ فِيهَا طَيِّبٍ قَالَ أَنَسٌ فَلَمَّا نَزَلَتْ {لَنْ تَنَالُوا الْبِرَّ حَتَّى تُنْفِقُوا مِمَّا تُحِبُّونَ} [آل عمران: 92] قَالَ أَبُو طَلْحَةَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَقُولُ {لَنْ تَنَالُوا الْبِرَّ حَتَّى تُنْفِقُوا مِمَّا تُحِبُّونَ} [آل عمران: 92] وَإِنَّ أَحَبَّ أَمْوَالِي إِلَيَّ بَيْرُحَاءُ وَإِنَّهَا صَدَقَةٌ لِلَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ أَرْجُو بِرَّهَا وَذُخْرَهَا عِنْدَ اللَّهِ فَاضَعْهَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ حَيْثُ أَرَاكَ اللَّهُ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ بَخٍ ذَلِكَ مَالٌ رَابِحٌ ذَلِكَ مَالٌ رَابِحٌ وَقَدْ سَمِعْتُ وَأَنَا أَرَى أَنْ تَجْعَلَهَا فِي الْأَقْرَبِينَ فَقَالَ أَبُو طَلْحَةَ أَفْعَلُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ فَقَسَمَهَا أَبُو طَلْحَةَ فِي أَقَارِبِهِ وَبَنِي عَمِّهِ
Narrated from Sayyiduna Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him), he says: Among the Ansar of Madinah Munawwarah, Sayyiduna Abu Talhah (may Allah be pleased with him) was the wealthiest, and his most beloved wealth was the garden of Birha’, which was in front of the mosque. The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to enter it and drink its sweet water. When this verse was revealed: {لَنْ تَنَالُوْا الْبِرَّ حَتّٰی تُنْفِقُوْا مِمَّا تُحِبُّوْنَ} … “You will never attain righteousness until you spend from that which you love,” Sayyiduna Abu Talhah said: O Messenger of Allah! Allah Almighty says: {لَنْ تَنَالُوْا الْبِرَّ حَتّٰی تُنْفِقُوْا مِمَّا تُحِبُّوْنَ} and my most beloved wealth is Birha’, so I give it in charity for the sake of Allah Almighty, and I hope for its goodness and treasure with Him. O Messenger of Allah! Distribute it as Allah gives you the ability. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Wonderful, wonderful! This is profitable wealth, this is profitable wealth. Indeed, I have heard what you have said, and I think you should distribute it among your relatives. Sayyiduna Abu Talhah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O Messenger of Allah! I will do so. Then he distributed that wealth among his relatives and paternal cousins.
Hadith 9025
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِذَا مَاتَ ابْنُ آدَمَ انْقَطَعَ عَمَلُهُ إِلَّا مِنْ ثَلَاثَةٍ إِلَّا مِنْ صَدَقَةٍ جَارِيَةٍ أَوْ عِلْمٍ يُنْتَفَعُ بِهِ أَوْ وَلَدٍ صَالِحٍ يَدْعُو لَهُ
Syedna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: When the son of Adam dies, his deeds come to an end except for three: ongoing charity, or knowledge from which benefit is derived, or a righteous child who prays for him.
Hadith 9026
عَنِ الْأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَدِمْتُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي وَفْدِ كِنْدَةَ فَقَالَ لِي هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ وَلَدٍ قُلْتُ غُلَامٌ وُلِدَ لِي فِي مَخْرَجِي إِلَيْكَ مِنِ ابْنَةِ جَمْدٍ وَلَوَدِدْتُ أَنْ مَكَانَهُ شَبِعَ الْقَوْمُ قَالَ لَا تَقُولَنَّ ذَلِكَ فَإِنَّ فِيهِمْ قُرَّةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَجْرًا إِذَا قُبِضُوا ثُمَّ وَلَئِنْ قُلْتَ ذَاكَ إِنَّهُمْ لَمَجْبَنَةٌ مَحْزَنَةٌ إِنَّهُمْ لَمَجْبَنَةٌ مَحْزَنَةٌ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ash'ath bin Qais (may Allah be pleased with him), he says: I came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) as part of the delegation of Kindah. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: Do you have children? I said: Just as I was leaving to come to you, a child was born to me from the womb of Bint Jamd, and I wish that instead of this child, people would eat their fill of food. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Never say such a thing, because some children become the coolness of the eyes, and when they pass away, there is reward (for the parents). Yet, if you say such a thing, these children become a cause of cowardice and grief; indeed, they become a cause of cowardice and grief.
Hadith 9027
عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ قَالَ زَعَمَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَةُ خَوْلَةُ بِنْتُ حَكِيمٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ خَرَجَ مُحْتَضِنًا أَحَدَ ابْنَيِ ابْنَتِهِ وَهُوَ يَقُولُ وَاللَّهِ إِنَّكُمْ لَتُجَبِّنُونَ وَتُبَخِّلُونَ وَإِنَّكُمْ لَمِنْ رَيْحَانِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَإِنَّ آخِرَ وَطْأَةٍ وَطِئَهَا اللَّهُ بِوَجٍّ قَالَ سُفْيَانُ مَرَّةً إِنَّكُمْ لَتُبَخِّلُونَ وَإِنَّكُمْ لَتُجَبِّنُونَ
Umar bin Abdul Aziz says: A woman, Sayyida Khawla bint Hakim (may Allah be pleased with her), thinks that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) came out carrying one of his daughter's two sons in his lap and he (peace and blessings be upon him) was saying: By Allah! You make one cowardly and miserly, while you are also a fragrant thing created by Allah, and by the command of Allah, the last battle, Wajj, that is, in Taif, took place.
Hadith 9028
حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ ثَابِتٍ الْجَزَرِيُّ عَنْ نَاصِحٍ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ عَنْ سِمَاكِ بْنِ حَرْبٍ عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ سَمُرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لَأَنْ يُؤَدِّبَ الرَّجُلُ وَلَدَهُ أَوْ أَحَدُكُمْ وَلَدَهُ خَيْرٌ لَهُ مِنْ أَنْ يَتَصَدَّقَ كُلَّ يَوْمٍ بِنِصْفِ صَاعٍ قَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ وَهَذَا الْحَدِيثُ لَمْ يُخْرِجْهُ أَبِي فِي مُسْنَدِهِ مِنْ أَجْلِ نَاصِحٍ لِأَنَّهُ ضَعِيفٌ فِي الْحَدِيثِ وَأَمْلَاهُ عَلَيَّ فِي النَّوَادِرِ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Jabir bin Samurah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: For a man to teach his child manners and good character is better than giving half a sa’ in charity every day. Abdullah, the son of Imam Ahmad, said: My father did not include this hadith in his Musnad because of the narrator Nasih, as he is weak in hadith, and he dictated it to me in Nawadir.
Hadith 9029
حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ قَالَ أَنَا عَامِرُ بْنُ صَالِحِ بْنِ رُسْتُمَ الْمُزَنِيُّ ثَنَا أَيُّوبُ بْنُ مُوسَى بْنِ عَمْرٍو بْنِ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْعَاصِ قَالَ أَوِ ابْنُ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْعَاصِ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ جَدِّهِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا نَحَلَ وَالِدٌ وَلَدَهُ أَفْضَلَ مِنْ أَدَبٍ حَسَنٍ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ حَدَّثَنَا بِهِ خَلْفُ بْنُ هِشَامٍ الْبَزَّارُ وَالْقَوَارِيرِيُّ قَالَا ثَنَا عَامِرُ بْنُ أَبِي عَامِرٍ بِإِسْنَادِهِ فَذَكَرَ مِثْلَهُ
Sayyiduna Saeed bin Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Parents have not given their child any gift better than good manners.
Hadith 9030
عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَوْصَاهُ بِعَشْرِ كَلِمَاتٍ (مِنْهَا) وَأَنْفِقْ عَلَى عِيَالِكَ مِنْ طَوْلِكَ وَلَا تَرْفَعْ عَنْهُمْ عَصَاكَ أَدَبًا وَأَخِفْهُمْ فِي اللَّهِ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) advised him with ten things, among which were these three: Spend on your family according to your financial means, do not keep the stick away from them for the sake of teaching them discipline, and keep instilling in them the fear of Allah Almighty.
Hadith 9031
۔ عَنِ النُّعْمَانِ بْنِ بَشِیْرٍ رضی اللہ عنہ ، قَالَ اِنَّ اَبِیْ بَشِیْرًا وَھَبَ لِیْ ھِبَۃً، فَقَالَتْ اُمِّیْ: اَشْھِدْ عَلَیْھَا رَسُوْلَ اللّٰہِ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم فَاَخَذَ بِیَدِیْ فَانْطَلَقَ بِیْ حَتّٰی اَتَیْنَا رَسُوْلَ اللّٰہِ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم ِ، فَقَالَ: یَارَسُوْلَ اللّٰہِ! اِنَّ اُمَّ ھٰذَا الْغُلَامِ سَاَلَتْنِیْ اَنْ اَھَبَ لَہُ ھِبَۃً فَوَھَبْتُھَا لَہُ، فَقَالَتْ: اَشْھِدْ عَلَیْھَا رَسُوْلَ اللّٰہِ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم ، فَاَتَیْتُکَ لِاُشْھِدُکَ، فَقَالَ: ((رُوَیْدَکَ، اَلَکَ وَلَدٌ غَیْرُہُ؟)) قَالَ: نَعَمْ، قَالَ: ((کُلُّھُمْ اَعْطَیْتَہُ کَمَا اَعْطَیْتَہُ؟)) قَالَ: لا، قَالَ: ((فَـلَا تُشْھِدْنِیْ اِذًا، اِنِّیْ لا اَشْھَدُ عَلٰی جَوْرٍ، اِنَّ لِبَنِیْکَ عَلَیْکَ مِنَ الْحَقِّ اَنْ تَعْدِلَ بَیْنَھُمْ۔))
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Nu’man bin Bashir (may Allah be pleased with both of them), he says: My father, Sayyiduna Bashir (may Allah be pleased with him), gave me a gift. My mother demanded from him that he make the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) a witness to this gift. So he took my hand and set out with me until we reached the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). He said: O Messenger of Allah! The mother of this child first demanded from me that I give him a gift, and now her demand is that I make you a witness to it, so I have come to you to make you a witness. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Wait a moment, do you have any other children? He said: Yes. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then have you given each of them this gift? He said: No. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then there is no need to make me a witness, I cannot be a witness to injustice. It is the right of your sons over you that you do justice among them.
Hadith 9032
۔ (وَفِیْ لَفْظٍ) فَقَالَ: النَّبِیُّ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم : ((فَاَشْھِدْ غَیْرِیْ۔)) ثُمَّ قَالَ: ((اَلَیْسَیَسُرُّکَ اَنْ یَّکُوْنُوْا فِی الْبِرِّ سَوَائً ؟)) قَالَ: بَلٰی، وَفِیْ لَفْظٍ: ((اِنَّ لَھُمْ عَلَیْکَ مِنَ الْحَقِّ اَنْ تَعْدِلَ بَیْنَھُمْ کَمَا اَنَّ لَکَ عَلَیْھِمْ مِنَ الْحَقِّ اَنْ یَّبَرُّوْکَ۔))
In one narration, it is stated that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then appoint someone other than me as a witness. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Does it not please you that your children should do good to you equally? They replied: Yes, of course. In another narration, it is stated: Your children have this right over you that you deal justly among them, just as you have the right over them that they all do good to you.
Hadith 9033
۔ وَعَنْہُ اَیْضًا، اَنَّ رَسُوْلَ اللّٰہِ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم قَالَ: ((قَارِبُوْا بَیْنَ اَبْنَائِکُمْ یَعْنِیْ سَوُّوْا بَیْنَھُمْ۔)) وَفِیْ لَفْظٍ: ((اِعْدِلُوْا بَیْنَ اَبْنَائِکُمْ، اِعْدِلُوْا بَیْنَ اَبْنَائِکُمْ، اِعْدِلُوْا بَیْنَ اَبْنَائِکُمْ۔))
Sayyiduna Nu’man bin Bashir (may Allah be pleased with both of them) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Treat your sons equally. In another narration: Be just among your sons, act with justice among your children, adopt an attitude of equality between your sons and daughters.
Hadith 9034
۔ عَنْ اَبِیْ ھُرَیْرَۃَ رضی اللہ عنہ ، اَبْصَرَ النَّبِیَّ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم الْاَقْرَعُ یُقَبِّلُ حَسَنًا، فَقَالَ: لِیْ عَشَرَۃٌ مِّنَ الْوَلَدِ، مَا قَبَّلْتُ اَحَدًا مِنْھُمْ قَطُّ! قَالَ: ((اِنَّہُ مَنْ لَایَرْحَمُ لَایُرْحَمُ۔))
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that Sayyiduna Aqra’ (may Allah be pleased with him) saw the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) kissing Sayyiduna Hasan (may Allah be pleased with him) and said: I have ten children, and I have not kissed any of them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.
Hadith 9035
۔ وَعَنْہُ اَیْضًا، قَالَ: دَخَلَ عُیَیْنَۃُ بْنُ حِصْنٍ عَلٰی رَسُوْلِ اللّٰہِ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم فَرَآہُ یُقَبِّلُ حَسَنًا اَوْ حُسَیْنًا، فَقَالَ لَہُ: لا تُقَبِّلْہُ یَارَسُوْلَ اللّٰہِ! لَقَدْ وُلِدَ لِیْ عَشَرَۃٌ مَا قَبَّلْتُ اَحَدًا مِنْھُمْ، فَقَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللّٰہِ صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم : ((اِنَّ مَنْ لایَرْحَمُ لایُرْحَمُ۔))
Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) also narrates that Sayyiduna ‘Uyainah bin Hisn (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and saw that he (peace and blessings be upon him) was kissing Sayyiduna Hasan or Sayyiduna Husayn (may Allah be pleased with them). He said: O Messenger of Allah! Do not kiss them; I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.
