الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل البر وصلة الرحمIssues of Righteousness and Maintaining Family Ties
بَابُ مَا جَاءَ فِي بِرُ الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَحُقُوقِهَا وَالتَّرْغِيْبِ فِي ذلِكَ
Chapter on what has been narrated regarding dutifulness to parents, their rights, and encouragement towards that
Hadith 8989
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ أَحَبَّ أَنْ يُمَدَّ لَهُ فِي عُمْرِهِ وَأَنْ يُزَادَ لَهُ فِي رِزْقِهِ فَلْيَبَرَّ وَالِدَيْهِ وَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ
Narrated by Sayyiduna Anas bin Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: Whoever wishes that his life be prolonged and his sustenance increased, let him be kind to his parents and maintain the ties of kinship.
Hadith 8990
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا يَجْزِي وَلَدٌ وَالِدَهُ إِلَّا أَنْ يَجِدَهُ مَمْلُوكًا فَيَشْتَرِيَهُ فَيُعْتِقَهُ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: No child can repay his father or mother, except that he finds them as a slave and buys them and sets them free.
Hadith 8991
عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَوْصَاهُ بِعَشْرِ كَلِمَاتٍ (مِنْهَا) وَلَا تَعُقَّنَّ وَالِدَيْكَ وَإِنْ أَمَرَاكَ أَنْ تَخْرُجَ مِنْ أَهْلِكَ وَمَالِكَ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) advised him with ten instructions, one of which was: And you must never disobey your parents, even if they command you to separate from your family and wealth.
Hadith 8992
عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ جِئْتُ لِأُبَايِعَكَ (زَادَ فِي رِوَايَةٍ أُخْرَى عَلَى الْهِجْرَةِ) وَتَرَكْتُ أَبَوَيَّ يَبْكِيَانِ قَالَ فَارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِمَا فَأَضْحِكْهُمَا كَمَا أَبْكَيْتَهُمَا وَأَبَى أَنْ يُبَايِعَهُ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both), he says: A man came to the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: I have come to you to pledge allegiance for migration, but I left my parents in a state that they were crying. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then go back to them, and just as you made them cry, make them laugh in the same way. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) refused to accept his pledge of allegiance.
Hadith 8993
وَعَنْهُ أَيْضًا رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ رَأَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَحْتَ هَذِهِ الشَّجَرَةِ إِذْ أَقْبَلَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ هَذَا الشِّعْبِ فَسَلَّمَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ثُمَّ قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي قَدْ أَرَدْتُ الْجِهَادَ مَعَكَ أَبْتَغِي بِذَلِكَ وَجْهَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ قَالَ هَلْ مِنْ أَبَوَيْكَ أَحَدٌ حَيٌّ قَالَ نَعَمْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كِلَاهُمَا قَالَ فَارْجِعْ ابْرَرْ أَبَوَيْكَ قَالَ فَوَلَّى رَاجِعًا مِنْ حَيْثُ جَاءَ
It is also narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both), he says: I saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) under that tree, when suddenly a man came from that valley and greeted you (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: I intend to perform jihad with you, my purpose is to attain the pleasure of Allah Almighty and the home of the Hereafter. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Are either of your parents alive? He said: Yes, O Messenger of Allah! Both are alive. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then go back and do good to your parents. So he returned to where he had come from.
Hadith 8994
(وَعَنْهُ مِنْ طَرِيقٍ ثَانٍ) أَنَّ رَجُلًا جَاءَ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَسْتَأْذِنُهُ فِي الْجِهَادِ فَقَالَ أَحَيٌّ وَالِدَاكَ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَفِيهِمَا فَجَاهِدْ
(Second chain) A man came to the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) seeking permission for jihad. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Are your parents alive? He replied: Yes. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then serve them, for that is your jihad.
Hadith 8995
عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ هَاجَرَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنَ الْيَمَنِ فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ هَجَرْتَ الشِّرْكَ وَلَكِنَّهُ الْجِهَادُ هَلْ بِالْيَمَنِ أَبَوَاكَ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ أَذِنَا لَكَ قَالَ لَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ ارْجِعْ إِلَى أَبَوَيْكَ فَاسْتَأْذِنْهُمَا فَإِنْ فَعَلَا وَإِلَّا فَبَرَّهُمَا
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Sa'id Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man migrated from Yemen to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: You have indeed left shirk, but jihad still remains. Tell me, are your parents alive in Yemen? He said: Yes. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Did they give you permission? He replied: No. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then return to your parents and seek their permission. If they permit you, then fine; otherwise, continue doing good to them.
Hadith 8996
عَنْ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ جَاهِمَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَرَدْتُ الْغَزْوَ وَجِئْتُكَ أَسْتَشِيرُكَ فَقَالَ هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ أُمٍّ قَالَ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ الْزَمْهَا فَإِنَّ الْجَنَّةَ عِنْدَ رِجْلِهَا ثُمَّ الثَّانِيَةَ ثُمَّ الثَّالِثَةَ فِي مَقَاعِدَ شَتَّى كَمِثْلِ هَذَا الْقَوْلِ
Sayyiduna Muawiyah bin Jahimah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah! I want to perform jihad with you and I have come to consult you. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Is your mother alive? He replied: Yes. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet. The narrator then related this hadith in the same way in a second and third gathering.
Hadith 8997
عَنِ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَيُّ الْعَمَلِ أَحَبُّ إِلَى اللَّهِ قَالَ الصَّلَاةُ عَلَى وَقْتِهَا قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ أَيٌّ قَالَ ثُمَّ بِرُّ الْوَالِدَيْنِ قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ أَيٌّ قَالَ ثُمَّ الْجِهَادُ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ قَالَ فَحَدَّثَنِي بِهِنَّ وَلَوِ اسْتَزَدْتُهُ لَزَادَنِي
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him), he says: I asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) which deed is most beloved to Allah Almighty? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: To perform the prayer at its appointed time. I said: Then which one? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then being good to parents. I said: Then which one? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then striving in the way of Allah. He (peace and blessings be upon him) mentioned these matters to me, and if I had asked for more, he (peace and blessings be upon him) would have told me more.
Hadith 8998
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَجُلٍ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ أَحَدَهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا عِنْدَهُ الْكِبَرَ فَلَمْ يُدْخِلْهُ الْجَنَّةَ (وَفِي لَفْظٍ) فَلَمْ يُدْخِلَاهُ الْجَنَّةَ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: May the nose of that person be rubbed in dust, may his nose be rubbed in dust, may his nose be rubbed in dust, who found his parents, both of them or one of them, in old age, but they did not cause him to enter Paradise.
Hadith 8999
عَنْ أُبَيِّ بْنِ مَالِكٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ مَنْ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ أَوْ أَحَدَهُمَا ثُمَّ دَخَلَ النَّارَ مِنْ بَعْدِ ذَلِكَ فَأَبْعَدَهُ اللَّهُ وَأَسْحَقَهُ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abi bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whoever finds both of his parents or even one of them, but still enters Hell, may Allah distance him and destroy him.
Hadith 9000
عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِي كَرِبَ الْكِنْدِيِّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِآبَائِكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالْأَقْرَبِ فَالْأَقْرَبِ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Miqdam bin Ma’dikarib Kindi (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Verily, Allah enjoins you concerning your mothers; verily, Allah enjoins you concerning your fathers; verily, Allah enjoins you concerning, after them, the next closest and then the next closest relatives.
Hadith 9001
عَنْ خِدَاشِ بْنِ سَلَامَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ أُوصِي امْرَأً بِأُمِّهِ أُوصِي امْرَأً بِأُمِّهِ أُوصِي امْرَأً بِأُمِّهِ أُوصِي امْرَأً بِأَبِيهِ أُوصِي امْرَأً بِأَبِيهِ أُوصِي امْرَأً بِمَوْلَاهُ الَّذِي يَلِيهِ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ عَلَيْهِ فِيهِ أَذَاةٌ تُؤْذِيهِ
Sayyiduna Khudash bin Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: I advise a man regarding his mother, I advise a man regarding his mother, I advise a man regarding his mother, I advise a man regarding his father, I advise a man regarding his father, I advise a man regarding his servant who is serving him, even if, because of him, he faces some hardship that truly causes him pain.
Hadith 9002
عَنْ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ حَيْدَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَنْ أَبَرُّ قَالَ أُمَّكَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ ثُمَّ أُمَّكَ قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ أُمَّكَ قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ ثُمَّ أَبَاكَ ثُمَّ الْأَقْرَبَ فَالْأَقْرَبَ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Muawiyah bin Haydah (may Allah be pleased with him), he says: I said, "O Messenger of Allah! To whom should I do good?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "To your mother." I said, "After her, to whom?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "To your mother." I said, "O Messenger of Allah! Then to whom?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "To your mother." I said, "Then to whom?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Then to your father, and then to the nearest of your relatives, and then to those who are next nearest."
Hadith 9003
وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَحْوُهُ إِلَّا قَوْلَهُ ثُمَّ الْأَقْرَبَ فَالْأَقْرَبَ
Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) has also narrated a similar hadith of the Prophet, however, the following words are not included in it: then the nearest relatives, and after them, those who are even nearer.
Hadith 9004
عَنْ أَبِي أُسَيْدٍ السَّاعِدِيِّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ صَاحِبِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَكَانَ بَدْرِيًّا وَكَانَ مَوْلَاهُمْ قَالَ أَبُو أُسَيْدٍ بَيْنَمَا أَنَا جَالِسٌ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذْ جَاءَ رَجُلٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ هَلْ بَقِيَ عَلَيَّ مِنْ بِرِّ أَبَوَيَّ شَيْءٌ بَعْدَ مَوْتِهِمَا أَبَرُّهُمَا بِهِ قَالَ نَعَمْ خِصَالٌ أَرْبَعَةٌ الصَّلَاةُ عَلَيْهِمَا وَالِاسْتِغْفَارُ لَهُمَا وَإِنْفَاذُ عَهْدِهِمَا وَإِكْرَامُ صَدِيقِهِمَا وَصِلَةُ الرَّحِمِ الَّتِي لَا رَحِمَ لَكَ إِلَّا مِنْ قِبَلِهِمَا فَهُوَ الَّذِي بَقِيَ عَلَيْكَ مِنْ بِرِّهِمَا بَعْدَ مَوْتِهِمَا
It is narrated from the Companion of the Messenger, Sayyiduna Abu Usaid Sa‘idi (may Allah be pleased with him), who was a participant of Badr and his freed slave, that he said: I was sitting with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) when an Ansari man came to him and said: Is there anything left, after the death of my parents, by which I can do good to them? The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Yes, absolutely, there are four things: praying for mercy for them, seeking forgiveness for them, fulfilling their promises, honoring their friends, and maintaining ties with those who are related only through them. These are the matters that remain upon you even after their death.
Hadith 9005
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ ثَنَا شُعْبَةُ عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيَّ يُحَدِّثُ أَنَّ رَجُلًا أَمَرَتْهُ أُمُّهُ أَوْ أَبُوهُ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا قَالَ شُعْبَةُ يَقُولُ ذَلِكَ أَنْ يُطَلِّقَ امْرَأَتَهُ فَجَعَلَ عَلَيْهِ مِائَةَ مُحَرَّرٍ فَأَتَى أَبَا الدَّرْدَاءِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ فَإِذَا هُوَ يُصَلِّي الضُّحَى يُطِيلُهَا فَصَلَّى مَا بَيْنَ الظَّهْرِ وَالْعَصْرِ فَسَأَلَهُ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ أَوْفِ بِنَذْرِكَ وَبَرَّ وَالِدَيْكَ إِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ الْوَالِدُ أَوْسَطُ بَابِ الْجَنَّةِ فَحَافِظْ عَلَى الْوَالِدِ أَوِ اتْرُكْ
Abu Abdur Rahman Salmi narrates that a man was ordered by his mother, or his father, or both, to divorce his wife, but he vowed to free one hundred slaves if he divorced her. Then he came to Sayyiduna Abu Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him) while he was performing the Duha prayer at length. He also prayed between Zuhr and Asr. That man asked him a question. Sayyiduna Abu Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him) replied: Fulfill your vow and be good to your parents, because I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: The father is the middle gate of Paradise; now it is up to you whether you protect that gate or waste it.
Hadith 9006
(وَمِنْ طَرِيقٍ ثَانٍ) عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السُّلَمِيِّ أَيْضًا قَالَ أَتَى رَجُلٌ أَبَا الدَّرْدَاءِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ فَقَالَ إِنَّ امْرَأَتِي بِنْتُ عَمِّي وَأَنَا أُحِبُّهَا وَإِنَّ وَالِدَتِي تَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أُطَلِّقَهَا فَقَالَ لَا آمُرُكَ أَنْ تُطَلِّقَهَا وَلَا آمُرُكَ أَنْ تَعْصِيَ وَالِدَتَكَ وَلَكِنْ أُحَدِّثُكَ حَدِيثًا سَمِعْتُهُ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ إِنَّ الْوَالِدَةَ أَوْسَطُ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ فَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَأَمْسِكْ وَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَدَعْ
(Second chain) Abu Abdur Rahman Salmi says: A man came to Sayyiduna Abu Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him) and said: My wife is my paternal cousin and I also love her, but my mother orders me to divorce her. He (Abu Darda’) said: I neither order you to divorce her nor do I say that you should disobey your parents. However, I will narrate to you the hadith which I myself heard from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Indeed, the mother is the middle gate of the gates of Paradise, so you may either guard this gate or leave it if you wish.
Hadith 9007
(وَعَنْهُ مِنْ طَرِيقٍ ثَالِثٍ) قَالَ كَانَ فِينَا رَجُلٌ لَمْ تَزَلْ بِهِ أُمُّهُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ حَتَّى تَزَوَّجَ ثُمَّ أَمَرَتْهُ أَنْ يُفَارِقَهَا فَرَحَلَ إِلَى أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ بِالشَّامِ فَقَالَ إِنَّ أُمِّي لَمْ تَزَلْ بِي حَتَّى تَزَوَّجْتُ ثُمَّ أَمَرَتْنِي أَنْ أُفَارِقَ قَالَ مَا أَنَا بِالَّذِي آمُرُكَ أَنْ تُفَارِقَ وَمَا أَنَا بِالَّذِي آمُرُكَ أَنْ تُمْسِكَ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ الْوَالِدُ أَوْسَطُ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ فَأَضِعْ ذَلِكَ الْبَابَ أَوِ احْفَظْ قَالَ فَرَجَعَ وَقَدْ فَارَقَهَا
(Third chain of narration) He says: There was a man among us whose mother kept insisting that he get married. Eventually, he got married. Then the same mother began to order him to divorce her. That man went to Sayyiduna Abu Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him) in Syria and said: First my mother insisted that I get married until I did so, but now she orders me to divorce her. He said: I will neither order you to divorce her nor to keep her. I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: The father is the middle gate of Paradise, so either neglect that gate or protect it. Hearing this hadith, he returned and divorced his wife.
Hadith 9008
عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ كَانَتْ تَحْتِي امْرَأَةٌ أُحِبُّهَا وَكَانَ عُمَرُ يَكْرَهُهَا فَأَمَرَنِي أَنْ أُطَلِّقَهَا فَأَبَيْتُ فَأَتَى النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ عِنْدَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ امْرَأَةً كَرِهْتُهَا لَهُ فَأَمَرْتُهُ أَنْ يُطَلِّقَهَا فَأَبَى فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَا عَبْدَ اللَّهِ طَلِّقْ امْرَأَتَكَ فَطَلَّقَهَا (وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ عَنْهُ أَيْضًا) فَقَالَ أَطِعْ أَبَاكَ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), he says: I had a wife whom I liked, but my father, Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him), disliked her, so he ordered me to divorce her. However, I did not accept his word. Then he went to the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah! My son Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) has a wife whom I dislike, so I ordered him to divorce her, but he refused to do so. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: O Abdullah! Divorce your wife. So he divorced her. In another narration, it is mentioned: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Obey your father.
Hadith 9009
عَنْ عِيَاضِ بْنِ مَرْثَدٍ أَوْ مَرْثَدِ بْنِ عِيَاضٍ عَنْ رَجُلٍ مِنْهُمْ أَنَّهُ سَأَلَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَخْبِرْنِي بِعَمَلٍ يُدْخِلُنِيَ الْجَنَّةَ قَالَ هَلْ مِنْ وَالِدَيْكَ مِنْ أَحَدٍ حَيٌّ قَالَ لَهُ مَرَّاتٍ قَالَ لَا قَالَ فَاسْقِ الْمَاءَ قَالَ كَيْفَ أَسْقِيهِ قَالَ اكْفِهِمْ آلَتَهُ إِذَا حَضَرُوهُ وَاحْمِلْهُ إِلَيْهِمْ إِذَا غَابُوا عَنْهُ
Sayyiduna Iyad bin Murthad or Murthad bin Iyad (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates from a servant of his family that he asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah! Tell me about an action that will admit me into Paradise. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Are either of your parents alive? He said: No. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Then give water (to people). He said: How should I give water? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: When people are present, suffice them regarding the means of water, and if they are absent, then pick it up and take it to them.
Hadith 9010
عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ أُمِّي (وَفِي لَفْظٍ أَتَتْنِي أُمِّي) وَهِيَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ إِذْ عَاهَدُوا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقُلْتُ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ وَهِيَ رَاغِبَةٌ أَفَأَصِلُهَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ {وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا} [لقمان: 15]
It is narrated from Sayyida Asma bint Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with them both, she says: My mother came to me while she was a polytheist. This was at the time when the Quraysh had a treaty with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him. I asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him: My mother has come to me and she desires some help from me; should I maintain ties of kinship with her? He, peace and blessings be upon him, said: Yes, maintain ties of kinship with your mother.
Hadith 9011
(وَعَنْهَا مِنْ طَرِيقٍ ثَانٍ) قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ عَلَيَّ أُمِّي فِي مُدَّةِ قُرَيْشٍ (وَفِي لَفْظٍ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ وَمُدَّتِهِمُ الَّتِي كَانَتْ بَيْنَهُمْ وَبَيْنَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ) مُشْرِكَةً وَهِيَ رَاغِبَةٌ يَعْنِي مُحْتَاجَةً فَسَأَلْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ عَلَيَّ وَهِيَ مُشْرِكَةٌ رَاغِبَةٌ أَفَأَصِلُهَا قَالَ صِلِي أُمَّكِ {وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا} [لقمان: 15]
(Second chain) Sayyida Asma (may Allah be pleased with her) said: My mother came to me; this was during the period when there was a treaty between the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and the Quraysh. My mother was a polytheist and in need. I asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah! My mother has come to me, she is a polytheist and desires help, should I maintain ties of kinship with her? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Maintain ties of kinship with your mother.
Hadith 9012
عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ دِينَارٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا أَنَّ أَعْرَابِيًّا مَرَّ عَلَيْهِ وَهُمْ فِي طَرِيقِ الْحَجِّ فَقَالَ لَهُ ابْنُ عُمَرَ أَلَسْتَ فُلَانَ بْنَ فُلَانٍ قَالَ بَلَى قَالَ فَانْطَلَقَ إِلَى حِمَارٍ كَانَ يَسْتَرِيحُ عَلَيْهِ إِذَا مَلَّ رَاحِلَتَهُ وَعِمَامَةٍ كَانَ يَشُدُّ بِهَا رَأْسَهُ فَدَفَعَهَا إِلَى الْأَعْرَابِيِّ فَلَمَّا انْطَلَقَ قَالَ لَهُ بَعْضُنَا انْطَلَقْتَ إِلَى حِمَارِكَ الَّذِي كُنْتَ تَسْتَرِيحُ عَلَيْهِ وَعِمَامَتِكَ الَّتِي كُنْتَ تَشُدُّ بِهَا رَأْسَكَ فَأَعْطَيْتَهُمَا هَذَا الْأَعْرَابِيَّ وَإِنَّمَا كَانَ يَرْضَى بِدِرْهَمٍ قَالَ إِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ إِنَّ أَبَرَّ الْبِرِّ صِلَةُ الْمَرْءِ أَهْلَ وُدِّ أَبِيهِ بَعْدَ أَنْ يُوَلِّيَ
It is narrated from Abdullah bin Dinar that a Bedouin passed by Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) while we were on the way to Hajj. He said to the Bedouin: "Are you so-and-so, son of so-and-so?" He replied: "Yes." Then Sayyiduna Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) went to the donkey on which he used to travel for some comfort after getting tired from riding the camel, and he took the turban with which he used to tie his head, then he gave both these things to the Bedouin. When that man left, some of us said to Sayyiduna Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him): "You used to rest on your donkey and tie your head with the turban, but now you have given both these things to this Bedouin. He would have been satisfied with just a dirham." He said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'Indeed, the greatest act of goodness is to maintain ties with the loved ones of one's father after his death.'"
Hadith 9013
عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ شُعَيْبٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ جَدِّهِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ أَتَى أَعْرَابِيٌّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ إِنَّ أَبِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَجْتَاحَ مَالِي قَالَ أَنْتَ وَمَالُكَ لِوَالِدَيْكَ إِنَّ أَطْيَبَ مَا أَكَلْتُمْ مِنْ كَسْبِكُمْ وَإِنَّ أَمْوَالَ أَوْلَادِكُمْ مِنْ كَسْبِكُمْ فَكُلُوهُ هَنِيئًا
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr bin al-As (may Allah be pleased with them both) that a Bedouin came to the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: My father wants to ruin my wealth. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: You and your wealth belong to your parents. The purest thing you eat is that which you earn yourself, and your children’s wealth is also from what you have earned, so consume it in a pleasant manner.
Hadith 9014
(عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا) عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ أَوْلَادَكُمْ مِنْ أَطْيَبِ كَسْبِكُمْ فَكُلُوا مِنْ كَسْبِ أَوْلَادِكُمْ
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Indeed, your children are from your purest earnings, so eat from the earnings of your children.
