الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل النكاحIssues of Marriage
بَابُ النَّهْيِ أَنْ يَخْطُبَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ وَمَا جَاءَ فِي التَّعْرِيْضِ بِالْخِطْبَةِ فِي الْعِدَّةِ
Chapter: Prohibition of Proposing Over the Proposal of One's Brother and What Has Been Reported Regarding Hinting at Proposal During the Waiting Period
Hadith 6865
عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ: نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنْ يَخْطُبَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَدَعَهَا الَّذِي خَطَبَهَا أَوَّلَ مَرَّةٍ أَوْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ.
Narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade that a man should send a proposal of engagement over the engagement of his brother, except if the first proposer leaves the woman or gives permission to the other.
Hadith 6866
عَنْ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: ((لَا يَحِلُّ لِامْرِئٍ مُسْلِمٍ يَخْطُبُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَتْرُكَ، وَلَا يَبِيعْ عَلَى بَيْعِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَتْرُكَ)).
Narrated by Sayyiduna Uqbah bin Amir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: It is not lawful for a Muslim man to send a proposal for engagement over the engagement of his brother, until he leaves it. Similarly, no man should make a deal over the deal of his brother, unless he leaves it.
Hadith 6867
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((لَا يَخْطُبُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ، وَلَا يَسُومُ عَلَى سَوْمِ أَخِيهِ، وَلَا تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا وَلَا عَلَى خَالَتِهَا، وَلَا تَسْأَلُ طَلَاقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَكْفِئَ مَا فِي صَحْفَتِهَا وَلِتَنْكِحَ، فَإِنَّمَا لَهَا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَهَا)).
Narrated by Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: No man should send a proposal for engagement over the engagement of his brother, nor should he bargain over the bargain of his brother. A woman should not be married in the presence of her paternal or maternal aunt. No woman should demand the divorce of her sister so that she may pour out what is in her sister’s cup; rather, she should also marry. Surely, she will only receive what Allah the Exalted has decreed for her.
Hadith 6868
عَنْ سَمُرَةَ بْنِ جُنْدُبٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَهَى أَنْ يَخْطُبَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ أَوْ يَبْتَاعَ عَلَى بَيْعِهِ.
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Samurah bin Jundub (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade that a man should send a proposal for engagement over the engagement of his brother, or make a deal over his deal.
Hadith 6869
عَنْ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ: طَلَّقَنِي زَوْجِي ثَلَاثًا فَأَمَرَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنْ أَعْتَدَّ فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ.
Narrated by Sayyidah Fatimah bint Qais (may Allah be pleased with her), she says: My husband gave me three divorces, and the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) ordered me to spend my waiting period in the house of Sayyiduna Ibn Umm Maktum (may Allah be pleased with him).
Hadith 6870
عَنْ سُفْيَانَ سَمِعَهُ مِنْ أَبِي بَكْرِ بْنِ أَبِي الْجَهْمِ، سَمِعْتُ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((إِذَا أَحْلَلْتِ فَآذِنِينِي)). فَآذَنْتُهُ فَخَطَبَهَا مُعَاوِيَةُ بْنُ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ وَأَبُو الْجَهْمِ وَأُسَامَةُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَرَجُلٌ تَرِبٌ لَا مَالَ لَهُ، وَأَمَّا أَبُو الْجَهْمِ فَرَجُلٌ ضَرَّابٌ لِلنِّسَاءِ وَلَكِنْ أُسَامَةَ)). قَالَ: فَقَالَتْ بِيَدِهَا هَكَذَا أُسَامَةُ تَقُولُ لَمْ تُرِدْهُ، فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((طَاعَةُ اللَّهِ وَطَاعَةُ رَسُولِهِ خَيْرٌ لَكِ)). فَتَزَوَّجَتْهُ فَاغْتَبَطَتْهُ.
It is narrated from Sayyida Fatima bint Qais (may Allah be pleased with her), she says: The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: When you complete your waiting period (‘iddah), inform me. So I informed the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and told him that Sayyiduna Muawiyah bin Abi Sufyan, Sayyiduna Abu Jahm, and Sayyiduna Usama bin Zaid (may Allah be pleased with them) had sent me proposals of marriage. The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Muawiyah is a poor man, he has no wealth, and Abu Jahm is a man who beats women a lot, but Usama, he is suitable. I gestured with my hand that not Usama, I do not want him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Obedience to Allah and His Messenger is better for you. So I married Usama, and I was envied.
