الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل النكاحIssues of Marriage
بَابُ التَّرْغِيْبِ فِي التَّزَوجِ بِالْأَبْكَارِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا لِمَصْلَحَةٍ فِي التَّيْبِ
Chapter: Encouragement to Marry Virgins Among Women Except for a Benefit in Marrying a Previously Married Woman
Hadith 6854
عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَا جَابِرُ أَلَكَ امْرَأَةٌ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ أَثَيِّبًا نَكَحْتَ أَمْ بِكْرًا قَالَ قُلْتُ لَهُ تَزَوَّجْتُهَا وَهِيَ ثَيِّبٌ قَالَ فَقَالَ لِي فَهَلَّا تَزَوَّجْتَهَا جُوَيْرِيَةً قَالَ قُلْتُ لَهُ قُتِلَ أَبِي مَعَكَ يَوْمَ كَذَا وَكَذَا وَتَرَكَ جَوَارِيَ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَضُمَّ إِلَيْهِنَّ جَارِيَةً كَإِحْدَاهُنَّ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ ثَيِّبًا تَقْصَعُ قَمْلَةَ إِحْدَاهُنَّ وَتَخِيطُ دِرْعَ إِحْدَاهُنَّ إِذَا تَخَرَّقَ قَالَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَإِنَّكَ نِعْمَ مَا رَأَيْتَ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Jabir bin Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with them both), he says: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: O Jabir! Do you have a wife? I replied: Yes. He (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Was she previously married or a virgin? I said: When I married her, she was previously married. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Why did you not marry a virgin girl? I said: My father was martyred with you in such-and-such battle and left behind daughters, and I did not like to bring a young girl like them among them; rather, I married this woman so that she could comb the hair of my sisters, and if their shirt was torn, she could sew it. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: You have made a very good decision.
Hadith 6855
(وَعَنْهُ مِنْ طَرِيقٍ ثَانٍ) قَالَ قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ هَلْ نَكَحْتَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلَّا بِكْرًا تُلَاعِبُهَا وَتُلَاعِبُكَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قُتِلَ أَبِي يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ وَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجْمَعَ إِلَيْهِنَّ خَرْقَاءَ مِثْلَهُنَّ وَلَكِنِ امْرَأَةً تَمْشُطُهُنَّ وَتُقِيمُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَصَبْتَ
(Second chain) Sayyiduna Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) says: The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: Have you gotten married? I said: Yes. He (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Was she a virgin or a widow? I said: She was a widow. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Why did you not marry a virgin, so that she would play with you and you would play with her? I submitted: O Messenger of Allah! My father was martyred on the day of Uhud and left behind seven daughters among the survivors, so I did not like to add another inexperienced one like them. I chose a woman who would comb their hair and look after them. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: You have done the right thing.
Hadith 6856
وَعَنْهُ مِنْ طَرِيقٍ ثَالِثٍ بِنَحْوِهِ وَفِيهِ قَالَ لَكُمْ أَنْمَاطٌ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَأَنَّى قَالَ خِفْ أَمَا سَتَكُونُ لَكُمْ أَنْمَاطٌ فَأَنَا الْيَوْمَ أَقُولُ لِامْرَأَتِي نَحِّي عَنِّي أَنْمَاطَكِ فَتَقُولُ نَعَمْ أَلَمْ يَقُلْ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّهَا سَتَكُونُ لَكُمْ أَنْمَاطٌ فَأَتْرُكُهَا
. (Third chain of narration) There is a similar narration, except that in it: The Noble Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) asked: Do you have bed sheets? I replied: O Messenger of Allah! Where would we get bed sheets from? He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Right now you are poor and have little wealth, but beware! Soon there will be sheets. Sayyiduna Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) says: Today, when I tell my wife to move her sheets away from me, she says: Did the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) not say that soon you will have bed sheets? So how can I leave them?
