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الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
القسم الخامس: مسائل الترهيب من الكبائر وسائر المعاصيFifth Section: Issues Warning Against Major Sins and All Other Sins
بَابُ مَا جَاءَ فِي التَرْهِيبِ مِنْ هَجْرِ الْمُسْلِمِ وَتَرْوِيعِهِ وَالاضْرَارِ بهChapter on what has been narrated regarding warning against abandoning Muslims, frightening them, and harming them
Hadith 9788
اُردوEn
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ ((أَبْغَضُ الرِّجَالِ الْأَلَدُّ الْخَصِمُ))
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: The most disliked person among the people is the one who is extremely quarrelsome.
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … Argumentation and disputation are such reprehensible traits that Allah Ta’ala also harbors aversion towards those characterized by them. Whatever the nature of the quarrel, in the end, the quarrelsome person is inevitably rendered blameworthy.
A quarrelsome person loses all his abilities, indulges in wickedness and immorality, violates the sanctity of others, becomes obstinate and stubborn, and arrogance and pride—like devils—arise within him. In short, he loses self-control and becomes an example of “moments of error, centuries of punishment.” In Islamic law (Shari‘ah), it is advised to refrain from disputing even for one’s rightful claim as much as possible, as is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Umamah Bahili radi Allahu anhu that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: “I guarantee a house in the outskirts of Paradise for the one who abandons argumentation even when he is in the right.” (Abu Dawud) … I am the guarantor of a house in the surroundings of Paradise for the one who gives up disputation even though he is in the right.
Allah Ta’ala harbors the greatest aversion towards the quarrelsome, and if one reflects, there are such grave evils in fighting and disputation that, because of them, a person cannot become beloved to Allah:
1. The quarrelsome person does not keep in view his own reality and status—that Allah Ta’ala, from a mere drop of water, granted him a beautiful existence and endowed him with the great blessing of sound intellect. Despite such a tremendous favor, if a person does not refrain from stubbornness, prejudice, and mutual strife, and remains a victim of arrogance and pride, then he can never become beloved to Allah.
2. Fighting and disputation is such a sin in which many other sins are included, such as the improper use of hands and tongue, malice, envy, slander, and abusive language, etc. In short, while fighting and disputing, a person loses all the values of faith (iman) and Islam, and reaches the level of wickedness and immorality (fisq wa fujur). The heart in which there is even a particle of faith is not obstinate, stubborn, or quarrelsome. Moreover, upon whom Allah Ta’ala harbors aversion, He may send down His punishment at any time.
A quarrelsome person loses all his abilities, indulges in wickedness and immorality, violates the sanctity of others, becomes obstinate and stubborn, and arrogance and pride—like devils—arise within him. In short, he loses self-control and becomes an example of “moments of error, centuries of punishment.” In Islamic law (Shari‘ah), it is advised to refrain from disputing even for one’s rightful claim as much as possible, as is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Umamah Bahili radi Allahu anhu that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: “I guarantee a house in the outskirts of Paradise for the one who abandons argumentation even when he is in the right.” (Abu Dawud) … I am the guarantor of a house in the surroundings of Paradise for the one who gives up disputation even though he is in the right.
Allah Ta’ala harbors the greatest aversion towards the quarrelsome, and if one reflects, there are such grave evils in fighting and disputation that, because of them, a person cannot become beloved to Allah:
1. The quarrelsome person does not keep in view his own reality and status—that Allah Ta’ala, from a mere drop of water, granted him a beautiful existence and endowed him with the great blessing of sound intellect. Despite such a tremendous favor, if a person does not refrain from stubbornness, prejudice, and mutual strife, and remains a victim of arrogance and pride, then he can never become beloved to Allah.
2. Fighting and disputation is such a sin in which many other sins are included, such as the improper use of hands and tongue, malice, envy, slander, and abusive language, etc. In short, while fighting and disputing, a person loses all the values of faith (iman) and Islam, and reaches the level of wickedness and immorality (fisq wa fujur). The heart in which there is even a particle of faith is not obstinate, stubborn, or quarrelsome. Moreover, upon whom Allah Ta’ala harbors aversion, He may send down His punishment at any time.
