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الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
القسم الخامس: مسائل الترهيب من الكبائر وسائر المعاصيFifth Section: Issues Warning Against Major Sins and All Other Sins
بَابُ مَا جَاءَ فِي التَّرْهِيبِ مِنْ عُقُوقِ الْوَالِدَيْنِChapter on what has been narrated regarding warning against disobedience to parents
Hadith 9683
اُردوEn
عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا رَفَعَهُ سُفْيَانُ وَوَقَفَهُ مِسْعَرٌ قَالَ مِنَ الْكَبَائِرِ أَنْ يَشْتِمَ الرَّجُلُ وَالِدَيْهِ قَالُوا وَكَيْفَ يَشْتِمُ الرَّجُلُ وَالِدَيْهِ قَالَ يَسُبُّ أَبَا الرَّجُلِ فَيَسُبُّ أَبَاهُ وَيَسُبُّ أُمَّهُ فَيَسُبُّ أُمَّهُ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Abusing one’s parents is among the major sins. The people asked: How can a man abuse his own parents? He (peace and blessings be upon him) replied: He abuses someone’s father, so that person abuses his father in return; he abuses someone’s mother, so that person abuses his mother in return. Sufyan narrated this hadith as marfu‘ and Mis‘ar narrated it as mawquf.
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … After the rights of Allah Ta'ala, the rights of the parents are the most important. In several places in the Noble Qur'an, wherever the command for the divinity and worship of Allah Ta'ala is given, there also comes the exhortation to treat parents with kindness. The extent of respect and honor for Muslim parents can be gauged from the fact that even if the parents are polytheists or disbelievers, serving them and treating them well is still necessary, as is stated in the command of Allah Ta'ala: {وَ اِنْ جَاہَدٰکَ عَلٰٓی اَنْ تُشْرِکَ بِیْ مَالَیْسَ لَکَ بِہٖعِلْمٌفَـلَاتُطِعْہُمَاوَصَاحِبْہُمَافِی الدُّنْیَا مَعْرُوْفًا } (Surah Luqman: 15) … And if they (the parents) pressure you to associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, then do not obey them, but accompany them in this world with kindness.
As long as there is no disobedience to Allah Ta'ala, it is required by the Shari'ah to obey the parents, serve them, and seek their pleasure. As long as there is no opposition to any command of the Shari'ah, one should strive to fulfill every demand of the parents and try to please them. How thought-provoking it is that we are taught to treat even polytheist parents who compel us to commit shirk with kindness; so one can imagine the status and rank of Muslim parents themselves.
Consider the exalted status and rank of parents: if a child finds both or even one of his parents alive in his lifetime, and then does not create the means to enter Paradise by serving them, the Noble Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam supplicates for disgrace, destruction, and distance from the mercy of Allah for such a person.
Even if the Shari'ah had remained silent in this matter, reason and intellect would still dictate that disobeying one's parents is not chivalrous, and sound taste and intuition would say the same, and humanity itself demands that those pure souls who treated their children with kindness in childhood should, in return, have their children, under {ھَلْ جَزَائُ الْاِحْسَانِ اِلَّا الْاِحْسَانُ}, spread the wings of humility and obedience before them.
Imam Mubarakpuri rahimahullah, while explaining this hadith in which the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala is declared to be in the pleasure of the parents, writes: Since Allah Ta'ala Himself has commanded obedience and honoring of parents, whoever angers his parents, in reality, angers Allah Ta'ala. This is a severe warning, and from this it is understood that disobedience to parents is a major sin. (Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi)
But unfortunately, nowadays people have made their wives, children, and friends the standard for treating their parents with kindness or otherwise. Every whim and fancy of the wife is fulfilled, but the expenses incurred on parents are considered a burden, even though their amount is less.
As long as there is no disobedience to Allah Ta'ala, it is required by the Shari'ah to obey the parents, serve them, and seek their pleasure. As long as there is no opposition to any command of the Shari'ah, one should strive to fulfill every demand of the parents and try to please them. How thought-provoking it is that we are taught to treat even polytheist parents who compel us to commit shirk with kindness; so one can imagine the status and rank of Muslim parents themselves.
Consider the exalted status and rank of parents: if a child finds both or even one of his parents alive in his lifetime, and then does not create the means to enter Paradise by serving them, the Noble Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam supplicates for disgrace, destruction, and distance from the mercy of Allah for such a person.
Even if the Shari'ah had remained silent in this matter, reason and intellect would still dictate that disobeying one's parents is not chivalrous, and sound taste and intuition would say the same, and humanity itself demands that those pure souls who treated their children with kindness in childhood should, in return, have their children, under {ھَلْ جَزَائُ الْاِحْسَانِ اِلَّا الْاِحْسَانُ}, spread the wings of humility and obedience before them.
Imam Mubarakpuri rahimahullah, while explaining this hadith in which the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala is declared to be in the pleasure of the parents, writes: Since Allah Ta'ala Himself has commanded obedience and honoring of parents, whoever angers his parents, in reality, angers Allah Ta'ala. This is a severe warning, and from this it is understood that disobedience to parents is a major sin. (Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi)
But unfortunately, nowadays people have made their wives, children, and friends the standard for treating their parents with kindness or otherwise. Every whim and fancy of the wife is fulfilled, but the expenses incurred on parents are considered a burden, even though their amount is less.
