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الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل البر وصلة الرحمIssues of Righteousness and Maintaining Family Ties
بَابُ في بر الأولادِ وَالأقَارِبِ الْأَقْرَبِ فَالْاقْرَبِ اب مَا جَاءَ فِي نَمْرَةِ الأَوْلَادِ وَالتَّرْغِيْبِ فِي ادِيهِمْ وَالْعَطْفِ عَلَيْهِمْChapter on dutifulness to children and close relatives, what has been narrated regarding the virtue of children, and encouragement towards kindness to them and compassion for them
Hadith 9026
اُردوEn
عَنِ الْأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَدِمْتُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي وَفْدِ كِنْدَةَ فَقَالَ لِي هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ وَلَدٍ قُلْتُ غُلَامٌ وُلِدَ لِي فِي مَخْرَجِي إِلَيْكَ مِنِ ابْنَةِ جَمْدٍ وَلَوَدِدْتُ أَنْ مَكَانَهُ شَبِعَ الْقَوْمُ قَالَ لَا تَقُولَنَّ ذَلِكَ فَإِنَّ فِيهِمْ قُرَّةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَجْرًا إِذَا قُبِضُوا ثُمَّ وَلَئِنْ قُلْتَ ذَاكَ إِنَّهُمْ لَمَجْبَنَةٌ مَحْزَنَةٌ إِنَّهُمْ لَمَجْبَنَةٌ مَحْزَنَةٌ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ash'ath bin Qais (may Allah be pleased with him), he says: I came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) as part of the delegation of Kindah. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: Do you have children? I said: Just as I was leaving to come to you, a child was born to me from the womb of Bint Jamd, and I wish that instead of this child, people would eat their fill of food. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Never say such a thing, because some children become the coolness of the eyes, and when they pass away, there is reward (for the parents). Yet, if you say such a thing, these children become a cause of cowardice and grief; indeed, they become a cause of cowardice and grief.
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … Concern for children makes a person cowardly and miserly. Everyone is naturally greedy for life, but when one has children, due to serving and caring for them, a person begins to consider his own life even more precious, and even when participating in a great act like jihad, he becomes anxious. In any case, children are a blessing, and serving them is an honor, but other Shari‘ah rulings should not be affected because of this.
