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الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
بيان موانع النكاحExplanation of Impediments to Marriage
بَابُ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الزَّوْجَةِChapter: The Right of the Husband Over the Wife
Hadith 7116
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عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةُ صَفْوَانَ بْنِ الْمُعَطَّلِ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَنَحْنُ عِنْدَهُ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ زَوْجِي صَفْوَانَ بْنَ الْمُعَطَّلِ يَضْرِبُنِي إِذَا صَلَّيْتُ وَيُفَطِّرُنِي إِذَا صُمْتُ وَلَا يُصَلِّي صَلَاةَ الْفَجْرِ حَتَّى تَطْلُعَ الشَّمْسُ قَالَ وَصَفْوَانُ عِنْدَهُ قَالَ فَسَأَلَهُ عَمَّا قَالَتْ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَمَّا قَوْلُهَا يَضْرِبُنِي إِذَا صَلَّيْتُ فَإِنَّهَا تَقْرَأُ بِسُورَتَيْنِ فَقَدْ نَهَيْتُهَا عَنْهُمَا قَالَ فَقَالَ لَوْ كَانَتْ سُورَةٌ وَاحِدَةٌ لَكَفَتِ النَّاسَ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُهَا يُفَطِّرُنِي فَإِنَّهَا تَصُومُ وَأَنَا رَجُلٌ شَابٌّ فَلَا أَصْبِرُ قَالَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَوْمَئِذٍ لَا تَصُومَنَّ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ زَوْجِهَا قَالَ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُهَا بِأَنِّي لَا أُصَلِّي حَتَّى تَطْلُعَ الشَّمْسُ فَإِنَّا أَهْلُ بَيْتٍ قَدْ عُرِفَ لَنَا ذَاكَ لَا نَكَادُ نَسْتَيْقِظُ حَتَّى تَطْلُعَ الشَّمْسُ قَالَ فَإِذَا اسْتَيْقَظْتَ فَصَلِّ وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُهَا إِنِّي لَا أُصَلِّي حَتَّى تَطْلُعَ الشَّمْسُ فَإِنِّي ثَقِيلُ الرَّأْسِ وَأَنَا مِنْ أَهْلِ بَيْتٍ يُعْرَفُونَ بِذَاكَ بِثِقَلِ الرُّؤُوسِ قَالَ فَإِذَا قُمْتَ فَصَلِّ
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Sa'id Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) that the wife of Sayyiduna Safwan bin Mu'attal (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah! The situation with my husband, Sayyiduna Safwan bin Mu'attal (may Allah be pleased with him), is that when I pray, he beats me; when I fast, he makes me break my fast; and he performs the Fajr prayer after sunrise. At that time, Sayyiduna Safwan was also present there. When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked him about his wife's complaints, he said: O Messenger of Allah! As for her saying that I beat her when she prays, the matter is that she recites two long surahs, whereas I have forbidden her from that. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Even if one surah is recited, it is sufficient for the people. She then said: As for her saying that I make her break her fast when she is fasting, the reason is that I am a young man and I cannot control myself. Upon hearing this, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said that day: No woman should ever observe (optional) fast without her husband's permission. And as for her saying that I perform the Fajr prayer after sunrise, the explanation is that we are people of this tribe who cannot wake up before the sun rises. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whenever you wake up, perform the prayer at that time. In another narration: Sayyiduna Safwan (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Indeed, my head remains heavy, and our whole family is such that it is well known about us that our heads remain heavy. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whenever you wake up, perform the prayer at that time.
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … By "two long surahs" is meant that her husband had forbidden his wife from standing in prayer for a long time. It is understood from this that serving the husband should be given preference over lengthy standing (qiyam) and voluntary (nafl) prayers.
Nevertheless, the meaning of these narrations is not that the wife should become completely heedless of acts of worship, remembrance (dhikr), and recitation (tilawah). When she is mindful, she will continue to find opportunities for these along with serving her husband. The husband, too, should take care of his wife in every respect. After all, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made a special supplication for the couple who rise at night and stand in prayer together.
Obedience to the husband is obligatory upon the wife. The meaning of prostrating (sajdah) to someone is to express utmost humility, submissiveness, and obedience before them. If this manner were permissible for anyone other than Allah Ta'ala, it would only be the wife who would express obedience before her husband.
Wives should be grateful (shakir) and patient (sabir), and should avoid constantly criticizing and keeping a strict eye on the negative aspects of their husbands. The examples of the Mothers of the Believers (Ummahat al-Mu'minin) and the daughters of the Noble Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are excellent models for them. The world is not just about adopting a high standard in food, drink, and clothing; obedience to the husband is a command of Allah Ta'ala and His Messenger, so one should follow them to the utmost possible extent.
Another blessed hadith regarding the qualities of a good wife is as follows:
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Anas, Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas, and Sayyiduna Ka'b ibn Ujrah radi Allahu anhum that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "Shall I not inform you about your women in Paradise? Every loving (wadood) and child-bearing (walood) woman, when she is angered, or wronged, or her husband is angry with her, she says: 'Here is my hand in your hand; I will not sleep until you are pleased with me.'"
(Al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, Al-Mu'jam al-Awsat, Al-Mu'jam al-Saghir, Shu'ab al-Iman, Sahihah: 3380)
Nevertheless, the meaning of these narrations is not that the wife should become completely heedless of acts of worship, remembrance (dhikr), and recitation (tilawah). When she is mindful, she will continue to find opportunities for these along with serving her husband. The husband, too, should take care of his wife in every respect. After all, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made a special supplication for the couple who rise at night and stand in prayer together.
Obedience to the husband is obligatory upon the wife. The meaning of prostrating (sajdah) to someone is to express utmost humility, submissiveness, and obedience before them. If this manner were permissible for anyone other than Allah Ta'ala, it would only be the wife who would express obedience before her husband.
Wives should be grateful (shakir) and patient (sabir), and should avoid constantly criticizing and keeping a strict eye on the negative aspects of their husbands. The examples of the Mothers of the Believers (Ummahat al-Mu'minin) and the daughters of the Noble Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are excellent models for them. The world is not just about adopting a high standard in food, drink, and clothing; obedience to the husband is a command of Allah Ta'ala and His Messenger, so one should follow them to the utmost possible extent.
Another blessed hadith regarding the qualities of a good wife is as follows:
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Anas, Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas, and Sayyiduna Ka'b ibn Ujrah radi Allahu anhum that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "Shall I not inform you about your women in Paradise? Every loving (wadood) and child-bearing (walood) woman, when she is angered, or wronged, or her husband is angry with her, she says: 'Here is my hand in your hand; I will not sleep until you are pleased with me.'"
(Al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, Al-Mu'jam al-Awsat, Al-Mu'jam al-Saghir, Shu'ab al-Iman, Sahihah: 3380)
