Hadith 6923

عَنْ أَبِي الْعَجْفَاءِ السُّلَمِيِّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ يَقُولُ أَلَا لَا تُغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّهَا لَوْ كَانَتْ مَكْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ تَقْوَى فِي الْآخِرَةِ لَكَانَ أَوْلَاكُمْ بِهَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا أَنْكَحَ شَيْئًا مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ وَلَا نِسَائِهِ فَوْقَ اثْنَتَيْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً وَأُخْرَى تَقُولُونَهَا فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ قُتِلَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا مَاتَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ عَجُزَ دَابَّتِهِ أَوْ دَفَّ رَاحِلَتَهُ ذَهَبًا وَفِضَّةً يَبْتَغِي التِّجَارَةَ فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَاكُمْ وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ
Abu Al-Ajfa Salmi says: Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said: Do not be excessive in the dowries of women, because if this thing were a source of honor in this world and piety in the Hereafter, then the person most deserving of it among you would have been the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. He, peace and blessings be upon him, did not marry off his daughters or marry his wives for more than twelve uqiyahs. There is another matter as well: you say about your battles that so-and-so was martyred, so-and-so attained martyrdom; be cautious in this as well. It may be that he burdened the back of his animal or the edge of its saddle in pursuit of gold and silver and trade. Therefore, do not say in this way that so-and-so was martyred, but rather say as Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, used to say: Whoever is martyred in the way of Allah, he is of Paradise.
Hadith Reference الفتح الربانی / مسائل النكاح / 6923
Hadith Grading محدثین: صحیح
Hadith Takhrij «حديث صحيح، أخرجه ابوداود: 2106، والنسائي: 6/ 117، وابن ماجه: 1887، والترمذي: 1114م ، (انظر مسند أحمد ترقيم الرسالة: 285 ترقیم بيت الأفكار الدولية: 285»