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الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل النكاحIssues of Marriage
بَابُ مَا جَاءَ فِي اسْتِحْبَابِ النَّظْرِ إِلَى الْمَخْطُوبَةِChapter: What Has Been Reported Regarding the Recommendation to Look at the Woman to Be Proposed To
Hadith 6876
اُردوEn
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ: خَطَبَ رَجُلٌ امْرَأَةً، فَقَالَ يَعْنِي النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((انْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّ فِي أَعْيُنِ الْأَنْصَارِ شَيْئًا))
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man sent a proposal to a woman. The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: Look at that woman, because generally there is some defect in the eyes of the Ansar women.
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … By deficiency is meant any such flaw due to which a person may naturally feel aversion; therefore, it is better that the man sees such a woman, so that he may have the opportunity to make a well-considered decision.
Marriage is an important necessity, and it is companionship for a lifetime; thus, to avoid any possible unpleasantness, it is appropriate that she be seen beforehand. For this purpose, some pretext or means may be used, or by having domestic women facilitate the viewing and by obtaining other necessary information, an assessment can be made.
Good relations between husband and wife hold a key position for an excellent society and family. Where the Shariah has declared it forbidden for men to look at non-mahram women, there it has also provided allowance for the attainment of a greater objective. In this matter, parents on both sides should demonstrate foresight and prudence, and should take into account the meeting and consent of the girl and the boy.
According to the circumstances in Pakistan, if the boy does not like the girl, it is nothing less than a minor calamity for the girl. In such situations, the fiancé should be given the opportunity to see the girl, even if the girl's parents and brothers, etc., are not informed, so that the concession of the Shariah may be acted upon without discouraging anyone. As in the case when Sayyiduna Jabir radi Allahu anhu sent a marriage proposal to a girl and secretly saw her. In this matter, the girl's friends and distant female relatives can play a good role, provided they are well-wishers and trustworthy. If the concerned girl herself is also not informed, it is better, so that in case she is not liked, her feelings are not hurt.
Marriage is an important necessity, and it is companionship for a lifetime; thus, to avoid any possible unpleasantness, it is appropriate that she be seen beforehand. For this purpose, some pretext or means may be used, or by having domestic women facilitate the viewing and by obtaining other necessary information, an assessment can be made.
Good relations between husband and wife hold a key position for an excellent society and family. Where the Shariah has declared it forbidden for men to look at non-mahram women, there it has also provided allowance for the attainment of a greater objective. In this matter, parents on both sides should demonstrate foresight and prudence, and should take into account the meeting and consent of the girl and the boy.
According to the circumstances in Pakistan, if the boy does not like the girl, it is nothing less than a minor calamity for the girl. In such situations, the fiancé should be given the opportunity to see the girl, even if the girl's parents and brothers, etc., are not informed, so that the concession of the Shariah may be acted upon without discouraging anyone. As in the case when Sayyiduna Jabir radi Allahu anhu sent a marriage proposal to a girl and secretly saw her. In this matter, the girl's friends and distant female relatives can play a good role, provided they are well-wishers and trustworthy. If the concerned girl herself is also not informed, it is better, so that in case she is not liked, her feelings are not hurt.
