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الفتح الربانی
Fath al-Rabbani
مسائل النكاحIssues of Marriage
بَابُ النَّهْيِ أَنْ يَخْطُبَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ وَمَا جَاءَ فِي التَّعْرِيْضِ بِالْخِطْبَةِ فِي الْعِدَّةِChapter: Prohibition of Proposing Over the Proposal of One's Brother and What Has Been Reported Regarding Hinting at Proposal During the Waiting Period
Hadith 6870
اُردوEn
عَنْ سُفْيَانَ سَمِعَهُ مِنْ أَبِي بَكْرِ بْنِ أَبِي الْجَهْمِ، سَمِعْتُ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((إِذَا أَحْلَلْتِ فَآذِنِينِي)). فَآذَنْتُهُ فَخَطَبَهَا مُعَاوِيَةُ بْنُ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ وَأَبُو الْجَهْمِ وَأُسَامَةُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَرَجُلٌ تَرِبٌ لَا مَالَ لَهُ، وَأَمَّا أَبُو الْجَهْمِ فَرَجُلٌ ضَرَّابٌ لِلنِّسَاءِ وَلَكِنْ أُسَامَةَ)). قَالَ: فَقَالَتْ بِيَدِهَا هَكَذَا أُسَامَةُ تَقُولُ لَمْ تُرِدْهُ، فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ((طَاعَةُ اللَّهِ وَطَاعَةُ رَسُولِهِ خَيْرٌ لَكِ)). فَتَزَوَّجَتْهُ فَاغْتَبَطَتْهُ.
It is narrated from Sayyida Fatima bint Qais (may Allah be pleased with her), she says: The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: When you complete your waiting period (‘iddah), inform me. So I informed the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and told him that Sayyiduna Muawiyah bin Abi Sufyan, Sayyiduna Abu Jahm, and Sayyiduna Usama bin Zaid (may Allah be pleased with them) had sent me proposals of marriage. The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Muawiyah is a poor man, he has no wealth, and Abu Jahm is a man who beats women a lot, but Usama, he is suitable. I gestured with my hand that not Usama, I do not want him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Obedience to Allah and His Messenger is better for you. So I married Usama, and I was envied.
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … The words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, “When you complete your waiting period (‘iddah), inform me,” were in fact an indication towards a proposal of marriage. Later it became known that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wished that Fatimah bint Qays would marry Usamah.
The command of Allah, the Exalted, is: {وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیْمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہٖمِنْخِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ اَوْ اَکْنَنْتُمْ فِیْ اَنْفُسِکُمْ} … “There is no blame upon you for making a proposal of marriage to such women by indirect reference or for concealing it within yourselves.” (Surah al-Baqarah: 235)
This is being said regarding a widow or a woman who has been divorced with three pronouncements (thrice-divorced woman), that during their waiting period (‘iddah), a proposal can be made to them by way of allusion or indirect reference. However, it is prohibited to take a secret promise from them or to contract a firm marriage during the ‘iddah.
From this, it is also understood that a woman who has been given a revocable divorce (raj‘i talaq) cannot be given a marriage proposal during her ‘iddah, nor can she be spoken to even by way of allusion. However, if her husband does not take her back and the ‘iddah passes, then efforts can be made to marry her. (Abdullah Rafiq)
The command of Allah, the Exalted, is: {وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْکُمْ فِیْمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِہٖمِنْخِطْبَۃِ النِّسَائِ اَوْ اَکْنَنْتُمْ فِیْ اَنْفُسِکُمْ} … “There is no blame upon you for making a proposal of marriage to such women by indirect reference or for concealing it within yourselves.” (Surah al-Baqarah: 235)
This is being said regarding a widow or a woman who has been divorced with three pronouncements (thrice-divorced woman), that during their waiting period (‘iddah), a proposal can be made to them by way of allusion or indirect reference. However, it is prohibited to take a secret promise from them or to contract a firm marriage during the ‘iddah.
From this, it is also understood that a woman who has been given a revocable divorce (raj‘i talaq) cannot be given a marriage proposal during her ‘iddah, nor can she be spoken to even by way of allusion. However, if her husband does not take her back and the ‘iddah passes, then efforts can be made to marry her. (Abdullah Rafiq)
