عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ قَيْسِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّهُ أَوْصَى وَلَدَهُ عِنْدَ مَوْتِهِ قَالَ اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَسَوِّدُوا أَكْبَرَكُمْ فَإِنَّ الْقَوْمَ إِذَا سَوَّدُوا أَكْبَرَهُمْ خَلَفُوا أَبَاهُمْ فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ وَإِذَا مُتُّ فَلَا تَنُوحُوا عَلَيَّ فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَمْ يُنَحْ عَلَيْهِ
Sayyiduna Qais bin Asim (may Allah be pleased with him) advised his sons near his death: Remain fearful of Allah, and appoint the eldest among you as your leader. Indeed, when people appoint the eldest as their leader, he becomes the successor of his father. And when I die, do not wail over me, because wailing was not done over the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him).