Ahnaf bin Qais says: I came to Madinah Munawwarah, and I wanted to receive a gift from Sayyiduna Uthman bin Affan (may Allah be pleased with him). I sat down in a circle of the Quraysh. A man with disheveled clothes came there, he had wrapped a cloth around his head, and he began to say: Give glad tidings to those who hoard treasures that their foreheads, backs, and sides will be branded with fire. Then he separated himself and prayed two rak‘ahs behind a pillar. I asked: Who is this? It was said: This is Sayyiduna Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him). So I went to him and said: What is the meaning of what you were saying? He said: By Allah, I only said what those people heard from the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). I said: May Allah have mercy on you, I used to receive a gift from Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him), what do you think about that? He said: You may take it, these days it is in the form of cooperation, but soon it will become a debt, when that situation arises, then leave it. (The words of another narration are:) When such wealth becomes the price of your religion, then leave it.
Hadith Referenceالفتح الربانی / كتاب الزكاة / 3375
Hadith Gradingمحدثین:صحیح
Hadith Takhrij«أخرجه مسلم: 992 ، (انظر مسند أحمد ترقيم الرسالة: 21470 ترقیم بيت الأفكار الدولية: 21817»
Brief Explanation
Benefits: The meaning of the marfu‘ hadith has already been mentioned earlier. The situation which Sayyiduna Abu Dharr radi Allahu anhu prohibited at the end of the hadith has now, to an even greater extent, arisen on occasions of marriage and other celebrations. If a person gives someone a gift in the form of cash or something else on the occasion of a wedding, the birth of a child, an engagement, success in an exam, the construction of a house, or the performance of Hajj or ‘Umrah, then he expects in the future to receive a better or similar gift in return, and the recipient also keeps a record with this very intention. It is possible that the elders originally established these customs out of love and cooperation, but now their result is nothing but resentment and distress. This humble servant has personally heard even respectable, serious, and religious people say, “We gave five hundred rupees as niyundra at their son’s wedding, but they only gave a hundred rupees in return.” By Allah, nowadays even those with a decent income become anxious upon receiving a wedding invitation, thinking that they will have to put a garland on the groom, give niyundra, pay the fee to see the bride, and so on. Sayyiduna Abu Dharr radi Allahu anhu intended to say that when such transactions become the basis for giving and receiving, then the practice of giving gifts should be discontinued. Those people were truly wise and prudent, who were the standard-bearers of genuine love.