Hadith 11918

عَنْ قَنْبَرٍ حَاجِبِ مُعَاوِيَةَ قَالَ كَانَ أَبُو ذَرٍّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ يُغَلِّظُ لِمُعَاوِيَةَ قَالَ فَشَكَاهُ إِلَى عُبَادَةَ بْنِ الصَّامِتِ وَإِلَى أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ وَإِلَى عَمْرِو بْنِ الْعَاصِ وَإِلَى أُمِّ حَرَامٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ فَقَالَ إِنَّكُمْ قَدْ صَحِبْتُمْ كَمَا صَحِبَ وَرَأَيْتُمْ كَمَا رَأَى فَإِنْ رَأَيْتُمْ أَنْ تُكَلِّمُوهُ ثُمَّ أَرْسَلَ إِلَى أَبِي ذَرٍّ فَجَاءَ فَكَلَّمُوهُ فَقَالَ أَمَّا أَنْتَ يَا أَبَا الْوَلِيدِ فَقَدْ أَسْلَمْتَ قَبْلِي وَلَكَ السِّنُّ وَالْفَضْلُ عَلَيَّ وَقَدْ كُنْتُ أَرْغَبُ بِكَ عَنْ مِثْلِ هَذَا الْمَجْلِسِ وَأَمَّا أَنْتَ يَا أَبَا الدَّرْدَاءِ فَإِنْ كَادَتْ وَفَاةُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنْ تَفُوتَكَ ثُمَّ أَسْلَمْتَ فَكُنْتَ مِنْ صَالِحِي الْمُسْلِمِينَ وَأَمَّا أَنْتَ يَا عَمْرُو بْنَ الْعَاصِ فَقَدْ جَاهَدْتَ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَأَمَّا أَنْتِ يَا أُمَّ حَرَامٍ فَإِنَّمَا أَنْتِ امْرَأَةٌ وَعَقْلُكِ عَقْلُ امْرَأَةٍ وَأَمَّا أَنْتَ وَذَاكَ قَالَ فَقَالَ عُبَادَةُ لَا جَرَمَ لَا جَلَسْتُ مِثْلَ هَذَا الْمَجْلِسِ أَبَدًا
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Muawiyah’s (may Allah be pleased with him) doorkeeper, Qanbar, that Sayyiduna Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him) used to behave strictly with Sayyiduna Muawiyah (may Allah be pleased with him). Sayyiduna Muawiyah (may Allah be pleased with him) complained about him to Sayyiduna Ubadah bin Samit, Sayyiduna Abu Darda, Sayyiduna Amr bin Aas, and Sayyidah Umm Haram, and said: You are also companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) just as he is; just as he saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), you people also saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) in the same way. If you deem it appropriate, then talk to him and see why he maintains such a strict attitude? Then he sent a message to Sayyiduna Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him), so he came and these gentlemen spoke with him. Sayyiduna Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: O Abu al-Walid! (meaning Ubadah bin Samit, may Allah be pleased with him) You entered the fold of Islam before me, you have precedence over me in age and virtue, I preferred sitting with you over such a gathering. O Abu Darda (may Allah be pleased with him), if it had happened that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) passed away first and you entered Islam after him, even then you would have been among the righteous Muslims. O Amr bin Aas! You participated in jihad and battles with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), and O Umm Haram! (she was the wife of Ubadah, may Allah be pleased with him) you are a woman. And your intellect, after all, is that of a woman; what need do you have to interfere in such matters? Upon hearing this, Sayyiduna Ubadah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Certainly, I will never be able to sit in such a gathering.
Hadith Reference الفتح الربانی / 11918
Hadith Grading محدثین: ضعیف
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