It is narrated from Sayyida Umm Atiyya (may Allah be pleased with her) that when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) arrived in Madinah Munawwarah, he gathered the women of the Ansar in a house and sent Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) to them. He went and stood at the door and greeted them with salam. The women replied to the salam. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I am the messenger of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) to you. We said: We welcome and greet the Messenger of Allah and the messenger of the Messenger of Allah. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Pledge allegiance to these matters: that you will not associate anything with Allah Almighty, you will not commit adultery, you will not kill your children, you will not fabricate anything yourself and slander anyone, and you will not wail (lament). We said: Agreed. Then from inside the house, we extended our hands forward and he extended his from outside; the pledge was done merely by gesture, without shaking hands. Then he said: O Allah! Bear witness. He commanded us that on the occasion of the two Eids, we should take young girls and menstruating women out to the Eidgah for Eid, and he forbade us from accompanying funeral processions, and also said that attending Jumu’ah is not obligatory for us. Isma’il bin Abdur Rahman says: I asked my grandmother, what is meant by the word {وَلَایَعْصِینَکَفِیمَعْرُوفٍ} mentioned in the hadith? She said that by this word, we were forbidden from wailing (lamenting).
Hadith Referenceالفتح الربانی / أهم أحداث السنة الأولى للهجرة / 10665
Hadith Gradingمحدثین:صحیح
Hadith Takhrij«حديث صحيح دون ذكر عمر فيه، أخرجه ابوداود: 1139 ، (انظر مسند أحمد ترقيم الرسالة: 20797 ترقیم بيت الأفكار الدولية: 21078»
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … From the context of this hadith, it is understood that this pledge (bay‘ah) was specific to the women of the Ansar. However, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam arrived in Madinah Munawwarah, various instances of taking pledges from both men and women continued.
In general, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to take the pledge from women in light of the following verse:
{ ٰٓیاَیُّہَاالنَّبِیُّاِذَاجَآئَکَالْمُؤْمِنٰتُیُبَایِعْنَکَعَلٰٓیاَنْلَّایُشْرِکْنَبِاللّٰہِشَیْئًاوَّلَایَسْرِقْنَوَلَایَزْنِیْنَوَلَایَقْتُلْنَاَوْلَادَھُنَّوَلَایَاْتِیْنَبِبُھْتَانٍیَّفْتَرِیْنَہٗبَیْنَاَیْدِیْھِنَّوَاَرْجُلِھِنَّوَلَایَعْصِیْنَکَفِیْمَعْرُوْفٍ} (Surah al-Mumtahanah: 12) That is: O Prophet! When believing women come to you to pledge that they will not associate anything with Allah, will not steal, will not commit adultery, will not kill their children, will not bring forth a slander they have invented between their hands and feet, and will not disobey you in what is right, then accept their pledge.
In the next hadith as well, this very verse is intended.