It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man came to the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and asked about the most virtuous deed. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Prayer. He said: Then which one? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Prayer. He said: Then which one? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Prayer. This happened three times. Then, when he asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) further questions, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Striving in the way of Allah (Jihad). The man said: My parents are also alive. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: I command you to do good to your parents. He said: By the One Who has sent you with the truth! I will surely, surely perform Jihad and surely, surely leave them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: You know best yourself.
Hadith Referenceالفتح الربانی / كتاب الصلاة / 1050
Hadith Gradingمحدثین:ضعیف
Hadith Takhrij«اسناده ضعيف، حيي بن عبد الله المعافري ضعيف۔ أخرجه ابن حبان: 1722، (انظر مسند أحمد ترقيم الرسالة: 662 ترقیم بيت الأفكار الدولية: 6602»
Brief Explanation
Benefits: … Hafiz Ibn Hajar said: The majority of scholars are of the opinion that if both parents, or even one of them, prevent their child from participating in jihad, then jihad becomes prohibited for him, provided that the parents are Muslims. The reason for this is that being dutiful to one’s parents is an individual obligation (fard ‘ayn), whereas jihad is a collective obligation (fard kifayah). However, if jihad becomes an individual obligation (fard ‘ayn), then the permission of the parents holds no weight. (Fath al-Bari: 6/140)
The most explicit narration regarding seeking the permission of parents for jihad has been mentioned by Hafiz Ibn Hajar, which is found in Abu Dawud (3530). Its wording is: “Go back and seek permission from your parents. If they permit you, then participate in jihad; otherwise, be good to them.” In its chain of narration, Abu al-Sam‘ narrates from Darraj, who narrates from Abu al-Haytham, and Hafiz Ibn Hajar has written in Taqrib, p. 98, that when Darraj narrates from Abu al-Haytham, he is weak. Therefore, this narration is weak. Apart from this, there are statements and arguments, but no explicit authentic hadith has come to my attention. In any case, for the condition of requiring the parents’ permission to participate in jihad, there should be a clear text. (Abdullah Rafiq)