الادب المفرد
Al-Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب السلامBook of Greeting (Salam)
بَابُ التَّسْلِيمِ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ
Chapter: Greeting women
Hadith 1047
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْحَمِيدِ بْنُ بَهْرَامَ، عَنْ شَهْرٍ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ أَسْمَاءَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَرَّ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ، وَعُصْبَةٌ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ قُعُودٌ، قَالَ بِيَدِهِ إِلَيْهِنَّ بِالسَّلاَمِ، فَقَالَ: ”إِيَّاكُنَّ وَكُفْرَانَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ، إِيَّاكُنَّ وَكُفْرَانَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ“، قَالَتْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ: نَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ، يَا نَبِيَّ اللهِ، مِنْ كُفْرَانِ نِعَمِ اللهِ، قَالَ: ”بَلَى إِنَّ إِحْدَاكُنَّ تَطُولُ أَيْمَتُهَا، ثُمَّ تَغْضَبُ الْغَضْبَةَ فَتَقُولُ: وَاللَّهِ مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْهُ سَاعَةً خَيْرًا قَطُّ، فَذَلِكَ كُفْرَانُ نِعَمِ اللهِ، وَذَلِكَ كُفْرَانُ نِعَمِ الْمُنْعِمِينَ.“
It is narrated from Sayyida Asma bint Yazid (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by the mosque where a group of women was sitting. The Prophet (peace be upon him) greeted them with a gesture of his hand and said: "Beware of being ungrateful to those who do good to you, do not be ungrateful to those who do good to you." One of them said: O Messenger of Allah! We seek Allah's refuge from being ungrateful for Allah's blessings. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Indeed, you do so. When the period of being unmarried is prolonged for any of you (and then she gets married), and she becomes angry with her husband, she says: By Allah! I have never seen any good from him, not even for a moment. This is being ungrateful for Allah's blessings, and this is being ungrateful to those who do good to you."
Hadith 1048
حَدَّثَنَا مَخْلَدٌ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا مُبَشِّرُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي غَنِيَّةَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ مُهَاجِرٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ ابْنَةِ يَزِيدَ الأَنْصَارِيَّةِ، مَرَّ بِيَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَأَنَا فِي جِوَارِ أَتْرَابٍ لِي، فَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْنَا وَقَالَ: ”إِيَّاكُنَّ وَكُفْرَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ“، وَكُنْتُ مِنْ أَجْرَئِهِنَّ عَلَى مَسْأَلَتِهِ، فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، وَمَا كُفْرُ الْمُنْعِمِينَ؟ قَالَ: ”لَعَلَّ إِحْدَاكُنَّ تَطُولُ أَيْمَتُهَا مِنْ أَبَوَيْهَا، ثُمَّ يَرْزُقُهَا اللَّهُ زَوْجًا، وَيَرْزُقُهَا مِنْهُ وَلَدًا، فَتَغْضَبُ الْغَضْبَةَ فَتَكْفُرُ فَتَقُولُ: مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْكَ خَيْرًا قَطُّ.“
Narrated from Sayyida Asma bint Yazid Ansariyyah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by me while I was sitting with my peers. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) greeted us with salam and said: "Beware of being ungrateful to those who show you favor and honor." Among them, I was the boldest in asking questions. I said: O Messenger of Allah! What is ingratitude to the benefactors? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It is when one of you remains unmarried for a long time between her parents, then Allah gives her a husband and grants her children from him, then she becomes angry and, being ungrateful, says: I have never seen any good in you."
