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الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتابBook of Gentleness in Matters
بَابُ التُّؤَدَةِ فِي الأمُورِChapter: Deliberation in Matters
Hadith 889
اُردوEn
وَعَنِ الْحَسَنِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو الْفُقَيْمِيِّ، عَنْ مُنْذِرٍ الثَّوْرِيِّ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ ابْنِ الْحَنَفِيَّةِ قَالَ: لَيْسَ بِحَكِيمٍ مَنْ لاَ يُعَاشِرُ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مَنْ لاَ يَجِدُ مِنْ مُعَاشَرَتِهِ بُدًّا، حَتَّى يَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ لَهُ فَرَجًا أَوْ مَخْرَجًا.
It is narrated from Muhammad ibn al-Hanafiyyah, may Allah have mercy on him, that he said: A person who cannot avoid mixing with certain people, and does not behave well with them, is not wise or intelligent. He should continue to get along with those whom it is necessary to live with, until Allah provides a way out for him.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
The point is that with those family members, friends, and servants, etc., with whom one has to live all the time, even if one does not get along with them, a person should exercise patience and manage matters in a good manner. There is no benefit in creating tension. Until an alternative solution becomes apparent, a person should manage cheerfully. The best principle for living a peaceful life is that, with whom you cannot contend, extend the hand of friendship towards them.
The point is that with those family members, friends, and servants, etc., with whom one has to live all the time, even if one does not get along with them, a person should exercise patience and manage matters in a good manner. There is no benefit in creating tension. Until an alternative solution becomes apparent, a person should manage cheerfully. The best principle for living a peaceful life is that, with whom you cannot contend, extend the hand of friendship towards them.
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 889
