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الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب صلة الرحمBook of Maintaining Ties of Kinship
بَابُ لَيْسَ الْوَاصِلُ بِالْمُكَافِئِChapter: The One Who Maintains Ties is Not Merely the One Who Recompenses
Hadith 68
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ كَثِيرٍ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، وَالْحَسَنِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، وَفِطْرٍ، عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو قَالَ سُفْيَانُ لَمْ يَرْفَعْهُ الأَعْمَشُ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَرَفَعَهُ الْحَسَنُ وَفِطْرٌ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: ”لَيْسَ الْوَاصِلُ بِالْمُكَافِئِ، وَلَكِنَّ الْوَاصِلَ الَّذِي إِذَا قُطِعَتْ رَحِمُهُ وَصَلَهَا.“
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The one who reciprocates equally is not the one who maintains the ties of kinship; rather, the one who truly maintains the ties of kinship is the one who, when relations are severed with him, still maintains the ties of kinship."
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
➊ The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not consider maintaining relationships and upholding ties of kinship on the basis of equality as true upholding of kinship (silat ar-rahm); rather, he called it merely repayment. But unfortunately, today even this situation seems to be missing among us. Severing of ties has become an epidemic; when one party cuts off relations, the other is already prepared to break them as well. Upholding ties of kinship has become limited only to personal interests. Even among brothers and sisters, if there are mutual interests, the relationships remain; otherwise, there is a state of extreme estrangement.
➋ “Join with the one who cuts you off”—this phrase is full of meaning, and this task is extremely difficult. However, as difficult as this task is, its reward is just as great. A wave in the river only has significance when it is with other waves; outside the river, it has no importance. A person’s life can only be beautiful when his relatives and close ones are with him. No matter how accomplished a person may be, if he is cut off from his relatives, his significance is lost. In society, only those people are respected who bury the mistakes of their relatives and do not withhold their own goodness because of the misdeeds and bad behavior of others. Such people have a high status with Allah as well.
➊ The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not consider maintaining relationships and upholding ties of kinship on the basis of equality as true upholding of kinship (silat ar-rahm); rather, he called it merely repayment. But unfortunately, today even this situation seems to be missing among us. Severing of ties has become an epidemic; when one party cuts off relations, the other is already prepared to break them as well. Upholding ties of kinship has become limited only to personal interests. Even among brothers and sisters, if there are mutual interests, the relationships remain; otherwise, there is a state of extreme estrangement.
➋ “Join with the one who cuts you off”—this phrase is full of meaning, and this task is extremely difficult. However, as difficult as this task is, its reward is just as great. A wave in the river only has significance when it is with other waves; outside the river, it has no importance. A person’s life can only be beautiful when his relatives and close ones are with him. No matter how accomplished a person may be, if he is cut off from his relatives, his significance is lost. In society, only those people are respected who bury the mistakes of their relatives and do not withhold their own goodness because of the misdeeds and bad behavior of others. Such people have a high status with Allah as well.
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 68
