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الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب صلة الرحمBook of Maintaining Ties of Kinship
بَابُ بِرِّ الأَقْرَبِ فَالأَقْرَبِChapter: Dutifulness to the Nearest Relatives First
Hadith 62
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ أَبِي لَيْلَى، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا أَيُّوبُ بْنُ جَابِرٍ الْحَنَفِيُّ، عَنْ آدَمَ بْنِ عَلِيٍّ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ: مَا أَنْفَقَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ وَأَهْلِهِ يَحْتَسِبُهَا إِلاَّ آجَرَهُ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى فِيهَا، وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ، فَإِنْ كَانَ فَضْلاً فَالأَقْرَبَ الأَقْرَبَ، وَإِنْ كَانَ فَضْلاً فَنَاوِلْ.
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that whatever a man spends on himself and his family, hoping for reward, Allah Almighty grants him reward for it. And begin spending with those whose maintenance is your responsibility, then if anything remains, spend on relatives according to the closeness of their relationship, and if there is still more left, then give it to others.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
➊ This narration is weak in its chain of transmission; however, the meaning contained within it is supported by an authentic hadith. (: al-Irwa, Hadith: 833)
➋ If a person spends on himself with the intention that by staying alive he will worship Allah, then this too will be counted as a good deed. Similarly, if he spends on his family with the intention that Allah has made him their provider, then this too is equivalent to charity (sadaqah). On the contrary, if a person does not take care of those under his responsibility and they are left wandering in distress, then this is considered a sin. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "It is sufficient for a person to be considered evil if he neglects those under his care." (Sunan Abi Dawud, Hadith: 1692)
➌ Spending on those under one’s care and on relatives undoubtedly brings double reward, but this does not mean that a person should only provide for the luxuries of his household and completely ignore other deserving individuals. In addition to spending on relatives, one must also take care of other needy people.
➍ Some people give to friends and acquaintances but act miserly towards their own wives and children, not even fulfilling their legitimate needs. This too is impermissible.
➊ This narration is weak in its chain of transmission; however, the meaning contained within it is supported by an authentic hadith. (: al-Irwa, Hadith: 833)
➋ If a person spends on himself with the intention that by staying alive he will worship Allah, then this too will be counted as a good deed. Similarly, if he spends on his family with the intention that Allah has made him their provider, then this too is equivalent to charity (sadaqah). On the contrary, if a person does not take care of those under his responsibility and they are left wandering in distress, then this is considered a sin. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "It is sufficient for a person to be considered evil if he neglects those under his care." (Sunan Abi Dawud, Hadith: 1692)
➌ Spending on those under one’s care and on relatives undoubtedly brings double reward, but this does not mean that a person should only provide for the luxuries of his household and completely ignore other deserving individuals. In addition to spending on relatives, one must also take care of other needy people.
➍ Some people give to friends and acquaintances but act miserly towards their own wives and children, not even fulfilling their legitimate needs. This too is impermissible.
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 62
