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الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتابBook of Spreading Good Among People
بَابُ يُنْمِي خَيْرًا بَيْنَ النَّاسِChapter: Spreading Goodness Among People
Hadith 385
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي اللَّيْثُ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي يُونُسُ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي حُمَيْدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، أَنَّ أُمَّهَ أُمَّ كُلْثُومِ ابْنَةَ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ أَبِي مُعَيْطٍ أَخْبَرَتْهُ، أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: ”لَيْسَ الْكَذَّابُ الَّذِي يُصْلِحُ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ، فَيَقُولُ خَيْرًا، أَوْ يَنْمِي خَيْرًا“، قَالَتْ: وَلَمْ أَسْمَعْهُ يُرَخِّصُ فِي شَيْءٍ مِمَّا يَقُولُ النَّاسُ مِنَ الْكَذِبِ إِلاَّ فِي ثَلاَثٍ: الإِصْلاَحِ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ، وَحَدِيثِ الرَّجُلِ امْرَأَتَهُ، وَحَدِيثِ الْمَرْأَةِ زَوْجَهَا.
Sayyida Umm Kulthum bint Uqbah bin Abi Mu'it (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: "He is not a liar who reconciles between people, so he says good things or spreads good things." She says: I did not hear the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) permit lying except in three cases: to reconcile between people, a husband to his wife, and a wife to her husband.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
➊ That which is contrary to reality is called a lie, whether the speaker does so deliberately or out of ignorance; in both cases, it is still a lie. However, if it is due to ignorance, there will be no sin. In the light of the Noble Qur’an, every statement for which there is no evidence is a lie.
➋ Imam Nawawi rahimahullah states that lying is absolutely forbidden (al-Adhkar); however, due to necessity, some situations are exempted, among which three are mentioned in the above hadith.
The first situation is that it is permissible to say something contrary to reality in order to reconcile between people, provided the intention is reform, not to cause corruption. This too is a lie, but in this specific case, permission has been granted.
➌ The meaning of “yanmi khayran” is that a person conveys someone’s good words to others, but does not convey bad words; rather, he remains silent about them. In this case, it will not be considered a lie, because he has not said anything contrary to reality.
➍ The relationship between husband and wife should be based on truthfulness and love. They should be sincere with each other, but sometimes the love and affection in the heart is not to the degree that the other party desires. In such a case, expressing more love than what is in the heart is permissible so that the marital bond remains intact for a longer time and the other party’s character remains upright.
➎ This hadith does not mean at all that husband and wife can lie to each other in every matter. Rather, lying is only permitted in a specific situation for the sake of avoiding discord and for the purpose of reconciliation.
➊ That which is contrary to reality is called a lie, whether the speaker does so deliberately or out of ignorance; in both cases, it is still a lie. However, if it is due to ignorance, there will be no sin. In the light of the Noble Qur’an, every statement for which there is no evidence is a lie.
➋ Imam Nawawi rahimahullah states that lying is absolutely forbidden (al-Adhkar); however, due to necessity, some situations are exempted, among which three are mentioned in the above hadith.
The first situation is that it is permissible to say something contrary to reality in order to reconcile between people, provided the intention is reform, not to cause corruption. This too is a lie, but in this specific case, permission has been granted.
➌ The meaning of “yanmi khayran” is that a person conveys someone’s good words to others, but does not convey bad words; rather, he remains silent about them. In this case, it will not be considered a lie, because he has not said anything contrary to reality.
➍ The relationship between husband and wife should be based on truthfulness and love. They should be sincere with each other, but sometimes the love and affection in the heart is not to the degree that the other party desires. In such a case, expressing more love than what is in the heart is permissible so that the marital bond remains intact for a longer time and the other party’s character remains upright.
➎ This hadith does not mean at all that husband and wife can lie to each other in every matter. Rather, lying is only permitted in a specific situation for the sake of avoiding discord and for the purpose of reconciliation.
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 385
