الادب المفرد
Al-Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب الأكابرBook of the Elders
بَابُ تَسْوِيدِ الأكَابِرِChapter: Giving Status to the Elders
Hadith 361
حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ مَرْزُوقٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ قَتَادَةَ: سَمِعْتُ مُطَرِّفًا، عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ قَيْسِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ، أَنَّ أَبَاهُ أَوْصَى عِنْدَ مَوْتِهِ بَنِيهِ فَقَالَ: اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَسَوِّدُوا أَكْبَرُكُمْ، فَإِنَّ الْقَوْمَ إِذَا سَوَّدُوا أَكْبَرَهُمْ خَلَفُوا أَبَاهُمْ، وَإِذَا سَوَّدُوا أَصْغَرَهُمْ أَزْرَى بِهِمْ ذَلِكَ فِي أَكْفَائِهِمْ. وَعَلَيْكُمْ بِالْمَالِ وَاصْطِنَاعِهِ، فَإِنَّهُ مَنْبَهَةٌ لِلْكَرِيمِ، وَيُسْتَغْنَى بِهِ عَنِ اللَّئِيمِ. وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَمَسْأَلَةَ النَّاسِ، فَإِنَّهَا مِنْ آخِرِ كَسْبِ الرَّجُلِ. وَإِذَا مُتُّ فَلاَ تَنُوحُوا، فَإِنَّهُ لَمْ يُنَحْ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ. وَإِذَا مُتُّ فَادْفِنُونِي بِأَرْضٍ لاَ يَشْعُرُ بِدَفْنِي بَكْرُ بْنُ وَائِلٍ، فَإِنِّي كُنْتُ أُغَافِلُهُمْ فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ.
It is narrated from Hakim bin Qais bin Asim (may Allah have mercy on him) that his father, Sayyiduna Qais bin Asim (may Allah be pleased with him), while advising his sons at the time of his death, said: Fear Allah, and appoint as your leader the eldest among you. Indeed, any people who appoint their elder as their leader, they truly establish their father’s rightful successor, and when they appoint the younger as their leader, this causes all of them to be disgraced among their peers. And be mindful of earning wealth and increasing it through lawful means, for this is a matter of honor for a noble person, and through it he becomes independent of a lowly person. And do not ask people (for anything), for this is the last resort for earning wealth (that when a person is completely compelled, then he asks someone), and when I die, do not wail over me, for wailing was not done over the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). And after my death, bury me in such a place that Bakar bin Wa’il does not know of it, for in the days of ignorance I used to attack them unawares.
