الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب الوالدينBook of Parents
بَابُ بُكَاءِ الْوَالِدَيْنِChapter: The Weeping of Parents
Hadith 31
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ زِيَادِ بْنِ مِخْرَاقٍ، عَنْ طَيْسَلَةَ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ ابْنَ عُمَرَ يَقُولُ: بُكَاءُ الْوَالِدَيْنِ مِنَ الْعُقُوقِ وَالْكَبَائِرِ.
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), he said: Making one's parents weep is among disobedience and major sins.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
➊ Its meaning is that if children, due to any of their actions, cause harm to their parents and make them weep, then such an act is disobedience and a major sin (kabirah sin).
➋ This narration from Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (radi Allahu anhuma) has already been discussed in detail in Hadith 8.
➌ Angering the parents is to anger Allah, and it is narrated from Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) to the extent that if a person angers his parents, then Allah also remains angry with that person until he pleases his parents. Someone asked: Even if the parents are being unjust? Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) replied: Yes! Even if they are being unjust. (Nadhrah al-Na‘im, referenced in Mishkat: 10/5016)
➍ Making the parents weep is such a grave crime that the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) forbade a person who had made his parents weep from going out for jihad, and said to him: Go and make them laugh just as you made them weep. (Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 2782)
➊ Its meaning is that if children, due to any of their actions, cause harm to their parents and make them weep, then such an act is disobedience and a major sin (kabirah sin).
➋ This narration from Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (radi Allahu anhuma) has already been discussed in detail in Hadith 8.
➌ Angering the parents is to anger Allah, and it is narrated from Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) to the extent that if a person angers his parents, then Allah also remains angry with that person until he pleases his parents. Someone asked: Even if the parents are being unjust? Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) replied: Yes! Even if they are being unjust. (Nadhrah al-Na‘im, referenced in Mishkat: 10/5016)
➍ Making the parents weep is such a grave crime that the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) forbade a person who had made his parents weep from going out for jihad, and said to him: Go and make them laugh just as you made them weep. (Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 2782)
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 31
