الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتابBook of Virtue in Losing a Child
بَابُ مَنْ مَاتَ لَهُ سَقْطٌChapter: One Whose Child is Stillborn
Hadith 155
قَالَ: وَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ”مَا تَعُدُّونَ فِيكُمُ الصُّرَعَةَ؟“ قَالُوا: هُوَ الَّذِي لاَ تَصْرَعُهُ الرِّجَالُ، فَقَالَ: ”لَا، وَلَكِنَّ الصُّرَعَةَ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ.“
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Whom do you call a strong man (wrestler)?" The companions replied: The one whom no one else can overpower. He (peace be upon him) said: "No, the true strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger."
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
A person’s greatness and nobility lie in acting with forbearance and patience. At the time of anger, he should keep his senses under control. A person who becomes furious in anger can never attain a high status in society. This is because what kind of bravery is it if one cannot control oneself? In other words, a person who restrains his anger saves himself from many mishaps and lives an honorable life, whereas one who loses self-control brings disgrace upon himself at every step, and even if someone respects him, it is only to protect themselves from his harm. Therefore, how can such a person be called a champion or brave?
A person’s greatness and nobility lie in acting with forbearance and patience. At the time of anger, he should keep his senses under control. A person who becomes furious in anger can never attain a high status in society. This is because what kind of bravery is it if one cannot control oneself? In other words, a person who restrains his anger saves himself from many mishaps and lives an honorable life, whereas one who loses self-control brings disgrace upon himself at every step, and even if someone respects him, it is only to protect themselves from his harm. Therefore, how can such a person be called a champion or brave?
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 155
