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الادب المفرد
Adab al-Mufrad
كتاب الغضبBook of Anger
بَابُ أَحْبِبْ حَبِيبَكَ هَوْنًا مَاLove your beloved moderately
Hadith 1321
اُردوEn
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا مَرْوَانُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ الْكِنْدِيُّ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ عَلِيًّا يَقُولُ لِابْنِ الْكَوَّاءِ: هَلْ تَدْرِي مَا قَالَ الأَوَّلُ؟ أَحْبِبْ حَبِيبَكَ هَوْنًا مَا، عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ بَغِيضَكَ يَوْمًا مَا، وَأَبْغِضْ بَغِيضَكَ هَوْنًا مَا، عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ حَبِيبَكَ يَوْمًا مَا.
It is narrated from Ubaid Kindi, may Allah have mercy on him, that I heard Sayyiduna Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, saying to Ibn Kawwa: Do you know what the people of old used to say? (He said:) When you love someone, do not go to extremes, for it is possible that the same person may become your enemy tomorrow. And when you have enmity with someone, do not go to extremes in your enmity either. It is possible that the same person may become your friend one day.
Explanation & Benefits
Shaykh Maulana Usman Muneeb
Benefits and Issues:
➊ This narration is also authentic in its marfu‘ (attributed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) form. Shaykh al-Albani rahimahullah has also declared it authentic as a statement of the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. (Ghayat al-Maram: 372)
➋ The meaning of the hadith is that love and enmity should also be within limits. It is absolutely wrong to love someone in such a way that, if tomorrow that person separates from you, you are unable to bear it. Or that you entrust your secrets to him to such an extent that, if you later become opposed to each other, it becomes a problem for you.
Similarly, enmity with someone does not at all mean that a person should break all boundaries of good character, and if at some occasion you have to come together, you are so ashamed that you cannot even face each other.
➊ This narration is also authentic in its marfu‘ (attributed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) form. Shaykh al-Albani rahimahullah has also declared it authentic as a statement of the Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. (Ghayat al-Maram: 372)
➋ The meaning of the hadith is that love and enmity should also be within limits. It is absolutely wrong to love someone in such a way that, if tomorrow that person separates from you, you are unable to bear it. Or that you entrust your secrets to him to such an extent that, if you later become opposed to each other, it becomes a problem for you.
Similarly, enmity with someone does not at all mean that a person should break all boundaries of good character, and if at some occasion you have to come together, you are so ashamed that you cannot even face each other.
Source: Fadlullah al-Ahad: Urdu Commentary on al-Adab al-Mufrad, Page: 1321
