سنن ابي داود
Sunan Abi Dawud
كتاب الأدب
General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)
باب فِي حُسْنِ الْعِشْرَةِ
Chapter: Regarding good interactions with people.
Hadith 4788
حَدَّثَنَا عُثْمَانُ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْحَمِيدِ يَعْنِي الْحِمَّانِيَّ ، حَدَّثَنَا الْأَعْمَشُ ، عَنْ مُسْلِمٍ ، عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَتْ : " كَانَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا بَلَغَهُ عَنِ الرَّجُلِ الشَّيْءُ ، لَمْ يَقُلْ : مَا بَالُ فُلَانٍ يَقُولُ ، وَلَكِنْ يَقُولُ : مَا بَالُ أَقْوَامٍ يَقُولُونَ كَذَا وَكَذَا " .
Narrated Aishah, Ummul Muminin: When the Prophet ﷺ was informed of anything of a certain man, he would not say: What is the matter with so and so that he says? But he would say: What is the matter with the people that they say such and such?
Hadith 4789
حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ بْنِ مَيْسَرَةَ ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا سَلْمٌ الْعَلَوِيُّ ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ ، " أَنَّ رَجُلًا دَخَلَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعَلَيْهِ أَثَرُ صُفْرَةٍ ، وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَلَّمَا يُوَاجِهُ رَجُلًا فِي وَجْهِهِ بِشَيْءٍ يَكْرَهُهُ ، فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ ، قَالَ : لَوْ أَمَرْتُمْ هَذَا أَنْ يَغْسِلَ ذَا عَنْهُ " ، قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُد : سَلْمٌ لَيْسَ هُوَ عَلَوِيًّا ، كَانَ يُبْصِرُ فِي النُّجُومِ ، وَشَهِدَ عِنْدَ عَدِيِّ بْنِ أَرْطَاةَ عَلَى رُؤْيَةِ الْهِلَالِ ، فَلَمْ يُجِزْ شَهَادَتَهُ .
Narrated Anas ibn Malik: A man who had the mark of yellowness on him came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ rarely mentioned anything of a man which he disliked before him. When he went out, he said: Would that you asked him to wash it from him. Abu Dawud said: Salam is not 'Alawi (from the descendants of Ali). He used to foretell events by stars. He bore witness before Abi bin Arafat to the visibility of moon, but he did not accept his witness.
Hadith 4790
حَدَّثَنَا نَصْرُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ ، أَخْبَرَنِي أَبُو أَحْمَدَ ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ ، عَنْ الْحَجَّاجِ بْنِ فُرَافِصَةَ ، عَنْ رَجُلٍ ، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ . ح وحَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُتَوَكِّلِ الْعَسْقَلَانِيُّ ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ ، أَخْبَرَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ رَافِعٍ ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ أَبِي كَثِيرٍ ، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَفَعَاهُ جَمِيعًا ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : الْمُؤْمِنُ غِرٌّ كَرِيمٌ ، وَالْفَاجِرُ خِبٌّ لَئِيمٌ " .
Narrated Abu Salamah ; Abu Hurairah: The Prophet ﷺ said: The believer is simple and generous, but the profligate is deceitful and ignoble.
Hadith 4791
حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ ، عَنْ ابْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَتْ : " اسْتَأْذَنَ رَجُلٌ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَقَالَ : بِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ ، أَوْ بِئْسَ رَجُلُ الْعَشِيرَةِ ، ثُمَّ قَالَ : ائْذَنُوا لَهُ ، فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ أَلَانَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ ، فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ وَقَدْ قُلْتَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتَ ، قَالَ : إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مَنْزِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ وَدَعَهُ ، أَوْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ لِاتِّقَاءِ فُحْشِهِ " .
Aishah said: A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and he said: He is a bad son of the tribe, or: He is a bad member of the tribe. He then said: Give him permission. Then when he entered, he spoke to him leniently. Aishah asked: Messenger of Allah! You spoke to him leniently while you said about him what you said! He replied: The one who will have the worst position in Allah’s estimation on the day of resurrection will be the one whom people left alone for fear of his ribaldry.
Hadith 4792
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيل ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْروٍ ، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ : " أَنَّ رَجُلًا اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ ، فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطَ إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَكَلَّمَهُ ، فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ ، قُلْتُ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ، لَمَّا اسْتَأْذَنَ ؟ قُلْتَ : بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ ، فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطْتَ إِلَيْهِ ، فَقَالَ : يَا عَائِشَةُ ، إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْفَاحِشَ الْمُتَفَحِّشَ " .
Narrated Aishah, Ummul Muminin: A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and the Prophet ﷺ said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed, I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aishah! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.
Hadith 4793
حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّاسٌ الْعَنْبَرِيُّ ، حَدَّثَنَا أَسْوَدُ بْنُ عَامِرٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا شَرِيكٌ ، عَنْ الْأَعْمَشِ ، عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ فِي هَذِهِ الْقِصَّةِ ، قَالَتْ : فَقَالَ ، تَعْنِي النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : يَا عَائِشَةُ ، إِنَّ مِنْ شِرَارِ النَّاسِ الَّذِينَ يُكْرَمُونَ اتِّقَاءَ أَلْسِنَتِهِمْ .
The tradition mentioned above has been transmitted by Aishah through a different chain of narrators. This version has: The Prophet ﷺ said: Aishah! There are some bad people who are respected for fear of their tongues.
Hadith 4794
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو قَطَنٍ ، أَخْبَرَنَا مُبَارَكٌ ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ ، قَالَ : مَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلًا الْتَقَمَ أُذُنَ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَيُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ ، حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يُنَحِّي رَأَسَهُ ، وَمَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلًا أَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ فَتَرَكَ يَدَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يَدَعُ يَدَهُ " .
Narrated Anas ibn Malik: I never said that when any man brought his mouth to the ear of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and he withdrew his head until the man himself withdrew his head, and I never saw that when any man took him by his hand and he withdrew his hand, until the man himself withdrew his hand.
